Thanks you too

That feeling when someone tells you that you're their fave, bff whatever, and that they love you so much. :tears:

Except when it's a girl who friendzoned u lol

rookie mistake but srsly... scamming ppl going to the lion king ? Fuck you you cunt. What if i was a little kid and you crushed all his dreams ? Hope you get raped and die, bitch :rukidding:

First off, I absolutely acknowledge the fact that my wife has gone through a lot during and after the pregnancy. She's endured pain that I could never have imagined, and have had to deal with post partum depression.

Our baby is 3 months old now, and I've been getting a bit agitated lately over her constant complaints. Just last night, we went to bed at 1am, and woke up at about 8:30am. During the night, the baby woke up twice to feed, and from what she tells me falls right back to sleep afterwards. In the morning, after the baby woke up at 8:30am, my wife ended up sleeping again until 1pm. That's like 12 hrs of sleep, plus her naps during the day. Even with this level of rest, she's comstantly telling me how tired she is and how I'm not pulling my weight.

I confronted her about it and she just says I'm being inconsiderate. Am I totally off base here? I sleep maybe 7 hrs a night and take care of the baby while she sleeps during the day, and yet I'm being inconsiderate? From everyone that I've talked to, anything over 8 hrs is unheard of for a new mother.

Sometimes I feel like she's unprepared to change her lifestyle, and wants to feel like the way she felt before the baby and sleep 10+ hrs a day like she did before the pregnancy. But with a baby, I think it's pretty obvious that we all need to make some sacrifices when it comes to sleep.

Again, am I being the inconsiderate monster that she thinks I am, or is there some basis for what im thinking? I feel like a jerk for even posting this but I really need to get it off my chest, and hoping someone who's gone through something similar could shed some light...thanks.

From what you've posted, I get that feeling too...

But maybe she's one of those people who need a lot of sleep to function properly?

I think she has temporarily forgotten that once you have a kid, your needs become secondary to your child's needs.

As a parent to a 7 year old and 14 month old, I have also gone through numerous "WTF are we doing - will there ever be an end to this?" moments.

^^ It's not you.

I'm not a father like you but 90% of my buddies are having babies and are dealing with the same shit.
1) some girl's lifetime goal is to get married and then they realize. WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF, why can't i go out to party and i have to learn to cook???? i have to feed the baby??? it's a huge curve. However, having said that, there is that motherly love instinct they have

2)props to you for standing up. Hey, a man has it's limits and you did well by saying it. In a marriage, a man's needs comes first and then the kid (as per Christians)

best of luck to you and do appreciate you sharing.

i work around a lot of people who are just becoming first time parents and so far all i hear is chaos and sleep deprivation.
don't think you're off base...but you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.
i know it sucks but tbh, the best option is to suck it up because the last thing you want is to throw in another crisis on top of parenthood.

Canucksfan: your wife is being unreasonable. She should expect to get 2-3 hour naps if her baby is breastfeeding. She will be irritable (as will you), but having a baby means adjusting to a new reality. As the saying goes, "This shall pass..."

On the other hand, if you don't want to have a conversation about her expectations and just want the complaining to go away, have a conversation about switching to formula feeding so you can take over.

In terms of "pulling your weight", what are you doing around the house? Speaking from experience, you should pick up the slack with the chores, meal planning, etc. When you get home from work, take the baby for an hour and go for walks, or drives. She feeds, but you should burp her and put the baby to sleep. Sometimes, you just have to live with more clutter, or take-out though. Again, this too shall pass...

12hrs sleep with a newborn? :fuckthatshit: :lawl:

Ofcourse if you're taking 2-3 hour naps you will be tired and very irritable because you're not getting that "deep sleep" your body desires, but that's the sacrifice of having a fucking kid. As Tapioca said, during the constant feedings and such, you will be taking over with cooking and cleaning abit more, but you shouldn't be doing everything.

(Advice? Have a whiteboard calendar, put all errands and things to be done on there. Also have a "Chores" list so your wife can see who's doing what and you 2 can have a conversation over what is "FAIR")

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Fucking exhausted. 2 months until September when FT work and FT nightschool starts. It's time to just sit back, and quietly enjoy this summer. Goodbye people, I'll be MIA at night for awhile. :sleepingzz:

not to slam, troll or belittle new parents and the trails and tribulations of child raising but you parents with single babies have it easy. imagine it x2
coming from a guy with two sets of twins (8yo and 17mths) just know that it doesn't matter what we dads do....to the moms it's never enough.

One piece of advice for new parents though and it's something you have to "negotiate" with your partner is to alternate days(nights) when taking care of the kids and having "days off"(guys night/girls night out once every 2 weeks etc.) this does wonders to refresh you.

but in anycase even with all the added stress we as parents have just seeing that little person(s) look up at you and smile or just fall asleep in your arms or making that pooping face, or pee shiver, or puking all over you in the middle of the night when you're dead tired, crying because they are looking for you and wont feel comfortable unless you hold the little fucker......i wouldn;t change a thing. There are no regrets when bringing a new life into this world. enjoy it when you can because soon they'll be growing up too fast and you will miss the sleepless nights cuddling with a little child.

Gl and congrats to all new parents on here.

^ This is true - they grow up quickly, so enjoy the little moments when you can.

gotta love working from home !!

went to prive last weekend. manlets. manlets everywhere.

5' 5" manlet of peace here

wassup ಠ_ಠ

:heckno:

Wait, how tall are you? :p

I still don't understand what happened. One day we were fine and the next you told me it was over. Everyone keeps telling me to move on, I can do better. It's not that easy when you have a permanent attachment to that person. I'm so lost right now.

That night? 5'8 hahaha

shiet qurl how many inches did them heels give ya

Argh annoying when you want something you can't have. :(

this weekend reminded me of you and the things we used to do - wine, roadtrip, wedding, and beautiful moments all around.

wherever you are, whatever you are doing, i wish you nothing but the best!

Haha "that night"... Guess you were looking down at the manlets then, LoL!

But ur a pinner. So doesn't that make u a pinnlet