Speak it Out

[Ri2]

i wish you had tried to talk to me about it and solve it together. now i feel its too late because youve held it in so long and now you dont feel the same about me. if something like this was enough to drive you away then maybe it wasnt real to begin with.......

for the record, i would have done anything for you if you had only communicated what you need to me

[Akinari]

Everything is moving so quickly, developing so quickly, but in a good way. Although it hasn't even been 3 months yet, it feels like the time we've already spent together has been much longer than it really has. Not too sure what it means, I'm not exactly the most secure person and there's always the worry that even though we're making plans for the future, and even though you've done so much for me to show how important I am to you, it's not enough and there's always something negative that is just around the corner.

Am I worrying too much? Perhaps. After all, I am extremely happy to be with you and beyond appreciative for all the things you've done for me. Love you to the stars and back, not going anywhere.

[nabs]

Originally Posted by PK-EK

She Told me that my Type of girl was one that Washes the dishes, Speaks Cantonese and Pours tea in the correct order.
The thing is, I've seen her do all these things and more.
How she offered to wash the dishes at my Christmas Party, Poured tea for me first that Saturday we had dim sum. and Every time I send her a voice message; she always tries to reply with a bit of Cantonese.

but if this is the case; how come she told me about that guy she made out with on her trip?

I purposely told her my feelings right before her trip just so I would leave an impression.
Crazy me is saying she is testing me.
Realistic me is telling me that perhaps your slim chance with her is gone because she chose to tell you something like that.... you are not nothing but a mere friend...

I fucked up...

The night she told me about the making out with the stranger; I got myself piss drunk in my basement.

and after I let it all sink it.
I slowly started hitting on girls. it was the only way I knew how to cope with the pain.
Asking girls out; flirting with them; there were nothing more of a distraction.
then the naive me decided to tell her about how I have been asking all these girls out.
and thats how the conversion started; My Type of Girl.....

I'm sorry bro, maybe now its time to cut your losses and call it quits. It's just one of those things where she's just not that into you. I honestly think that you didn't fuck up at all, and it has nothing to do with you personally. You did everything you could do.

There's no real reason why, and you've put yourself out there, you've left yourself vulnerable. She could have handled it more tactfully, fully knowing you had feelings for her yet she still decided to tell you about that guy she made out with. I'm sorry about this.
You just have to realize it shows a little bit of immaturity on her part, not being able to own up to it fully and tell you straight up about her feelings towards you when you had that talk with her.

Don't look back, look to the future. From everything we've learned about you these past couple months I think you're a great guy that can do wonders for a girl that will fully appreciate you. She will get jealous as you move forward and try to make herself more appealing to you, its just the nature of it, but you don't want to go through all this all over again.

Grab some beer with friends, separation is always good for a little while, if she's a true friend she will be able to put it all passed her and you should be able to do the same thing moving forward, after you've had your time to heal.

Genuine gentlemen like you are rare, treat yourself that way.

[E.D.C.5]

^ well said.

[PK-EK]

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[JShifter]

Originally Posted by PK-EK

Thanks nabs. I really wish it was easier said than done.
You see. Over the last few months. She has become my best friend.
And i don't have the heart to just cut off my contact with her instantly and have a time of "seperarion"
I can't just leave her at the snap of a finger. It wouldn't feel right. I wouldn't be able to forgive myself.

This is just an emotional battle i will have to face. A test if my self, how well i can control my feelings.
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Time will just replace new memories but nothing going to be forgotten, every chapter in your life you learn something from it. I been in your situation before it hurts man it felt like someone stabbed me in the heart and I burst out in tears and sadness for days's but let me tell you one thing everything going to be alright

[TOS'd]

Have you kissed her, PK-EK?
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[PK-EK]

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[hk20000]

Originally Posted by Akinari

You're endlessly pampering me with thoughtful gifts, except I have no idea what to get you for Valentine's because you already have everything you need!

Exactly how I felt....What could possibly please those who have it all?

But just absolutely remember this, "let's go shop for it together" is taboo. Sometimes it works most of the time it doesn't. Somehow you are giving the short end of the stick apparently. Even if in your mind you are thinking, "this can't go wrong we chose it together!"

Akinari you are looking at the point where you are going past the honeymoon phase. It's now you have to work double hard to keep her coming. For a guy it's easy to think "oh we shall go steady now" but it's the opposite for the girl.
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I just sat down at the usual feels spot with another non-RS member who went through exactly what I went through but he's ecstatic about the breakup, he went through a whole 4 years of same bullshit I went through, he just felt bad to break it up between them, and she took the first opportunity to cheat on him once there is a slot available. I was lucky to have got out of this mess in 13 months. End of the day, he took his extra money to go get himself a nice F4i sport bike, learn something new and decided that life is too short to please someone who is going to nag all day on trivialities and drag him down.

Class 6 is not too hard to get and I do fancy a bike for 2014. At least I get to ride that when I treat her right, need a good garage to store that away though. Getting your ride taken away is not fun.

And then I ran into another feels meet seems like all those LGs are having fun cheating with their coworkers. Should one date their coworker? That usually end in disaster coz that's 8 hours a day whether you like it or not, good luck on that I guess.

Came in looking forward to someone posting about their long adventures but I'm disappointed so far.

[OGCStrike]

the struggles to forget about you...

