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Old 05-30-2015, 08:33 AM   #20776
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Old 05-30-2015, 10:47 AM   #20777
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All my friends are either married or are getting married. 3/4 of them are unhappy as fuck. Don't do it just because everyone is doing it and pressuring you. Do it on your ownterms and if you do it just because, you're most likely going to wind up unhappier because it won't be like how you imagined it to be.

If you go out there, how many "couples" are on their fucking phones? That's like 80% of the night gone for those couples. I never want date those girls anymore. Who cares.

If it bothers you so much go find a group or club and be amongst people. Key word being "people"; not a place just to find a chick. Just open up to people. You only build character and confidence. I've truly only fell head over heels for my first, and one that I will probably never be able to see again. Those where the two best times of my life because I wasn't even looking for someone, it just happened because I was happy and people in general like being around others who are happy. I gotta say though, even when I was on cloud 9 with my first girlfriend, problems arose that I couldn't even imagine until I was actually in the relationship.

Just do your own thing and improve yourself. Trust me, patience and bettering yourself and getting worldly experience only adds to your desirability. You are only 20, you've not even scratched the surface of what this world has to offer. Gtfo and do shit. That is possibly the best advice I can ever give in my lifetime.
Wish I could thank you 1000x, I have never heard real advice such as this.

It's not that I'm lonely, my perception is that ppl with gf's have their sh*t together. And since it's happening to 80% of my friends, it seems like it's the "normal course" for a life event. Kind of like having a stable career by 30. I guess I was just freaking out tho lol, thanks bro.

How else can one better themselves in the meantime? I have a decent job, been studying a lot (no time to life), trying to get into investing, etc.
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Old 05-30-2015, 12:47 PM   #20778
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If you go out there, how many "couples" are on their fucking phones? That's like 80% of the night gone for those couples. I never want date those girls anymore. Who cares.
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Old 05-30-2015, 07:18 PM   #20780
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In this day and age... we find that the deal breaker is family unacceptance due to culture and "tradition"? Unreal. She's Indian, I'm Chinese.

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Old 05-30-2015, 08:58 PM   #20781
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In this day and age... we find that the deal breaker is family unacceptance due to culture and "tradition"? Unreal. She's Indian, I'm Chinese.
been there done that.
She was Chinese, I'm south asian.
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Old 05-30-2015, 11:53 PM   #20782
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Wish I could thank you 1000x, I have never heard real advice such as this.

It's not that I'm lonely, my perception is that ppl with gf's have their sh*t together. And since it's happening to 80% of my friends, it seems like it's the "normal course" for a life event. Kind of like having a stable career by 30. I guess I was just freaking out tho lol, thanks bro.

How else can one better themselves in the meantime? I have a decent job, been studying a lot (no time to life), trying to get into investing, etc.
Fuck "normal". Seriously. Take your own sweet time doing what you want to do. I've gotten a ton of pressure to be "normal" from my family. According to them, I should be married with kids already. I'm the black sheep of my family. 29, female, unmarried, and childless. I never conformed to what they wanted me to do because I simply wasn't comfortable with it; what they wanted me to be and expected me to be isn't ME. I have a lot of girl friends who got married "on time" and had kids shortly after, and they're miserable. They always tell me I'm lucky I still have all my freedom, as though they never had a choice. But they did have a choice, and they made the wrong one at the time.

I don't know what your ethnicity is, but I'm Asian and that means I'm expected to have my career set by my mid 20s. Guess what? I did a career change last year at the ripe old age of 28 and I'm finally happy with what I'm doing with my life. My career won't be stable for another 3-4 years most likely, and that's fine by me. Also, there's no set timeline for anything, especially stuff like relationships. You have to be comfortable being yourself, by yourself, before you're ready to share your life with someone.
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Old 05-31-2015, 12:08 AM   #20783
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Also, there's no set timeline for anything, especially stuff like relationships. You have to be comfortable being yourself, by yourself, before you're ready to share your life with someone.
This.. Very important advice
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Old 05-31-2015, 01:18 AM   #20784
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landed a job that'll further my career, but i don't want to quit my restaurant job yet 'cause of the honeys
decisions, decisions... looks like i'll be strapped for time for a little while lol
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Things are really starting to look up lately. Starting to find a lot more people with the same mentality with me, instead of just hanging around people who want to fuck around all the time. It's going to be very hard to stop being around people I've really grown to love and care about. Realizing now that things are going to be very tough the next few years, but it'll be all worth it when I am finally able to land my dream career.

Going to start making things happen instead of just talking about them all the time. Like beebeeanh says, it's never too late.
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Old 05-31-2015, 12:34 PM   #20788
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Think Ur friend is saying. Why aren't you hitting it yet?
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Old 06-02-2015, 08:41 PM   #20794
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Never thought I'd fall for your type.
Ain't gotta let this get in the way of me making my paper...
But for sure ain't no other woman gonna hold it down for you like I do...
Try to find another like me....you ain't going to find anyone better than me...


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Wish I could thank you 1000x, I have never heard real advice such as this.

It's not that I'm lonely, my perception is that ppl with gf's have their sh*t together. And since it's happening to 80% of my friends, it seems like it's the "normal course" for a life event. Kind of like having a stable career by 30. I guess I was just freaking out tho lol, thanks bro.

How else can one better themselves in the meantime? I have a decent job, been studying a lot (no time to life), trying to get into investing, etc.
People who have their shit together are the people who are self sufficient. You know the people who have truly made it are the ones who have found a partner not because they need a partner, but those who found a partner that compliments their life. Notice how I say partner and do not denote gender. Surround yourself with people who love and support you whether it be guys or girls or gender-ambiguous. Things will fall into place when you make your own brand.

When you say you are studying and working, that's great. It's the beginning of growing up and is a precursor and nothing more. Obviously what you are doing right now is not immediately landing you where you want to be. So yeah, there are an infinite amount of things you can do to better yourself and those you have to discover on your own. Good luck.
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People who have their shit together are the people who are self sufficient. You know the people who have truly made it are the ones who have found a partner not because they need a partner, but those who found a partner that compliments their life. Notice how I say partner and do not denote gender. Surround yourself with people who love and support you whether it be guys or girls or gender-ambiguous. Things will fall into place when you make your own brand.

When you say you are studying and working, that's great. It's the beginning of growing up and is a precursor and nothing more. Obviously what you are doing right now is not immediately landing you where you want to be. So yeah, there are an infinite amount of things you can do to better yourself and those you have to discover on your own. Good luck.
Thanks for the great advice. I really do appreciate it. Will not forget everyone's help when I do "make it".

As an aside, had a date today after so long. I knew the girl but we never really talked. Are first dates always supposed to be slightly awkward? At times the conversation seemed forced, I felt that we didn't connect as much as I was expecting... She didn't even message me yet and we parted ways a few hours ago... This sure is an expensive (time, effort, money, etc.) to learn
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it sucks how the shittiest and worst memories always leave the deepest and most lasting impression
i can remember every minute details of my worst memories and relive the emotions i felt then like it just happened.
i can't forget even if i tried, the more i try to forget, the better i'll remember things
and sometimes when they slip from my mind, all it takes is a trigger and it comes flooding back.

all this cus of a shitty dream.

i wish it was like this for happier memories but those always fade so fast.
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