Iunno man. Social anxiety? Wouldn't know. Don't have that issue.

But anxiety is real and you should try being more empathetic, even if you don't understand it.

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Yeah, there are people that are good at talking behind the screen and they are just socially awkward in person. I know people that are grown up adults 40s+ and you just cannot carry an engaging conversation with them in person (likely part of the reason why they are still single). Then I know some that are too pussy to make a single move and never had a girlfriend in their entire life. To me, what the fuck is there to ever lose? If it doesn't work out, then move the fuck on. These are the people that just should stay single (can't just expect someone to hand you pussy in front of your face).

if this aint the truth, i dont know what is.
well said.

We have conflicting schedules and the heat dome didn't help.

We did end up meeting and we were able to talk beyond the chat messages getting deeper into our personal lives as well as life itself. It was good, it was refreshing and it felt like 2018 again. I was already aware she was interested in me (hence asking ME out) so I tried to expand on my qualities that made her interested in me in the first place.

In addition to talking, we held hands, she felt my heartbeat and I gazed into her eyes with that warm smile only matched by the 32 degree humidex.

The highlight was when we got ice cream. I asked her if she wanted to try some of my flavour. She said 'sure'. So, I took a mouthful of mine and kissed her with it. Was about 10 seconds long. I waited for her eyes to close and her lips to relax as that sign of approval. I was a bit anxious and it was a long 10 seconds but despite her initial shock, she loved the spontaneity of it. Her personality was even warmer after that moment.

She wants to meet again.

Damn that is a good move! Nicely done~! :thumbsup:

Look at this Casanova, very nice man.

Hand holding right from the jump, and I like that ice cream move, that's some big dick energy.

I'm impressed. A good date in scorching heat at that, not an easy task.

Sounds like you'll hit the second/third date no problem :lol

I want more updates :thumbsup:

Sorry, I'm recovering from surgery last Sunday. Short term recovery is 3 weeks, long term recovery is 1-4 months.

She messaged me throughout this past week, checking up on me and we talked here and there (when I wasn't under the influence).

I remember she sent me a message asking me a question and I nodded off on my recliner for 3 hours. I eventually responded, telling her what happened and she replied with 'Awe, I wish I could be there to help you recover faster <3'. I responded with 'Your words are enough medicine for me' and she replied with '<3<3<3'.

She just had her second dose this past Friday and has developed a fever and dehydration so I've been sending her warm messages too. Basically, we are mutually albeit vocally taking care of each other at this point.

Now you've hooked her emotionally, just gotta give her the good d to secure the package

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is this real life?

or have I just become a sour old man that calls bullshit on all this because I don't believe in Disney movies anymore?

Yeah it reads a little cheesy to me. Cute af tho.

But I can empathize with you on the sourness.

If it is real, enjoy it while it lasts.

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Is this just fantasy?
Caught in a landside,
No escape from reality

I'm just a poor boy, I need no sympathy
Because I'm easy come, easy go, little high, little low
Any way the wind blows doesn't really matter to me, to me

Thanks to those that gave suggestions/tips on couples therapy. I went with my partner to a registered psychologist for therapy sessions and have come to the conclusion that we are no longer going to continue our relationship. Going to take some time to heal from 7+ years with her.

its common rule but sometimes salt looks like sugar

"Don't date a women who aint got shit to lose" - Revscene 2015 member.


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What if that movie is Inside Out? :troll:

I know how you feel, believe me. I would feel the same way. I mean like how can pieces fall together so seamlessly and actually make a complete picture? It sounds scripted like a bad episode of WWE Smackdown!

Can I chalk it up to fate? Some omnipotent being that gives a shit about me?

Ehhh

I chalk it up to a person who knew what she wanted when she was initially scouting me. My theory is she sees parts of me in her because when I talk to her, I see parts of me in her (NO INNUENDO!)

Some lurker out there might think this girl might be clingy and creepy but I can assure she's not. She's laid back, has an amazing body but her mind is just as developed. I really couldn't ask for a better human being to interact with. Typically with women, you pick two qualities out of 3 available. She seems to have all three with no side effects.

PS: SHE HATES DRAMA AND SO DO I :h5:

The cynic in me says things can change in the future. Believe me, I've been there. But for now, I'm enjoying this ride.

My wounds are closing, the city is opening. I'm seizing this opportunity and riding it right into the next decade.

Does she really hate drama or does she just say she does because she's in drama all the time

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What were/was the unreconcilable issues if you don't mind answering?

Update:

We haven't seen each other in at least 2 weeks. My healing is at the point where I can meet her comfortably and without issue. She told me she'll be going away this weekend with family for 2 weeks.

If we don't see each other now, it'll be another 2 weeks which makes it 4 weeks total since seeing each other. She's also been really busy this week doing prep stuff so she's been hard to get a hold of as well.

Then...

On Tuesday night (around 9pm), I got a text from her. She wants to come over to my place. She's only 15 min away so I say yes. She hops into an uber and before I know it, she's at my front door. I invite her in and we sit and talk on my reclining couch. The deepest most introspective chat we had to date. Getting closer and closer till we were in a full on embrace while going from talking at normal inside decibel to whispering softly into each other's ear. Time flew like a Concorde and before we knew it, it was 1:30am.

We did a little 'fooling around' after that and I drove her home.

This meet-up was the one we both needed as we were able to talk and get a good solid foundation on where we stood.

I asked her straight up: "of all the guys out there, why were you so interested in me?"

She replied with: "Because you're most human BEING I ever met"

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahs

I used to be like this all the time when I was younger, so worried what everyone thinks and insecure and low confidence... got set up like shit by my parents and an overbearing dad... I would stop talking like this tbh, seen you mention similar "I doubt that you really like me" type questions that show a lack of confidence in yourself...

Just trust the process, she's at your damn place cuz she wanted to come over... just let it be... you don't need to check some boxes knowing what you have that some other guy doesn't... you just made her think about other dudes when she's with you... what's the win in that right? Have a little faith!!!

(I know, it's easy to say and harder to do... but I think it needs to be done!)

Rs Chat is so dead now, i remember the times where 3am chats were still a thing, how we have grown, tbh the whole rs forum is kind of dead, i just want to go back in time to see the forums alive again; I want to go to those Sunday night meets at ironwood, the boob meets, spring/summer meets... those were the days.

The difference between me and her.
I give her shit back right away. Washed all her clothes. Folded nicely into a box.
I get my shit back two months later with mold in it......

Anyone with kids know those little people can turn your and your spouse life upside down, huge lifestyle change (could be good or could be bad). Having a kid with autism or any special needs is that x10. Mad props to those parents who keep it cool and carry on