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04-22-2014, 12:09 AM
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#18926 | I Will not Admit my Addiction to RS
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stop asking me for advice. sheesh. fuck! idgaf
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04-22-2014, 08:55 AM
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#18927 | reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum.
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Originally Posted by mimu thank you very much. yes, i totally agree with you, but actually we are not that close, like spending 24/7 with each other, and I had a talk with him yesterday, at first, everything was fine, but later, when I talked about something related to our relationship, he became impatient, maybe he thought i was talking too much on that topic or even though we speak out all the problems, we still can do nothing to fix them, like he said he found there are some problems about culture differences between us (cuz I was not born here, but he was born here) I really wanna him to tell me what those problems are, then I would like to try my best to solve those problems, but he refused to telling me anything. what I am thinking is, if you love somebody very much, then nothings gonna be a problem, nothings gonna stop you from loving her/him, or doing anything to make her/him happy, am I wrong? since we chose each other to be the partner at the beginning, then we should have thought about that there will be a lot problems happen later in our life, and when we encounter with these difficulties, what we should do is to overcome but not concede or doing nothing even stop moving on, right?
I dont think there is any problem will stop some one from loving /caring about the other one, the one he/she loves, but only one thing will stop it, that is your love disappears. right? | Ingore him for a few days or a week. See how he reacts. If he doesn't bother to call then most likely he have moved on. Dating is a like a game of fishing, you can't too strict and too relax. Just need to be right.
Also, talking and actually taking action is totally differently. I told girls I would I go visit them (long distance in another country) and have no intention to (well at least not now ). Remember words and promise are easy to say but hard to actually take any action on. Don't trust words, trust their actions.
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04-22-2014, 10:07 AM
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#18928 | Need to Seek Professional Help
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Originally Posted by mimu I and my bf met last year, till now, have been in a relationship for seven months, but recently, for the last two months, I found he changed a lil bit, does not care about me very much, and sometimes thinks I am annoying, he wont talk to me much or even doesn't want sex with me. so I think he may not love me any more, what should I do? I am so good to him that I don't wanna lose him, cuz its not an easy thing for a guy and a girl get to know each other, and be in a relationship, both of us should cherish this relationship and the time we have spent together, but I also cannot persuade myself to live with a guy who does not care about me, in addition, he becomes impatient to me easily these days, it's like he feels me love him so much and I could not leave him, yep, I love him very much but it does not mean I will stay with a guy who does not love me, I want a peaceful and happy life and a family, what should I do ... so frustrated... | I don't want to raise the unpopular elephant in the room, but BOTH people who are in relationships can have tendencies to "let themselves go", not only physically but sexually as well. Maybe that is an issue.
I hate to be that guy who blames the woman, but this looks to me like a simple case of the man losing interest for whatever reason. From personal experience it is primarily either physical (i.e., not working out anymore/gaining bad weight, not caring about wearing make-up/looking nice, not dressing super sexy anymore b/c you are comfortable with the relationship) or sexual (seducing him, having really rough, sweaty, interesting sex, etc.)... do you have to do these things all the time? No, but you (and he as well) should be doing them enough so that neither party gets disinterested. Just my $0.02
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04-22-2014, 01:51 PM
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#18929 | Proud to be called a RS Regular!
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Why is there a lack of independent men in this city? Seems like most need to be pampered to be able to get by.
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04-22-2014, 03:00 PM
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#18930 | The Brown Reason
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Originally Posted by PARANOiA-R34 I don't want to raise the unpopular elephant in the room, but BOTH people who are in relationships can have tendencies to "let themselves go", not only physically but sexually as well. Maybe that is an issue.
I hate to be that guy who blames the woman, but this looks to me like a simple case of the man losing interest for whatever reason. From personal experience it is primarily either physical (i.e., not working out anymore/gaining bad weight, not caring about wearing make-up/looking nice, not dressing super sexy anymore b/c you are comfortable with the relationship) or sexual (seducing him, having really rough, sweaty, interesting sex, etc.)... do you have to do these things all the time? No, but you (and he as well) should be doing them enough so that neither party gets disinterested. Just my $0.02 | I agree with what you're saying to a certain extent, but I think it's innately programmed into some people to always seek 'better' -- and although this isn't necessarily a bad characteristic (it'll make you a very successful in your career), it makes for terrible relationship dynamics. You were attractive because you were unattainable, the excitement of the relationship was 'attaining' you, once that has occurred, consider it the peak of a roller coaster and it's only a matter of time until you are just 'normal' to him, and he goes on to seek something 'better'.
I know quite a few friends that have done this (guys and girls), but they're young, so it doesn't really matter I guess (assuming you buy into the social norms/'sex-specific best before dates' that suggest a woman has to find a man by XX years whereas a man can wait until XX years)
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04-23-2014, 03:26 AM
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#18931 | My homepage has been set to RS
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Originally Posted by mimu I and my bf met last year, till now, have been in a relationship for seven months, but recently, for the last two months, I found he changed a lil bit, does not care about me very much, and sometimes thinks I am annoying, he wont talk to me much or even doesn't want sex with me. so I think he may not love me any more, what should I do? I am so good to him that I don't wanna lose him, cuz its not an easy thing for a guy and a girl get to know each other, and be in a relationship, both of us should cherish this relationship and the time we have spent together, but I also cannot persuade myself to live with a guy who does not care about me, in addition, he becomes impatient to me easily these days, it's like he feels me love him so much and I could not leave him, yep, I love him very much but it does not mean I will stay with a guy who does not love me, I want a peaceful and happy life and a family, what should I do ... so frustrated... | lotsa guys like "the chase" or the "challenge"
maybe both have dwindled...find something to spark it up again or you might lose him.
