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Relationship & Gender DiscussionTHIS SPACE OPEN FOR ADVERTISEMENT. YOU SHOULD BE ADVERTISING HERE! The thin line between love and hate
Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...
They act like they don't like being stared at but deep down they enjoy the attention. The feeling of being "desired".
Don't think there's any way out of a friend zone but who knows... You ignoring her might make her low self esteem like you.
Treat em like dirt and they'll stick like mud
I agree with what you're saying but I hate how even at this age I have to resort to this stupid childish shit (i.e. ignoring). What ever happened to direct communication...
I just 'stumbledupon' this quote... I like it and thought I would share.
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There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.
also on the totally opposite end of the spectrum I was shown this today:
In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And those fucks I have not given have made all the difference.
I believe cars are meant to be driven. I see zero point in having a beautiful car and never driving it. Might as well have Miranda Kerr in your bed and sleeping on the ground cause you don't want to fudge her mascara...
We go through our entire lives being told what to do every step of the way. The garage was always the one place where you could indulge in your own passion, with not a care for the outside world.
I'm 20 y/o now and long story short this girl I liked didn't really like me back, but appreciated the attention I gave her (i.e. didn't value my presence at all). But whenever she sees me she wants me to say hi to her (I can tell b/c she stares at me hoping I will say something) but never does it herself.
I ignored her completely yesterday when she passed by when I was standing with my friends, but my female friend said that was a mean thing to do to her. I feel bad now haha, do you guys really think it's bad that I ignored her?
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Originally Posted by hchang
^^Women are just attention whores.
They act like they don't like being stared at but deep down they enjoy the attention. The feeling of being "desired".
Don't think there's any way out of a friend zone but who knows... You ignoring her might make her low self esteem like you.
Treat em like dirt and they'll stick like mud
Rzr, I suggest you read Neil Strauss' "The Game"... it's more of a story but interspersed are little tidbits of fact regarding picking up - and maintaining - female interest.
It's all based on "cat string" theory... dangle a string in front of a cat's face and just leave it there, the cat will play around for a bit but get bored. Dangle that same string and move it back and forth, around and around, just out of reach of that cat and it will be entertained for hours and hours. The same applies to women. If you give off the appearance of being 'too easy' she will lose interest really fast. If you make it a challenge for her - because women are extremely competitive, I argue more so than men - she will never stop trying.
It's really the shittiest feeling in the world knowing that none of your actions are going to be appreciated in the house you live in by your parents, yet you still cling onto the hope that perhaps things will get better, when in fact nothing has improved over the last couple years and is only getting worse...
Things are not going to get better for you; I know this from experience. The more you let them mistreat you, the more they will take advantage of that. Don't let them guilt you into the "I made you so you have to do as I say" bullshit. Eventually you'll just have to think for yourself and figure out the best course of action to ensure that your life won't be in shambles by the time you're in your mid/late-twenties. That could mean ignoring your parents and toughing it out until you're financially stable, or taking your chances and moving out.
Rzr, I suggest you read Neil Strauss' "The Game"... it's more of a story but interspersed are little tidbits of fact regarding picking up - and maintaining - female interest.
It's all based on "cat string" theory... dangle a string in front of a cat's face and just leave it there, the cat will play around for a bit but get bored. Dangle that same string and move it back and forth, around and around, just out of reach of that cat and it will be entertained for hours and hours. The same applies to women. If you give off the appearance of being 'too easy' she will lose interest really fast. If you make it a challenge for her - because women are extremely competitive, I argue more so than men - she will never stop trying.
I believe cars are meant to be driven. I see zero point in having a beautiful car and never driving it. Might as well have Miranda Kerr in your bed and sleeping on the ground cause you don't want to fudge her mascara...
We go through our entire lives being told what to do every step of the way. The garage was always the one place where you could indulge in your own passion, with not a care for the outside world.
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Since the last one left me, I just ate and ate and ate
and even know I feel like I'm Fat (I was fat before, but now I feel fat)
Replace that sadness with anger and hit the gym or go outside and just run away from it all for a while, rain or shine. Drop pounds, look better, and be ready to meet new people.
Either that or keep your mind busy; didn't have time to complete a project because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to spend with your dog because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to game because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to travel because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now.
You would be surprised how much you can accomplish without baggage. I've met so many great people after I got out of a rut because I changed my reality into something I wanted. Do not let reality warp you. Nike's been saying "Just [fucking] do it" for decades for good reason.
Hell, you wanna hang out? I'll hang with you, bro. No homo.
Since the last one left me, I just ate and ate and ate
and even know I feel like I'm Fat (I was fat before, but now I feel fat)
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Originally Posted by ZN6
Replace that sadness with anger and hit the gym or go outside and just run away from it all for a while, rain or shine. Drop pounds, look better, and be ready to meet new people.
