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It's so frustrating being not successful. A part of it is pressure I put on myself because I want to make my family, friends, boyfriend and anyone who saw potential/greatness in me proud of who I have become, what I have achieved, what I have contributed to this world. I don't want to let anyone down. My drive to achieve has slowly been whittled away and all I do is go to the gym cause that's the only thing where I see progress in my life. All the rejections from job applications and second interviews have really gotten to me now. And I see these postings for jobs I hope to one day achieve, but my education and background don't qualify me for even the lowest level job that peaks my interest, any interest at this point. I'm not sure what I should do to give me an advantage, not sure where my path should go.
Accompanying this is seeing my boyfriend progressing towards his goal while I am at a standstill and wondering if he will one day leave me because I'm an underachieving disappointment. I used to be so optimistic and driven to succeed. Now I don't know who I am anymore. Just another guy in the office getting a paycheck. That's not who I want to be. I need to find that passion and inner motivation and dedication. How do I unlock motivation?
/rant
by identifying passion. you really have to sit down and identify what are the things in life that would make you happy, what you could work endlessly towards and something that makes the length of time irrelevant. finding something you are unequivocally passionate about will give you that motivation.
My 3 year old niece told my dad that when she gets older she will be 'big and chubby'.
Now, no 3 year old just randomly says that unless it was being implanted in their mind. She's in pre-school now so it's hard to say if it's a kid or adult saying it.
Thing is, both parents are heavy, no question. But it's sad that kids need to be subjected to shit like this so early in their tender lives.
This is one of the reasons I'm not a parent. If my child said that to me, I'd flip all sorts of shit to get answers to track down the person who said it and beat the bloody shit out of them.
Why do people have to ruin childhood so quickly for our children?
Coming from a parent of four young boys aside from bullying what people say to them is the least of my worries....I'm a big guy and the older boys always say they wanna be big and fat like daddy anyways its society as a whole that can be detrimental to childhood...if I raise them with morals and ethics, to keep trying when the fail, and to always treat others they would want to be treated and so on. ..society isn't going to hold them back
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It's so frustrating being not successful. A part of it is pressure I put on myself because I want to make my family, friends, boyfriend and anyone who saw potential/greatness in me proud of who I have become, what I have achieved, what I have contributed to this world. I don't want to let anyone down. My drive to achieve has slowly been whittled away and all I do is go to the gym cause that's the only thing where I see progress in my life. All the rejections from job applications and second interviews have really gotten to me now. And I see these postings for jobs I hope to one day achieve, but my education and background don't qualify me for even the lowest level job that peaks my interest, any interest at this point. I'm not sure what I should do to give me an advantage, not sure where my path should go.
Accompanying this is seeing my boyfriend progressing towards his goal while I am at a standstill and wondering if he will one day leave me because I'm an underachieving disappointment. I used to be so optimistic and driven to succeed. Now I don't know who I am anymore. Just another guy in the office getting a paycheck. That's not who I want to be. I need to find that passion and inner motivation and dedication. How do I unlock motivation?
/rant
It may be a long road to success but once you stop believing in yourself the road ahead of you gets longer. To me motivation doesn't have to be complex, I keep things simple. Motivation is just moving one foot in front of the other towards better and greater things....that and I want my kids to have opportunities that I never had growing up. Plus probably as important is not doing it for others feelings but doing it for yourself. Rise to the occasion. I have faith in you.
Now to my rant.
Dad I wish you were still around so you can tell me how the fuck you raised us 4 kids. I have 4 of my own now wish we could have chatted and compare war stories. I just put the last one to bed ffs. I give you props. It's harder than I thought it would be but if you did it , I'm going to do it too. Miss you old man. You would've loved these little guys.
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^^ Don't worry about it. I learn form long ago that as long as I try my best that's all that matters. We are born and raise differently. I know for a fact I won't be as successful as someone who goes to private school, have tutor lessons everyday, goes to university etc etc but hey my parents are still proud of me. I have to live and be proud of who I am.
I am a criminal, I don't do drugs or steal, not into gambling. I have a decent job, great gf, great friends, purchase an apartment so I think I am pretty successful. Putting too much pressure on yourself is not a good thing.
