Speak it Out

[EvoLove]

Originally Posted by Inaii

That isn't something to be proud of.

im not proud of it, I think im stupid, but I'm doing what I feel right. it will hurt me more but the pain is only temporary.

[ZN6]

Evo, don't be too hard on yourself. Not one of us can escape from doing something stupid in our lives. It's a matter of how you learn from your mistakes.

I'm not going to mitigate the pain you are feeling but it's only as painful as you let it on to be or however long you intend to dwell on it.

I've told you to forget it a long while ago, but humored the situation until it was revealed what you've actually done. I am sorry I told you to keep going and I should have stuck by my gut feeling in telling you to GTFO. But then again, would you have listened? Reality is, you didn't.

I would honestly break a friendship if it means that it avoids my friend getting destroyed by a "significant other". You know what, it happened in my life. I gave very reasoned response to what I felt about one good buddy's girlfriend/fiancee/wife. I was there since nearly the beginning. All the warning signs were there; he dodged his friends, his family, their questions on where his money was going etc etc. In the end, he got owned and blinded and turned against everyone who cared. Now he's out a friend and out a tonne of money and out a wife. I tried to reconnect, but at that point he's turned bitter. I gave my opinion and it didn't end well. I am probably wrong in being honest, but would I have been a good friend if I saw a pot hole and never told him that it was coming up? Probably not.

It might be hard to do, but just step out of your shoes and just imagine looking in from a perspective of a third person. I know people will say don't care what other's think if you love that person. I say that's bullshit. You have to care about what the outside world thinks of your relationship to some degree.

I'll say you're doing the right thing by focusing on going to lift, and bettering yourself. But don't put off stuff and say you have only family and school to focus on.

Don't talk back don't respond to this message and just listen because your typical response is to just instantly fire back with a knee-jerk comment with something without truly thinking about the situation and letting what people are telling you sink in. For example, you're gonna read my original message of "It's a matter of how you learn from your mistakes." and your first thought is to say "I am learning from my mistakes".No; no you haven't. Because if you did learn from your mistakes you wouldn't be continually spiraling into jack-assary.

We are all trying to help you, bro. It will help you in the long run when you stop, assess, then calculate a response that's appropriate. When you can do this, it will be a sign on growth and maturity.

[Euro7r]

I gotta quit being a pussy and go balls to the wall. Don't want no regrets!

[dlo]

petition to ban evolove from this thread to save himself from more heartbreak and stupidity..
jokes aside

bday coming out, really miss all of my friends, been so mia, guess its an excuse to go party n see everyone

[Presto]

I think I've had 2 different flus in the last 2 weeks. Is it still worth getting a flu shot?

[PK-EK]

Originally Posted by Presto

I think I've had 2 different flus in the last 2 weeks. Is it still worth getting a flu shot?

YES!

[Euro7r]

Well I've tried to talk to you......

[JShifter]

I don't know where to start , but lets speak it out, you know that feeling when you have everything that your comfortable with? for example like a decent car, decent job and etc but your still missing something in your life but you just can't figure it out? Everyone starts to drift apart when your growing up, meeting new friends that the process of life, maybe I'm just missing the fact that someone was there for me all the time? who know's. It's even harder to meet someone in Vancouver, its always the right place at the wrong time, or the right person at the wrong time. Every time you think you met the one they have someone already in mind. xmas is coming up and everyone so happy with there couples, while I sit back and looking why can't that be me as well. I can go on forever but speak it out : ).

[Euro7r]

Originally Posted by JShifter

I don't know where to start , but lets speak it out, you know that feeling when you have everything that your comfortable with? for example like a decent car, decent job and etc but your still missing something in your life but you just can't figure it out? Everyone starts to drift apart when your growing up, meeting new friends that the process of life, maybe I'm just missing the fact that someone was there for me all the time? who know's. It's even harder to meet someone in Vancouver, its always the right place at the wrong time, or the right person at the wrong time. Every time you think you met the one they have someone already in mind. xmas is coming up and everyone so happy with there couples, while I sit back and looking why can't that be me as well. I can go on forever but speak it out : ).

Sounds like/exactly how I feel. I always ask myself, "what next". It gets to the point where I don't feel money buys happiness anymore as there is that final missing piece in my life. Maybe that's why I try to buy things here and then to temporary/cover up that void, so I don't feel that way (dumb away any feelings). I am starting to really hate festive seasons and I only like summer time because everyone is gathering together in such good happy times.

As I get older, my circle of friends gets smaller as they are starting to shift into a different phase in life, marriage/kids etc. Also meeting new people becomes more difficult due to work and not like going to school where every class you attend can meet someone new.

