Speak it Out

[threezero]

Originally Posted by Euro7r

Would it be too soon to ask her out to meet in person? We've exchanged three messages since yesterday evening. It's like no right or wrong answer, depends on the person as each person is different. Some can perceive it as too quick, some would feel let's get to the point.

its not too soon. The beauty with online dating app is that everybody on the app knows each other intention. she is on there looking for either hookups and potential long term relationship. Until you have met up with her, in her mind you are not real. For all she knows you could be a 13 year old boy faking it.

I can bet you she is texting multiple guys right now, you are just giving free chance for other players in the game by prolonging seeing her.

All it takes it takes is for one of the guys to woo her on a real date, and you are out of the game.

You fail 100% of the chances you don't take. Ask her out before its too late.

[Euro7r]

Originally Posted by threezero

its not too soon. The beauty with online dating app is that everybody on the app knows each other intention. she is on there looking for either hookups and potential long term relationship. Until you have met up with her, in her mind you are not real. For all she knows you could be a 13 year old boy faking it.

I can bet you she is texting multiple guys right now, you are just giving free chance for other players in the game by prolonging seeing her.

All it takes it takes is for one of the guys to woo her on a real date, and you are out of the game.

You fail 100% of the chances you don't take. Ask her out before its too late.

Done! Message sent. If successful, buying you beer!!!!

[Euro7r]

Okay, she said busy this weekend with plans and next week after work might work.

I guess I'm still in the game lol

[Galactic_Phantom]

You know I'm not fired yet, you guys can still respond to my emails and phone calls. I'm still an employee as of now and you supervisors should be more professional than that.

[PK-EK]

Yes!

it is never too late/early to ask for a date!

*walks up to random girl*
"Hi! my Name is PK, would you like to go on a date?"

[Euro7r]

Originally Posted by PK-EK

Yes!

it is never too late/early to ask for a date!

*walks up to random girl*
"Hi! my Name is PK, would you like to go on a date?"

I asked her to go out for dessert, get to know her in person to see if we tango together. Not a "date date" yet...Well at least that's how I perceive it.

[PK-EK]

where are you going for dessert?!?!?

[Euro7r]

Originally Posted by PK-EK

where are you going for dessert?!?!?

Initially plan was to go try out beta5 and then go for a walk around false creek area, since she told me she likes to try out new places. Although it only opens during day time hours.

Any suggestions for dessert that has worked well? I don't want to be in a sit down place because I personally don't dwell well in those environment since it becomes like an interview (didn't have good experience with that previously).

[alwayslive]

No need to make things so formal like "date date", first meet ups are for for seeing if you guys vibe anyways.

Met up with a girl on tinder a few weeks ago just to chill for the first time, we ended up talking for more than 4 hours haha, been talking ever since. Good luck to you buddy!

EDIT: Granville island, Steveston in Richmond are really good for just getting dessert and walking around. Even if it's just ice cream, there's so much going on in those areas that it'll never get awkward

[PK-EK]

Originally Posted by Euro7r

...... I don't want to be in a sit down place because I personally don't dwell well in those environment since it becomes like an interview (didn't have good experience with that previously).

That's a very good point.
I had one meet up from a dating site and it was a total interview.
but, keep it mind it still might turn out like one even if you change the environment.

[PK-EK]

Originally Posted by alwayslive

....... Granville island, Steveston in Richmond are really good for just getting dessert and walking around. Even if it's just ice cream, there's so much going on in those areas that it'll never get awkward

Richmond Fish Cannery museum is free this year because of Canada 150!

Timothy's Frozen Yogurt in Stevenson!

[BaoTurbo]

I got no matches on Tinder

[Euro7r]

I am trying to keep any "chatting" to a minimal before seeing her in person; however, I go from one extreme to another (couple of sentences each time to like 1-2 now), might give off wrong vibe I have less to say/got bored??

She sent a one sentence message today, not sure if she's thinking the same thing, keep chat to minimal now until we meet or she finds me boring and nothing much to say lol.

[threezero]

Originally Posted by Euro7r

I am trying to keep any "chatting" to a minimal before seeing her in person; however, I go from one extreme to another (couple of sentences each time to like 1-2 now), might give off wrong vibe I have less to say/got bored??

She sent a one sentence message today, not sure if she's thinking the same thing, keep chat to minimal now until we meet or she finds me boring and nothing much to say lol.

