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Originally Posted by hongy
(Post 7160400)
I'm 17 I don't want responsibilities, I don't want to have to deal with all of this. I don't want to have to shoulder so much from my family. I'm giving up my goals and dreams because to my family they're useless, I'm not even going to apply for UoT anymore... They say they will understand because they're my parents yet when I remind them I'm applying out of province my father's initial reaction is why, don't, its pointless so don't waste my time and money. My mother told me I'm on my own. They're not going to support me if I study psychology. Rather I should go onto business or commerce since my family can help me in the future with that. My mother even yelled at me for not reminding her of parent teacher meetings... and being the useless son I am I responded by reminding her that they have never been to a single parent/teacher conference for 12 years why start now. My father told me today how useless a child is if all he can do is care for himself. How useless it is for that child to be raised either as a single child or someone who didn't have parents to teach him things... I didn't know what to do... was I suppose to remind him that my SISTER not him nor my mother raised me. Yes I know they work everyday to support me and my sister, my sister doesn't even need a student loan, my parents just pay for everything. In return I smoke, I get bad grades, I get them to buy me a 70k car, a $500 phone, etc. They do it because they're replacing family with material goods.
Have your parents ever told you they love you? Because mine haven't.
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Have you ever tried to see the perspective from your parents? Did you ever think they are trying to set you up so you have a better life then they had by giving you things to help you get there? Saying 'i love you' perhaps is being told to you in other ways you are not seeing.
I think if you really cared, You'd give up your cell phone and $70k car for something a little more respectable for a 17 year old. You really don't need a cell phone at your age, because you only really use it to hang out with your friends am I right? partying social life that is a huge distraction from what actually matters. Not saying you should cut it out, but you don't need to be that connected.
You are at the stage of life where you are having trouble finding yourself and what you want to do. I've been there.
I'm 28 years old, and wish I had gone to school right after highschool. Even though I pull in $6000/month right now, Its hard work. I should have specialized in something... and so should you.
I think you need to focus on some skillset, do it hardcore for 5 years, then evaluate your life at that point, and determine if its worth changing or not.
I once talked with a man whom was a physics major, worked on nuclear weapons for the US military, hated his job, went and became a doctor after several more years of university, hated working in ER, went back to school to become a orthodontist. Less death around him, and he was just under 55 years old. Set for life, and no regrets.
You have all the time in the world to stop worrying. Stop crying and expecting your parents to be perfect.
Grow up or the world will pass you by.
PS, Stop smoking. I've lost my father and aunt from Lung Cancer.
