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Your going to fuck yourself over..

You have 2 options:
1-You do nothing. You sit there and think about everything and eventually get friend-zoned.
2-You ask her out on a date, whether it be coffee/lunch/dinner, and over the food/drinks you let her know your interested.

Girls are a mind-fuck, and until you figure it out for yourself.. You'll just be left guessing til the world ends.

nabs	12-23-2013 06:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PK-EK (Post 8387516)

Feeling stupid again today.

Last night she messaged me to hang out; the other guys came along too.

At first she sounded so eager for me to come out; she never organizes anything; so I was a bit excited.
On my way to our hang out she kept on messaging me: "text me when you park, I'm just parked across the street"
and I thought to myself maybe she wants to have a smoke in my car and I could use this opportunity to talk to her one on one. (not ready to ask her out yet)

I park my car, walk up to her car and shes not there, I text her. Shes already inside (no big deal, its cold out here in cow town!)

I see her and my best friend
Best friend is holding a Christmas bag for me.
Girl B and my best friend teamed up and got me a canvas print of my car and an expensive air freshener that I would never be willing to buy for myself (witch is amazing! and I love it)

But then it sank in.
and I thought to myself:
I didn't team up with anyone else to buy your present, I walked 4 different malls to find you the rite shoes, in the rite color and the rite size.

Feelings like I'm just a normal guy friend than anything else.
She hasn't shown me anything to make me special

That is special enough. Again you don't know what she's thinking until you ask her. Girls aren't as transparent as guys are.

You need to stop over analyzing every situation to whether she likes you or not. I know it's hard as she's on your mind a lot of the time but it just creates self doubt in a situation where you don't need to doubt yourself.

What's stopping you? It seems to me that you are ready, but are just too anxious.

Just ask her out already! Don't wait for the perfect opportunity or moment because those just don't come around. A perfect moment is not something you can plan either. I'm rooting for you, as I'm sure most of everyone in here is.

PK-EK

12-23-2013 07:07 PM

nabs	12-23-2013 08:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PK-EK (Post 8387786)

As stupid and cliché as it sounds.
I don't want to loose her as a friend...
I don't want it to be awkward.
I dont want to risk what we already have.
I don't want to break up our awesome group.
Posted via RS Mobile

If she says yes, then yay you have your shot. I hope you're not planning on spilling your guts to her about all the feelings you have for her and all that stuff, in that situation it could be awkward if she says no. Just simply ask her out on a date. Just the two of you and nobody else.

If she doesn't feel that way about you, and she's as amazing as you say she is, she won't let it be awkward, she won't tell anyone else in your group. You may need some time apart from the group for yourself, but you will be welcome back, that's what friends are.

But if those are really your concerns then maybe look for love elsewhere, because it is always going to be your excuse for not asking her. Its better you do it sooner, while she is showing interest in you, rather than months later regretting it because someone else is in the picture and you lost your shot.

:)

PK-EK

12-23-2013 08:35 PM

nabs	12-23-2013 08:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PK-EK (Post 8387832)

We are going skating on christmas day.
Thats how it was purposed, it seems like just the two of us.
She actually suggested the skating idea.
I don't have a problem just hanging out one on one.
But how is she suppose to "know" that i like her, without my pouring my heart out.
Something i've been contemplating the entire day
Posted via RS Mobile

Baby steps. You don't want to put EVERYTHING on the table, it could scare her, and make things awkward later.

Be cool about it. If she says yes to the date, that's all the answer you really need to know isn't it? That she is actually interested in dating you? But just be sure she knows that it's a date, and not just "hanging out with a friend one on one". Something along the lines of "I've been thinking of asking you out for a while now, you want to go out to dinner and dessert one night?" probably not that corny but make sure your intentions are clear.

If this is true, then she is digging you. Have fun skating with her, make it enjoyable and have fun! At the end of the night, would be your perfect chance. Don't bring it up in the beginning or midway. Do it after.

SpeedStars

12-24-2013 12:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PK-EK (Post 8387832)

We are going skating on christmas day.
Thats how it was purposed, it seems like just the two of us. (It wouldn't be odd for us two to do something together....)
She actually suggested the skating idea.
I don't have a problem just hanging out one on one.
But how is she suppose to "know" that i like her, without my pouring my heart out.
Something i've been contemplating the entire day
Posted via RS Mobile

I had a similar situation :okay:...except we've hung out so many times (alone) that I feared I was too deep in the friend zone so I thought of this. I dont even know what happened but, I've left the friend zone(apparently she/her friends felt a vibe) :concentrate: GL THERE BUDDY!

Eff-1

12-24-2013 08:38 AM

On this Christmas Eve, 2013, I still cannot help but think my boss is a total cow.

muteki

12-24-2013 09:22 AM

You are such a good boy.

ecchiecchi

12-24-2013 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PK-EK (Post 8387786)

I think losing her as a friend after a confession is a choice, not an inevitable result.

If you want it you'll make it so.

JShifter

12-24-2013 03:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PK-EK (Post 8387832)

We are going skating on christmas day.
Thats how it was purposed, it seems like just the two of us. (It wouldn't be odd for us two to do something together....)
She actually suggested the skating idea.
I don't have a problem just hanging out one on one.
But how is she suppose to "know" that i like her, without my pouring my heart out.
Something i've been contemplating the entire day
Posted via RS Mobile

Rejections hurt but not taking any risk at all is even worse, Whats the point of thinking and thinking about it over and over again same thing as worrying , jump in take risk and you will find your answer. I understand when shit goes awkward you turn into strangers and not talk to each other but that's for you to change it all , Goodluck hope it works out !

jaywoo

12-24-2013 04:35 PM

even with this last chance ur giving me, what am i supposed to do when ur putting everything in a negative way...

!Nhan

12-24-2013 05:26 PM

the one thing i look forward to this christmas disappoints me...sigh

[o_o]

12-24-2013 05:56 PM

After breaking up a 4 year relationship with my ex 4-5 months ago, I spotted her for the first time today... with a new man. Not a good feels.

Not gonna lie, I haven't fully moved on yet so I was pretty rattled and pissed. I don't think she saw me but I kind of wish she did. I guess this will motivate me and push me to hurry the fuck up and move on from her.

Whatever... Merry fucking Christmas! It's been awhile since I spent Christmas alone. :alone:

NotDatGai

12-25-2013 01:10 AM

surprisingly had a pretty good Christmas Eve! everyone was actually happy for once... the 4 of us jammed to christmas music when we drove from the restaurant to my dad's and opening presents... to have us all feel joyeous and happy is an extremely rare occasion.. glad for it to be Christmas Eve.

merry christmas everyone :)

heisenberg

12-25-2013 02:04 AM

Do I miss you or am I just bored?
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BorLorBao

12-25-2013 05:57 AM

Merry Christmas! :alonehappy:

PK-EK

12-25-2013 09:57 AM

digitalgirl

12-25-2013 10:06 AM

I hope you're resting somewhere nice today.

You always had good timing so I'm happy all your loved ones could be by your side.

Always the best listener, helpful, and resourceful..

How you managed to care and love for this brat of a niece.. I don't know.

Miss you, Uncle R!

BossFrancis

12-25-2013 10:28 AM

What the fuck is this?

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