Either that or keep your mind busy; didn't have time to complete a project because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to spend with your dog because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to game because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to travel because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now.
You would be surprised how much you can accomplish without baggage. I've met so many great people after I got out of a rut because I changed my reality into something I wanted. Do not let reality warp you. Nike's been saying "Just [fucking] do it" for decades for good reason.
Hell, you wanna hang out? I'll hang with you, bro. No homo.
you bro's wanna hang? No homo.
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Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk..
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Rzr, I suggest you read Neil Strauss' "The Game"... it's more of a story but interspersed are little tidbits of fact regarding picking up - and maintaining - female interest.
It's all based on "cat string" theory... dangle a string in front of a cat's face and just leave it there, the cat will play around for a bit but get bored. Dangle that same string and move it back and forth, around and around, just out of reach of that cat and it will be entertained for hours and hours. The same applies to women. If you give off the appearance of being 'too easy' she will lose interest really fast. If you make it a challenge for her - because women are extremely competitive, I argue more so than men - she will never stop trying.
Thanks bro, I did learn my lesson and I have read that book. I was a bit too "easy" at that time like you said. But hey, it's a numbers game, I think the best experience comes from actually going out and trying (and failing... repeatedly). You learn what you did wrong and try to be better the next time. This, by far, is the best form of learning. Better than any book I'd say.
it's scary how comfortable you can become with someone when things just click. scary, but at the same time it feels natural...only time will tell how far this can go, but maybe when you know you just know?
Hopefully some people can chime in, was debating this with a friend the other day as he went through a breakup not too long ago.
CAN people have on and off switches for emotions?
Like if your S.O says they love you and you can confirm it through mutual feelings but they can leave the relationship with minimal damage and just peace?
Hopefully some people can chime in, was debating this with a friend the other day as he went through a breakup not too long ago.
CAN people have on and off switches for emotions?
Like if your S.O says they love you and you can confirm it through mutual feelings but they can leave the relationship with minimal damage and just peace?
#coldheartedbitch or just a front?
yes some people have this switch.. i usually meet the 2 following types:
- people that don't give a damn or never did give a damn
- it was too much to handle so their mind just shuts down and nothing gets registered
usually when a girl (or anyone really) leaves a relationship with minimal damage.. it's usually because the thought has been on their mind for a while and they had plenty of time to mentally/emotionally prime themselves for it.. it's not coldheartedbitch or a front - it's called preparation
Replace that sadness with anger and hit the gym or go outside and just run away from it all for a while, rain or shine. Drop pounds, look better, and be ready to meet new people.
Either that or keep your mind busy; didn't have time to complete a project because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to spend with your dog because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to game because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now. Didn't have time to travel because of the girlfriend bitchin'? Do it now.
You would be surprised how much you can accomplish without baggage. I've met so many great people after I got out of a rut because I changed my reality into something I wanted. Do not let reality warp you. Nike's been saying "Just [fucking] do it" for decades for good reason.
Hell, you wanna hang out? I'll hang with you, bro. No homo.
Another way to get over it? Buy car parts. Build your car. Not to be confused with buying a nicer car, because you need to toil on the project to get over it.
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Hopefully some people can chime in, was debating this with a friend the other day as he went through a breakup not too long ago.
CAN people have on and off switches for emotions?
Like if your S.O says they love you and you can confirm it through mutual feelings but they can leave the relationship with minimal damage and just peace?
#coldheartedbitch or just a front?
I was with my ex for almost 10 years and when it ended I moved on within a few weeks. I lost a lot of really good friends and it was hard but sometimes things just play their course. It hurt once in a while, don't get me wrong, but everyone copes differently.
I believe cars are meant to be driven. I see zero point in having a beautiful car and never driving it. Might as well have Miranda Kerr in your bed and sleeping on the ground cause you don't want to fudge her mascara...
We go through our entire lives being told what to do every step of the way. The garage was always the one place where you could indulge in your own passion, with not a care for the outside world.
1 year together. When I was younger, I could imagine myself with someone for 1, 4, 15 years together, but heartache in the past couple of years made me weary that I could achieve that, at least not at the age of 23. But through personal growth and finding a person who would and did grow with me, I am slowly hopeful that I can find a love that will last. My fear that we'll break up at any given day is fading away, replaced by a confidence that anything that is successful needs to be worked on tirelessly and living in fear hinders growth. I do not take our relationship for granted as I understand fully that what we have may not last forever. But through continuous growth, care, and communication, I think this can work. For how long I do not know, but I'm learning and growing and in love, and I can't help but be hopeful and count my blessings.
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