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I believe cars are meant to be driven. I see zero point in having a beautiful car and never driving it. Might as well have Miranda Kerr in your bed and sleeping on the ground cause you don't want to fudge her mascara...
We go through our entire lives being told what to do every step of the way. The garage was always the one place where you could indulge in your own passion, with not a care for the outside world.
Coming from a parent of four young boys aside from bullying what people say to them is the least of my worries....I'm a big guy and the older boys always say they wanna be big and fat like daddy anyways its society as a whole that can be detrimental to childhood...if I raise them with morals and ethics, to keep trying when the fail, and to always treat others they would want to be treated and so on. ..society isn't going to hold them back
It may be a long road to success but once you stop believing in yourself the road ahead of you gets longer. To me motivation doesn't have to be complex, I keep things simple. Motivation is just moving one foot in front of the other towards better and greater things....that and I want my kids to have opportunities that I never had growing up. Plus probably as important is not doing it for others feelings but doing it for yourself. Rise to the occasion. I have faith in you.
Now to my rant.
Dad I wish you were still around so you can tell me how the fuck you raised us 4 kids. I have 4 of my own now wish we could have chatted and compare war stories. I just put the last one to bed ffs. I give you props. It's harder than I thought it would be but if you did it , I'm going to do it too. Miss you old man. You would've loved these little guys.
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Well I met up with the woman I talked to on the phone on Friday night. We had coffee this morning and it went well and we had good conversation, but there was no chemistry so we're not seeing each other again. But I'm glad we met up.
Starting a new job out in Langley next week, excited and kind of nervous. But it's pretty much exactly what I was doing before, so just nervous about the people and policies. Anyone know how commuting from Poco to Langley via Golden Ears is? Am I going with or against rush hour?
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It's so frustrating being not successful. A part of it is pressure I put on myself because I want to make my family, friends, boyfriend and anyone who saw potential/greatness in me proud of who I have become, what I have achieved, what I have contributed to this world. I don't want to let anyone down. My drive to achieve has slowly been whittled away and all I do is go to the gym cause that's the only thing where I see progress in my life. All the rejections from job applications and second interviews have really gotten to me now. And I see these postings for jobs I hope to one day achieve, but my education and background don't qualify me for even the lowest level job that peaks my interest, any interest at this point. I'm not sure what I should do to give me an advantage, not sure where my path should go.
Accompanying this is seeing my boyfriend progressing towards his goal while I am at a standstill and wondering if he will one day leave me because I'm an underachieving disappointment. I used to be so optimistic and driven to succeed. Now I don't know who I am anymore. Just another guy in the office getting a paycheck. That's not who I want to be. I need to find that passion and inner motivation and dedication. How do I unlock motivation?
/rant
and perhaps that's exactly what's whittling away your optimism and drive for success, the pressure of not wanting to let anyone down. that - in and of itself is extremely cumbersome because whatever choices you make and the actions you take will appease some and offend others. that is not to say it's impossible, but no one wins all their battles, so win the ones that matter most and appease those you hold close to your heart. remember that your success and potential is defined by you and you alone, don't live by people's definition of greatness - it's painful and people's expectations can suffocate you.
don't let the interviews and rejections get to you. use those interviews as a learning experience to get comfortable with making a presentation about yourself and answering tough questions - there's always room for improvement. rejections don't have to be viewed in a negative way, think of it as an opportunity for you to look for or be offered something better.
if going to the gym is where you see progress in life, keep doing that as it will keep you moving forward. also try to identify other aspects you can improve on to better yourself or just do whatever you want or like doing, start small then go for the bigger things in life. point is not to idle or you'll lose that momentum.
I believe cars are meant to be driven. I see zero point in having a beautiful car and never driving it. Might as well have Miranda Kerr in your bed and sleeping on the ground cause you don't want to fudge her mascara...
We go through our entire lives being told what to do every step of the way. The garage was always the one place where you could indulge in your own passion, with not a care for the outside world.
happy for the time together.
sad it wasn't 80 years.
unfortunate the way it ended.
optimistic about the things to come.
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anyways its society as a whole that can be detrimental to childhood...if I raise them with morals and ethics, to keep trying when the fail, and to always treat others they would want to be treated and so on. ..society isn't going to hold them back 