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04-23-2014, 03:35 AM
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#18932 | My homepage has been set to RS
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Originally Posted by mimu I mean both of us should already have enough preparation to solve/overcome the culture differences that might be brought out, right? any two who were not grown up in the same culture background will have differences absolutely, so if we love each other enough, then everything will be no problem. | love doesn't conquer all anymore, even if you love someone..you still can leave he/she...just depends on the situation
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04-23-2014, 04:56 AM
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#18933 | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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A popular misconception is that love conquers all. No it doesn't.
Once you fall in love is when the work really begins. The moment an individual starts "letting themselves go" or becomes too comfortable in the relationship is when things start to go downhill. Stay attractive or stay dumped. It can be quite the bitter pill to swallow for some. Posted via RS Mobile
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04-23-2014, 06:47 AM
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#18934 | Even when im right, revscene.net is still right!
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Just when I was getting over you... You pull that shit on Sunday wtf Posted via RS Mobile |
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04-23-2014, 10:58 AM
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#18935 | Wunder? Wonder?? Wander???
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Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp If you are there with him 24/7 and do what he said then he most likely lost interest. Try to ingore him for a few days. Do your own thing, go out with your friends. Soon he will realize he misses you and will come to you.
Happen to me now. This girl basically is there all the time, I am starting to find her a bit annoying. If everything is handed to him then he knows he doesn't need to put in the effort. Make him work to get you, not the other way around. | If you find someone annoying just because they are there a lot, or they find you annoying, then maybe you aren't right for each other. I've been with people I got sick of and I've had people get sick of me. We took breaks and missed each other, but it was a temporary solution and we eventually got sick of each other again. What happens when you have to live together and you have to see each other every day? Don't be with the person you "can't live without", be with the person you can live with every. friggin'. day. of. your. life. and not want to murder or cheat on.
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04-23-2014, 12:07 PM
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#18936 | reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum.
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Originally Posted by Pegacorn If you find someone annoying just because they are there a lot, or they find you annoying, then maybe you aren't right for each other. I've been with people I got sick of and I've had people get sick of me. We took breaks and missed each other, but it was a temporary solution and we eventually got sick of each other again. What happens when you have to live together and you have to see each other every day? Don't be with the person you "can't live without", be with the person you can live with every. friggin'. day. of. your. life. and not want to murder or cheat on. | There is something call personal space and no matter how much you love your partner everyone needs it. I don't need someone who constantly message me or call me or be with me. I have things I like to do alone, with friends or be with my gf. Just because you are in love with your bf/gf doesn't mean you have to with them 24/7.
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04-23-2014, 04:41 PM
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#18937 | I *Fwap* *Fwap* *Fwap* to RS
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04-24-2014, 01:17 PM
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#18938 | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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It's been two weeks and I still have none of my marks back... Getting reeeeeaaaallllll anxious...
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04-25-2014, 01:47 AM
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#18939 | WUB WUB WUB WUB WUB
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Argh I get so nervous around you that I never know what to say @__@ whyyyyyy Posted via RS Mobile |
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04-25-2014, 02:30 AM
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#18940 | Mod.
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passed the point of no return. back to the drawing board.
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04-25-2014, 08:51 AM
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#18941 | My homepage has been set to RS
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Fuuuuuck.. whole body has been hurting lately. Dafuq is wrong.. Too much gym? Not enough vitamins?
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04-25-2014, 10:06 AM
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#18942 | 14 dolla balla aint got nothing on me!
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Originally Posted by melloman Fuuuuuck.. whole body has been hurting lately. Dafuq is wrong.. Too much gym? Not enough vitamins?
FEEL BETTER BODY U MOTHERFUCKER! | Dehydrated maybe? Posted via RS Mobile |
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04-25-2014, 05:02 PM
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#18943 | I bringith the lowerballerith
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just went out for a first run in nearly a year. didnt last for 8 minutes before i barfed by the sidewalk. now i can smell the dumplings i had for lunch in my nose... ugh |
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04-25-2014, 09:36 PM
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#18944 | reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum.
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Breaking up with you isn't easy..... I am always the being being dump..... Never realize it took so much effort to break up with someone and it actually hurts way more then being dump...
It feels actually better to be the dumpie than the dumper......
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04-25-2014, 11:12 PM
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#18945 | Wunder? Wonder?? Wander???
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Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp Breaking up with you isn't easy..... I am always the being being dump..... Never realize it took so much effort to break up with someone and it actually hurts way more then being dump...
It feels actually better to be the dumpie than the dumper...... | I was so ready to break up with someone once and I still cried. I was like WTF I want to break up, this is my idea. Still hurts. I get it. Even still...I'd rather be the dumper..
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04-25-2014, 11:23 PM
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#18946 | RS Lurker, I don't post!
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had some great food and dessert with friends the cat bit me Posted via RS Mobile |
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04-26-2014, 12:46 AM
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#18947 | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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04-26-2014, 01:08 AM
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#18948 | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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last exam.. hopefully all goes well |
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04-26-2014, 01:17 AM
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#18949 | Orgasm Donor & Alatar owned my ass twice!
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Originally Posted by yray gf made me delete my porn cache
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04-26-2014, 02:00 AM
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#18950 | RS.net, where our google ads make absolutely no sense!
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Originally Posted by zetazeta Is it happening or what? Am I getting my hopes up for nothing? Would be a complete waste of time if that were the case... should've known better. | 1 more week..... stressful as fuck!
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