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05-14-2022, 08:27 PM
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld  Caveat on "So this could include, being fit, taking care of your skin, money, hobbies, well dressed, personality."
If you gonna be fit, smooth skin, money, hobbies, dress, personality(faking it).
Can you keep it up for the rest of your life should you get married?
Do something you can keep up with and find someone who will accept you for that. Can realistically hit the gym 3x a week, can only skin care once a month, hobbies are D&D on wednesday nights, sweat pants are the pref dress? Sure show your best self on the first date or two but make sure she gets the real you picture fast.
Be a 6/10 90% of the time instead of a 8/10 10% of the time and the 10% is the initial phase. | I learned this the hard way, but not with dating.
I worked super hard in undergrad to make it to a master's degree at UBC. When I got there, I couldn't keep up with the intensity I was going and I ended up withdrawing from the program.
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05-15-2022, 11:42 AM
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld Do something you can keep up with and find someone who will accept you for that. Can realistically hit the gym 3x a week, can only skin care once a month, hobbies are D&D on wednesday nights, sweat pants are the pref dress? Sure show your best self on the first date or two but make sure she gets the real you picture fast.
Be a 6/10 90% of the time instead of a 8/10 10% of the time and the 10% is the initial phase. | I agree, your lifestyle will usually mesh with people in similar lifestyles. For example, if you want someone who's super fit and attractive, odds are you'll both are hitting the gym 4 - 6x a week. Wearing only sweat pants out to events won't cut it. Your diets aren't going to be eating out 7x a week. Quote:
Originally Posted by instantneedles I learned this the hard way, but not with dating.
I worked super hard in undergrad to make it to a master's degree at UBC. When I got there, I couldn't keep up with the intensity I was going and I ended up withdrawing from the program. |
I'm a big believer that pushing yourself to be the best version of yourself in all aspects is way easier than living life, turning 35 and realizing you missed out on all the things you could've experienced or accomplished in the last 15 years.
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05-16-2022, 12:30 AM
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#25203 | | Ask me about killing a hobo and dumping his body in the river
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld Caveat on "So this could include, being fit, taking care of your skin, money, hobbies, well dressed, personality."
If you gonna be fit, smooth skin, money, hobbies, dress, personality(faking it).
Can you keep it up for the rest of your life should you get married?
Do something you can keep up with and find someone who will accept you for that. Can realistically hit the gym 3x a week, can only skin care once a month, hobbies are D&D on wednesday nights, sweat pants are the pref dress? Sure show your best self on the first date or two but make sure she gets the real you picture fast.
Be a 6/10 90% of the time instead of a 8/10 10% of the time and the 10% is the initial phase. | i can go to the gym 4x a week its just I'm lazy, but i think i need time to find myself again. and i would rate myself a hard 5/10 most times. Quote:
Originally Posted by Gerbs What questions do you have?
With dating the biggest realization everyone needs to have is that everyone has their own value in the dating marketplace. If you're a 6/10, you can probably afford a 6/10 or below. There are exceptions where you can negotiate a 7/10 but you can't have those IG models on social media.
So in order to do really well in dating, you have to work on yourself to be the best version of yourself and be someone the person you want to attract wants to date. So this could include, being fit, taking care of your skin, money, hobbies, well dressed, personality. | tbh i think I'm a 5/10 most times my ex i would rate her as a 8/10, and i met her through work. Most of the time I'm dressed casual really depends on situations, but i do love wearing suit but i feel like its over the top, and what is skin care? i just wash my face with water, for hobbies i jump ship all the time, ill enjoy one thing for a while then get bored and go to the next thing, personality my friends think its alright I'm very forgiving basically a push over and east to talk to the only problem i have is that I don't talk to people first.
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05-16-2022, 09:04 AM
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As an unrelated topic of discussion, I'd say that I'd almost always rate one of my ex'es as at least a 9/10 -- sometimes an 11/10 -- whereas I'd often only rate myself as a 5/10, but she'd tell me that I'm at least an 8/10 anyway. 
