insomniac | 06-27-2011 09:30 PM | Quote:
Originally Posted by xclusive
(Post 7491667)
That's awesome to hear man but you gotta be strong through these times and don't get led on by hopes that were never there. Just went through that shit and it stings. Worst thing for me is that this girl was my bestfriend since gr.8 and I'm feeling us drift apart but hopefully it's just a "phase" I'll have to go through as a result of telling her and just letting it all out which I didn't do till like 2 weeks ago lol. Don't "go after" the other girl either, just see where things take you and if you feel that you'll get out of the friend zone, do it which you might not have a huge window to do. Best of luck man! Posted via RS Mobile | shitttt i hope everything gets better for you too! ive also been in your situation where i liked a really close friend. in fact, it was march of 2010 when that happened to me. i didnt handle it well and at the end (a month or so later) we didnt talk as much and just became "normal" friends. talked to her more afterwards. the thing that sucks and you have to keep in mind that most of the time when you ask a friend out or even worse, a best friend, they will most likely turn you down. not because they dont like you, but they wouldnt look at you as a potential date. think of it like this, if one of your best friends ask you out, will you go out with them? my advice is just act nice but be sad about it. dont lose touch with her but dont annoy her like you have nothing to do. dont be whiny and make her feel like shit because she turned you down. if you make her feel like shit, some people will think youre butthurt and others will think youre an asshole. but best of luck! if things dont work out after, just give up on her and use this as an experience.
since you know what happened to me about a month ago, ill tell you what happened afterwards. the worst thing for me was not seeing what happened in front of my eyes. it was going to school the next week and people started to ask me how i felt about it and honestly, it was painful to laugh it off and just say "whatever". i started being an asshole indirectly because i knew i was done. but after what happened, i learned a damn good lesson. perhaps i was too desperate back then. hell, its her life, she could do whatever she wants so i shouldnt have been that pissed about it. but yeah, i made her feel bad indirectly by telling my thoughts to her friends exaggerating a bit. knowing girls, they tell each other everything. they started to invite me to their hangouts and thats when i started to like one of her best friends. lets just call the girl i like A and her best friend B. i got to know A alot better after hanging out almost daily. same with B. i have feelings for B but nothing crazy.. yet.. i honestly dont see myself dating A in the future. definitely not anytime soon because shes going to HK for vacation in the next few weeks. but B i have a thing going on with her already but im not sure if its just as good friends or if its real. we definitely havent been doing things normal friends do.. ill see how things go but i dont think im ready or in the mood to be in a relationship anytime soon.. things are happening way too fast or maybe its just me. its only been 2-3 weeks. |