[PK-EK]

Originally Posted by JShifter

I don't know where to start , but lets speak it out, you know that feeling when you have everything that your comfortable with? for example like a decent car, decent job and etc but your still missing something in your life but you just can't figure it out? Everyone starts to drift apart when your growing up, meeting new friends that the process of life, maybe I'm just missing the fact that someone was there for me all the time? who know's. It's even harder to meet someone in Vancouver, its always the right place at the wrong time, or the right person at the wrong time. Every time you think you met the one they have someone already in mind. xmas is coming up and everyone so happy with there couples, while I sit back and looking why can't that be me as well. I can go on forever but speak it out : ).

had this feeling for about 5 years now.
I guess you can say i've learned to live with it.

I totally understand where you are coming from and what you're saying. but just do things to keep yourself busy.
as cliche as it sounds: Try new things, meet new people.
My old HS group really started to drift apart. to the point where we met up once a year. and it started getting awkward.
I couldn't rely on that group of friends to be my main support anymore. So i got a second job (might of not been the smartest thing to do for my mental help) but I made new friends.
Touched bases with old friends (who knows maybe, they are in a similar stage in life as you are now, even though they weren't a few years ago)

This summer I finally quit my second job for good.
caught up with an old friend i've knew since i was 10
Started racing my car and working on it more. made new car friends. did a weekly meet up.

Next summer i'm planning to go to motorcycle school. That'll keep my busy for a while too.

as for the love thing. IDK what to tell you. I'm on the same fucking boat.

[Inaii]

Things are so much easier when you have someone building you up instead of constantly tearing you down. It's weird but, even with the distance, I'm so much happier than I've ever been. He makes getting up in the morning so much easier

[JShifter]

Originally Posted by Inaii

Things are so much easier when you have someone building you up instead of constantly tearing you down. It's weird but, even with the distance, I'm so much happier than I've ever been. He makes getting up in the morning so much easier

That's a great feeling to have, I miss it so much and long for it. It's crazy how one person can actually brighten up your day and keep you moving and looking forward. especially texting, once you wake up that person him or her send's good morning just makes your day. It's crazy how the human mind and heart connects. Im very happy for you : )

[Inaii]

Thanks It's a weird feeling, we've been friends for nearly 10 years and always (apparently) secretly had feelings for the other but never said anything until now. But even just as a friend, he always made my day when he'd send me random messages (especially if he knew I was feeling down or was having a rough spot with my ex).

[guurl]

^ I have a friend like that too! Except he moved to ontario two years ago so we don't talk as much as we used to.

But whenever we do it's like nothing has ever changed! It's weird but I can only see him as my friend no matter how much I liked him as a person.

It's probably because im afraid of ruining the relationship that we already have.

[Not really racist!]

Originally Posted by Inaii

Thanks It's a weird feeling, we've been friends for nearly 10 years and always (apparently) secretly had feelings for the other but never said anything until now. But even just as a friend, he always made my day when he'd send me random messages (especially if he knew I was feeling down or was having a rough spot with my ex).

time to tell the story about how the fella escaped the friend zone

[Armind]

Don't give Evo hope.

Originally Posted by Not really racist!

time to tell the story about how the fella escaped the friend zone

[Inaii]

Originally Posted by Not really racist!

time to tell the story about how the fella escaped the friend zone

He was never in it in the first place The only time he was ever firmly in the FZ, was when we were seeing other people. And even then there was always that undertone of tension

Originally Posted by Armind

Don't give Evo hope.

There is no hope for Evo, you know that

[Armind]

[!e.lo_]

Originally Posted by JShifter

Spoiler!

I don't know where to start , but lets speak it out, you know that feeling when you have everything that your comfortable with? for example like a decent car, decent job and etc but your still missing something in your life but you just can't figure it out? Everyone starts to drift apart when your growing up, meeting new friends that the process of life, maybe I'm just missing the fact that someone was there for me all the time? who know's. It's even harder to meet someone in Vancouver, its always the right place at the wrong time, or the right person at the wrong time. Every time you think you met the one they have someone already in mind. xmas is coming up and everyone so happy with there couples, while I sit back and looking why can't that be me as well. I can go on forever but speak it out : ).

I think you need to set yourself up some goals. That will keep you occupied.

[guurl]

Has anybody here ever played with a ouija board?

[ZN6]

Time to explore options outside of Canada. 3 more working days until new beginnings.

[Armind]

Korea?

Originally Posted by ZN6

Time to explore options outside of Canada. 3 more working days until new beginnings.

[!e.lo_]

Originally Posted by guurl

Has anybody here ever played with a ouija board?

Ya when I was like 12?
Didn't do anything.

Just played Golden Eye and Mario Kart 64 instead.

[guurl]

Originally Posted by !e.lo_

Ya when I was like 12?
Didn't do anything.

Just played Golden Eye and Mario Kart 64 instead.

One of my friends tried and he said he'd never touch it again

So i started reading a bunch of stories on reddit and their experiences were pretty similar to what he told me

[Skittlez160]

I'm pretty much done helping you out. I get it, you can't help someone who doesn't want help. But I thought maybe you were different, I guess not. I wish you the best....