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05-16-2022, 09:09 AM
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How old are you folks anyway? (serious question).
Over the long term, it's what's between the ears that counts. Everything else can be 'fixed' through makeovers, plastic surgery, botox (the dirty secret of many 30 and 40-somethings), and healthy living.
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05-16-2022, 12:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Traum As an unrelated topic of discussion, I'd say that I'd almost always rate one of my ex'es as at least a 9/10 -- sometimes an 11/10 -- whereas I'd often only rate myself as a 5/10, but she'd tell me that I'm at least an 8/10 anyway.
I'll see myself out now... | 9/10, 11/10 
Come on man, that's cute though.
There are very few 9's and 10's, period.
My girlfriend is very beautiful and one time we were talking numbers, and I said she's a 8.5 (which I felt was great), needless to say she didn't like that LOL.
This doesn't compute the same way to most women, she thought I should rate her a 10, whereas in my mind, 10's don't really exist -- to be a 10 would be EXTREMELY rare and encompass a bunch of other factors outside of simple beauty IMHO.
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05-16-2022, 01:26 PM
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#25207 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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Originally Posted by mikemhg
This doesn't compute the same way to most women, she thought I should rate her a 10, whereas in my mind, 10's don't really exist -- to be a 10 would be EXTREMELY rare and encompass a bunch of other factors outside of simple beauty IMHO.
That logic does not apply to most women [emoji38]
| Can confirm. I was talking to my coworker about how 10s don't exist, and she was like don't you think your S/O should be a 10/10+?
100% agreed with you. But ya women don't understand that objectively, 10s don't exist lol
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05-16-2022, 02:58 PM
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Originally Posted by mikemhg 9/10, 11/10
Come on man, that's cute though.
There are very few 9's and 10's, period. | Most girls think they're a 9/10+ who deserves a 9/10+ guy.
When in reality they're a 6 at best. But they'll never ever consider a 6/10 guy lol They will die alone  .
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05-17-2022, 12:30 PM
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i'd hate judging looks alone if the voice is annoying or extremely stupidly uneducated. 
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05-17-2022, 08:58 PM
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i talked to a girl at work today, we hit it off, until she told me shes like 22... i turn 29 this year i don't want to be the pedo.
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05-17-2022, 09:06 PM
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#25211 | | Ask me about killing a hobo and dumping his body in the river
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for some reason for the love of got i cant attract people + or - 2 years of me, but i can somehow attract jailbaits... is there something wrong with me
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[18-02, 21:40] ICE BOY please come over and wrap me in your foreskin.
[18-10, 14:35] ZN6 Evo if you here: Say what your heart feels, cause those who matter don't mind, and those who mind shouldn't matter
[26-07, 14:46] ZN6 I gonna nibble on your scrotum
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05-18-2022, 08:09 AM
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Originally Posted by EvoLove i talked to a girl at work today, we hit it off, until she told me shes like 22... i turn 29 this year i don't want to be the pedo. | Dude, you're fucking retarded.
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05-18-2022, 08:49 AM
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#25213 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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Originally Posted by CivicBlues Dude, you're fucking retarded. | He's probably right when he rated himself 5/10 above LOL.
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05-18-2022, 09:36 PM
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Originally Posted by CivicBlues Dude, you're fucking retarded. | bruh i dont ask how old are you right away, i work in a warehouse full of older people of all the warehouse people im the youngest there, well i assumed i was the youngest lol
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[18-02, 21:40] ICE BOY please come over and wrap me in your foreskin.
[18-10, 14:35] ZN6 Evo if you here: Say what your heart feels, cause those who matter don't mind, and those who mind shouldn't matter
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05-19-2022, 10:47 AM
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Originally Posted by EvoLove bruh i dont ask how old are you right away, i work in a warehouse full of older people of all the warehouse people im the youngest there, well i assumed i was the youngest lol | totally missing the point there bud.... it wasn't about assuming she was older than you thought.