[SpeedStars]

Should I be happy I forgot about you and everything we've done together? Or should I be happy because I've found someone else who equally enjoys spending time with me? You know what? I'm not just a boy toy. When opportunity strikes, I'm going to take it.

[6793026]

Saw this on FB

"Never get jealous when you see your ex with someone else, because our parents taught us to give our used toys to the less fortunate"

[dapperfied]

What do you do when the passion you had is gone because you can't find a job?

[PK-EK]

Originally Posted by dapperfied

What do you do when the passion you had is gone because you can't find a job?

What did you think your passion is? Have you been exspoded to it recently?
You just feel like the flame is gone beaxuse you haven't had an encounter with your passion for a period of time.
Take time some time off. Think about what you truly loved about your job. That is your passion.
You'll learn a lot about yourself during a time of struggle.

I work at an automotive dealer. And for the longest time i thought my passion was cars. But in fact, my passion wasn't cars. It was helping people. That feel of accomplishment when you have that you honesty helped someone find the right product for them. It just so happens that i know alot about cars. So they came to me seeking help.
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[dapperfied]

My passion is directly related to my career. Been exposed to it for about 14 years (since I entered highschool). I think I'm just more sad that I can't pursue my career here. I'm trying not to give up but it's been really difficult to the point where I'm starting to regret it.

People say success only comes to those who hustle. Where's the opportunity to even start hustling?
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[notenoughasian]

I said to myself one post and one post only, screw it. Sorry if I begin to ramble as it is 5AM when I start writing this...

December 28th, 2013

Just another night out with friends, alcohol, and clubbing. I'm already at the bar with my friends when one of my coworkers points out two girls behind me. It just happens to be you and your friend. He doesn't know about our previous encounter but of all the people, he has to point you two out?! Just my luck. I whip back around and order 1... 2... 5... more rounds of alcohol until I lose count. You're still at the bar as I walk towards the dance floor. Why couldn't... no.... why can't I just face the facts? Am I being stubborn?

Why can't I let you go?

How long has it been... almost six months and neither of us can look each other in the eye? I vaguely remember a time where you called me; that's very rare coming from you. I picked up the phone and you asked me,

"Are you mad at me?"

I didn't say anything, I couldn't say anything. What did you want me to say? If I could say something to you right now it would be,

"No, I'm not mad at you. I'm confused, I'm broken."

But my immaturity made me hang up the phone. That could've been my last chance, but yet again; I fuck up. I'm laughing at myself right now cause I tend to do that a lot, but oh well. What I'm still confused about is why, WHY your friend would come up and ask ME for a smoke? WHY ME? There's like five other smokers around and I'm the farthest away from the club, she's the one who didn't want us to talk after the incident... you think I forgot the person who pulled you away?? I saw you walk in with those three guys earlier, so why do you need me to play the good protective friend if they're your friends? My head filled with confusion, alcohol, and broken dreams, I ended up at a house party and blacked out; at least a funny picture came out of that night.

TL : DR
If you have a chance, make it count.

If you're just curious how much I spent that night, I blew around 400-500$ on drinks that night alone. (Since I know the bartenders I also get a lot of discounted/free drinks as well, so think how drunk I am...)

[DanHibiki]

break up blues...among other things

[TOS'd]

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't afraid.
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[604778]

Fuck you Facebook for showing that I saw the message.
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[Tapioca]

Originally Posted by nabs

Don't look back, look to the future. From everything we've learned about you these past couple months I think you're a great guy that can do wonders for a girl that will fully appreciate you. She will get jealous as you move forward and try to make herself more appealing to you, its just the nature of it, but you don't want to go through all this all over again.

Genuine gentlemen like you are rare, treat yourself that way.

A woman will only get jealous if she had feelings for you. Based on situation as described, she never had feelings for PK-EK, so she is unlikely to get jealous.

There are gentlemen everywhere. Being a gentleman is really only half the battle - you need to be both a gentleman and your own person.

And if I were the OP, I would stop chasing after Asians. Go after other types of women, especially when you're young.
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[123654123]

i miss you? or is it all in my head?

do you message me out of the blue because you miss me too? or am i just here to fill emotional gaps your bf can't fill? or is it all in my head?

i let you know how i felt because i thought it was mutual. or is it all in my head?

i thought it could have been us. then he came into the picture. or is it all in my head?

i feel like you're always on the fence about me and never have to courage to just run into my arms. or is it all in my head?

i make it hard for you and we part ways, but you always come back. we're stuck in this cycle. or is it all in my head?

i got a message from you in the middle of the night. and again you are all that is in my head.

[xmisstrinh]

I'm sorry I can't live up to every you are. I'm me. Deal with it. If you don't like it, leave.

[zetazeta]

Originally Posted by 604778

Fuck you Facebook for showing that I saw the message.
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[Exc3L]

Originally Posted by 6793026

Saw this on FB

"Never get jealous when you see your ex with someone else, because our parents taught us to give our used toys to the less fortunate"

recycling is always good, when you no longer need junk around

[hk20000]

Originally Posted by usher

I'm losin' my mind, cant figure out who's wrong or right
I know it's you I love, but then I also know it's you I don't like
You claim you hate who I was, but that's the reason you here now
You think I don't know what's up, but sweetheart that's what ruined us
I ain't afraid to say I got needs
but the only time you here for me is when the bottles poppin' and everything is sweet

Off to LA next month! So stoked.