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Old 10-13-2014, 06:35 PM   #19801
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fuck that was stupid, but cant blame u. but serioulsy now that u punched his face in shes gonna think that ur a total douche and hes the one whos suffering. and in the end u lose ur frd and any chance to get back with ur ex
Best friends usually don't harbor secret love interests for best friends' girlfriends/wives... and they should definitely know whether their best friend is still into their ex and not jump on the window of opportunity when opened... at least not without letting the best friend know (I hesitate to use consent/consult).

What you did in retrospect, maybe immature, but not unprovoked. If he didn't retaliate, he probably knows he deserves it, but regardless, get over the girl to maybe salvage your friendship (if you still think he's your best friend). As for the ex's reaction, you don't just have feelings for someone out of nowhere... like wtf (you smell that? bullsh*t).
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Old 10-14-2014, 09:51 AM   #19803
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Bf's birthday is tomorrow and I'm not currently working so I'm REALLY low on cash. Any ideas? Everything he wants is unattainable for me right now. Halp
Just curious if he's on this forum lol...
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Old 10-14-2014, 12:40 PM   #19804
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Old 10-14-2014, 02:52 PM   #19806
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Just curious if he's on this forum lol...
He is but he never comes on here unless I send him a link to something.
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Old 10-15-2014, 02:51 AM   #19810
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Old 10-15-2014, 07:37 PM   #19811
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Old 10-15-2014, 10:47 PM   #19812
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I'M SINGLE NOW!!


--edit--

weird part is she acted like this was a shock to her...
she said its me who's been giving the silent treatment, not her.
she hates canada, wants to live in the US, which i tell her isn't exactly just as easy as crossing the border and handing out resumes...but she doesn't understand that.
she has an extremely small family and says she likes larger families....mines extremely large and she refuses to come to them cause they're boring to her...
my parents are rude/childish/immature etc....yet she can pull these stunts
shes unable to tolerate stress at any level, and shes used that to threaten me with break ups in the past because i dont help her enough to lower the stress.
talking with her sister before she came over....apparently shes been on and off taking anti depressant pills and ive never once known that.....

hopefully she doesnt do anything stupid....but im glad its over now. no more headache




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well, she got home crying. her sister was talking to me prior to her coming over tonight and told me that i need to walk away. she got home crying her eyes out and her mother and sister were there to ream her out. they told her how fucking stupid and selfish bitch shes been and i guess it finally dawned on her that shes been a cunt for the past while and that she needs to make some changes in her attitude etc....so she called me crying her eyes out telling me all that. said she wants me to make a list as to what she does that irritates me (ive an extremely high tolerance level and can easily brush things off but after what she said about my family etc pushed me over my limit), and she wants to change that by learning to accept me and the fact that parents bicker at each other and she wants to start coming to my family dinners since she normally refuses to becuase she thinks they're boring as fuck (30-40 people at my family dinners...and we have a dinner usually for holidays/birthdays....so we have a LOT). she comes from a family with just a mom and a father who ran away after she was born, and she has 1 cousin who she sees once every decade.), so she wants to learn the whole family values thing.

as for now ive told her what i feel/think and that i need time to myself.

advice? suggestions?

i love the girl and hate having to let her go, but i felt it was the only thing to do at the time since there was no other option for me.

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Old 10-16-2014, 01:33 AM   #19813
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AAAAANNNNNND...


I'M SINGLE NOW!!


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weird part is she acted like this was a shock to her...
she said its me who's been giving the silent treatment, not her.
she hates canada, wants to live in the US, which i tell her isn't exactly just as easy as crossing the border and handing out resumes...but she doesn't understand that.
she has an extremely small family and says she likes larger families....mines extremely large and she refuses to come to them cause they're boring to her...
my parents are rude/childish/immature etc....yet she can pull these stunts
shes unable to tolerate stress at any level, and shes used that to threaten me with break ups in the past because i dont help her enough to lower the stress.
talking with her sister before she came over....apparently shes been on and off taking anti depressant pills and ive never once known that.....

hopefully she doesnt do anything stupid....but im glad its over now. no more headache




second edit!