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05-19-2022, 11:15 AM
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#25216 | | Ask me about killing a hobo and dumping his body in the river
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Originally Posted by nabs totally missing the point there bud.... it wasn't about assuming she was older than you thought. | What was the point?
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[18-02, 21:40] ICE BOY please come over and wrap me in your foreskin.
[18-10, 14:35] ZN6 Evo if you here: Say what your heart feels, cause those who matter don't mind, and those who mind shouldn't matter
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05-19-2022, 12:45 PM
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Why the fuck does it matter lmao. Next month my buddy, 34, is marrying my other friend, 26. 8 year difference, but it works for them.
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05-19-2022, 01:08 PM
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Originally Posted by EvoLove for some reason for the love of got i cant attract people + or - 2 years of me, but i can somehow attract jailbaits... is there something wrong with me | Will try to put this in a civil way. I see what the other poster was trying to insinuate and probably not the best approach.
You note that youre hitting it off with someone, that ended up being 22 years old. You also note that you find yourself unable to attract people your own age or +/- 2 years. First of all, the numbers don't really matter.
Secondly, adding one and one together, one could come to a logical conclusion that your mental age maybe isn't matching your physical age, and that's very normal imo. Maybe your mental age is more in the 24 range, and the other party is 22 but in the similar 23 to 24 range mentally.
Long story short. It's not about the numbers. if it works, it works. Up to you to recognize it from a different perspective or reject the notion based on something outside your control really.
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05-19-2022, 02:32 PM
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#25219 | | Ask me about killing a hobo and dumping his body in the river
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Originally Posted by Teriyaki Will try to put this in a civil way. I see what the other poster was trying to insinuate and probably not the best approach.
You note that youre hitting it off with someone, that ended up being 22 years old. You also note that you find yourself unable to attract people your own age or +/- 2 years. First of all, the numbers don't really matter.
Secondly, adding one and one together, one could come to a logical conclusion that your mental age maybe isn't matching your physical age, and that's very normal imo. Maybe your mental age is more in the 24 range, and the other party is 22 but in the similar 23 to 24 range mentally.
Long story short. It's not about the numbers. if it works, it works. Up to you to recognize it from a different perspective or reject the notion based on something outside your control really. | Ahh thank you for explaining, she actually asked during lunch today if I wanted to hit the gym with her next week Wednesday and grab dinner after. I guess I got plans on Wednesday now.
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05-19-2022, 03:35 PM
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The story evolves!
But that comment earlier was dumb lol
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05-20-2022, 06:47 AM
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Originally Posted by CivicBlues Dude, you're fucking retarded. | Meets the half plus seven rule! 
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05-22-2022, 12:38 AM
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Originally Posted by EvoLove for some reason for the love of got i cant attract people + or - 2 years of me, but i can somehow attract jailbaits... is there something wrong with me | open up your range
since you are 29
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30+ girls don't want a youger dude. you ready to be baby daddy? she's ticking.
younger girls want an older guy. they think you are mature. your 5/10 seems like a 7/10.
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05-24-2022, 01:52 PM
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Went clubbing on Sunday for the first time since 2018. Tons of baby faces in there, it was weird. That 6-7 year age difference is defs more weird from 19-26.. yuck.
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05-26-2022, 01:53 AM
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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS Went clubbing on Sunday for the first time since 2018. Tons of baby faces in there, it was weird. That 6-7 year age difference is defs more weird from 19-26.. yuck. | now you know what i meant when I said im 29 and she's 22, it was nice at first until you know she's 22
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#25225 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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Originally Posted by EvoLove now you know what i meant when I said im 29 and she's 22, it was nice at first until you know she's 22 | Less weird at work, more weird in the club seeing all these jail bait tho.
Hey man if you don't want her, send her my way. I drive a type r yenno, kek.
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