well, she got home crying. her sister was talking to me prior to her coming over tonight and told me that i need to walk away. she got home crying her eyes out and her mother and sister were there to ream her out. they told her how fucking stupid and selfish bitch shes been and i guess it finally dawned on her that shes been a cunt for the past while and that she needs to make some changes in her attitude etc....so she called me crying her eyes out telling me all that. said she wants me to make a list as to what she does that irritates me (ive an extremely high tolerance level and can easily brush things off but after what she said about my family etc pushed me over my limit), and she wants to change that by learning to accept me and the fact that parents bicker at each other and she wants to start coming to my family dinners since she normally refuses to becuase she thinks they're boring as fuck (30-40 people at my family dinners...and we have a dinner usually for holidays/birthdays....so we have a LOT). she comes from a family with just a mom and a father who ran away after she was born, and she has 1 cousin who she sees once every decade.), so she wants to learn the whole family values thing.

as for now ive told her what i feel/think and that i need time to myself.

advice? suggestions?

i love the girl and hate having to let her go, but i felt it was the only thing to do at the time since there was no other option for me.

your guy's intake?
Looks like you got some leeway now

On a serious note though I would say if you don't want to let her and you think she may change, go to give her another chance. People tend to change when they hit their lowest point and it seems like your girlfriend may have hit it if shes been called out on her actions. I don't think she'll be able to fix everything that irritates you (who can?) but I guess you two can work on the major things.
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Old 10-16-2014, 01:48 AM   #19814
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AAAAANNNNNND...


I'M SINGLE NOW!!


--edit--

weird part is she acted like this was a shock to her...
she said its me who's been giving the silent treatment, not her.
she hates canada, wants to live in the US, which i tell her isn't exactly just as easy as crossing the border and handing out resumes...but she doesn't understand that.
she has an extremely small family and says she likes larger families....mines extremely large and she refuses to come to them cause they're boring to her...
my parents are rude/childish/immature etc....yet she can pull these stunts
shes unable to tolerate stress at any level, and shes used that to threaten me with break ups in the past because i dont help her enough to lower the stress.
talking with her sister before she came over....apparently shes been on and off taking anti depressant pills and ive never once known that.....

hopefully she doesnt do anything stupid....but im glad its over now. no more headache




second edit!

well, she got home crying. her sister was talking to me prior to her coming over tonight and told me that i need to walk away. she got home crying her eyes out and her mother and sister were there to ream her out. they told her how fucking stupid and selfish bitch shes been and i guess it finally dawned on her that shes been a cunt for the past while and that she needs to make some changes in her attitude etc....so she called me crying her eyes out telling me all that. said she wants me to make a list as to what she does that irritates me (ive an extremely high tolerance level and can easily brush things off but after what she said about my family etc pushed me over my limit), and she wants to change that by learning to accept me and the fact that parents bicker at each other and she wants to start coming to my family dinners since she normally refuses to becuase she thinks they're boring as fuck (30-40 people at my family dinners...and we have a dinner usually for holidays/birthdays....so we have a LOT). she comes from a family with just a mom and a father who ran away after she was born, and she has 1 cousin who she sees once every decade.), so she wants to learn the whole family values thing.

as for now ive told her what i feel/think and that i need time to myself.

advice? suggestions?

i love the girl and hate having to let her go, but i felt it was the only thing to do at the time since there was no other option for me.

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Run. Run far away. I went through this with my first bf. EXACT same thing, called me crying promising to change. The thing is, they change for a bit.... and then they go back to the same old shit. That's a HUGE list of shit that she needs to change. And in order to change it permanently, it's going to take months maybe years. Also, on again off again with antidepressants is a big no-no. Especially when it clearly doesn't work using them like that (some people can get away with using them for a while and taking a break, but clearly not her).
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^^ Honestly, please yourself first.

If you think that you will be happy with her, then give her a second chance. I'd base it on doubts.. how much do you think she will change? If she changes, how would it affect your relationship? Do you think she will eventually go back to her childish state and be bitter and try making you the bad guy?

There's lots of ways it can go bad again, just a warning if you give her a second chance. But never forget that people can change if they want to. Just remember the "if they want to" part.

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+1, run away. It may suck at first but after the initial sting you'll feel a huge weight off your shoulders.

Having a high tolerance to BS might be a sign of co-dependence (the feeling of wanting to shoulder all their bullshit and stress in hopes that they'll feel better), which is something you have to learn about yourself and grow out of for a healthy relationship; I've struggled with that myself in the past.
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That should have been the end of the post. Pop some bottles, celebrate your freedom, start living your life, and let the right person find you.
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@stewie: give her that list, so she knows how irritable she is/was. whether you guys work it out or part ways the list will give her something to think about and reflect upon.

i think parting ways is probably the logical choice, but stuff like this isn't a matter of logical sense so i guess it comes down to the question of just how much you love this girl.. enough to overlook the possibility of her reverting back to her old self?

there is no guarantee that change is always for the better.
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