You are over thinking this. It doesn't really matter since you havn't met her yet. I take it you have been initiating chatting this whole time. she has been responding according to your text level aka mirroring. its completely normal. you should do the same

what going on is you are only chatting with/ interested in this girl so you are over analyzing everything. Her on the other hand is probably chatting with multiple guys and *hopefully* isn't really interested any of them yet. So you tune down the msging, she starts chatting with other guys that are trying to woo her with text message (remember this doesnt work) or any of the other friends that she chat with daily thru text.

Thats ok, remember you don't want to be those people. You want to the person she think about while texting other people,

"ummm i wonder euro7r is doing he hasn't text me in a while"
you goal is one day for her to initiate text because she genuinely misses you.


This won't happen before you met her anyways, so dont over analyze it.

Don't disappear either but your goal right now is the first date. she could be chatting with million other guys, whoever get and nails the first date wins first round

[Euro7r]

^This! I talk, she responds to what I say.

I'm thinking to myself, what the hell should I even talk about to keep the so called "online conversation at least engaging", so that she doesn't lose interest before we meet in person. Man, the strategies to this online stuff is mind boggling...

[gdoh]

I broke up with my gf almost a year ago after being together for just about 10 years. The one thing that I miss the most is the companionship but, I'm over it and she seems to be as well with her new bf.

Is it normal to not be actively looking for someone or not really caring if it comes about?

[threezero]

Originally Posted by Euro7r

^This! I talk, she responds to what I say.

I'm thinking to myself, what the hell should I even talk about to keep the so called "online conversation at least engaging", so that she doesn't lose interest before we meet in person. Man, the strategies to this online stuff is mind boggling...

don't, you have already done enough chatting for this stage. Nail down a day for the date, you can even stop messaging her till the day before. Continue about you day as if she doesn't exist.

Ask her the day before if she is still good for the date the next day, tell her what time you are picking her up end with a good night and see you tomorrow.


Now when you finally get her out in person you can let out a little. you will also have more to talk about because of the absence in daily msging.

[Euro7r]

Originally Posted by threezero

don't, you have already done enough chatting for this stage. Nail down a day for the date, you can even stop messaging her till the day before. Continue about you day as if she doesn't exist.

Ask her the day before if she is still good for the date the next day, tell her what time you are picking her up end with a good night and see you tomorrow.


Now when you finally get her out in person you can let out a little. you will also have more to talk about because of the absence in daily msging.

She messaged me last night around 10pm and I haven't responded since. I am going to reply now since I am have to nail down the day/time.

It's fine if we both meet at a place?, don't think I need to offer to pick her up. Might come off as creepy for someone you never met?

*Update Jul 30/17*
Date/time confirmed. I asked her where she would like to meet for dessert due to courtesy, she didn't respond to that question. When I message her again Monday to make sure Tuesday is still a go and mention let's meet at this location? She's indeed answering things I ask/mention about. Messaging has toned down completely to one liners now lol.

I didn't ask for her number online because might not be comfortable giving it away. Plus there is no way we won't recognize each other from the profile pictures. So plan is to ask for her number at the end of the night and nail down a date date if all goes well.

[tiger_handheld]

How do ya'll keep the honey moon phase going / keep the romance alive with careers, finances, and general adulting in the daily life?

[BaoTurbo]

Originally Posted by tiger_handheld

How do ya'll keep the honey moon phase going / keep the romance alive with careers, finances, and general adulting in the daily life?

Find the right puzzle piece to yours. Lol

[ilovebacon]

if you put out effort into creating fun, great, romantic dishes at separate occasion for a girl you are interested in and she decided to take you out but are not impressed with her cooking skills. Will that be a turn off for you guys?
I feel like I put out more effort than she does too.
She's not from the western world.
I guess the cultural differences isnt easy for me to adapt to.

[PK-EK]

You spend all your life being the "victim" and for the first time in your life you are the "antagonist"
Feel so weird.


just because it was one of the short chapters, doesn't mean it wasn't a good one.

[Mr.HappySilp]

Originally Posted by Euro7r

Initially plan was to go try out beta5 and then go for a walk around false creek area, since she told me she likes to try out new places. Although it only opens during day time hours.

Any suggestions for dessert that has worked well? I don't want to be in a sit down place because I personally don't dwell well in those environment since it becomes like an interview (didn't have good experience with that previously).

I usually go to a cafe for first date. Is easy and is relaxing. Also in a cafe you can usually sit there for 1 hour or more during their slow/downtime. There is also snacks/deserts so you/her feels hungry you guys can grab something to eat.

Is also a very cheap first date for both parties. If things don't go well you can always leave early as well.

[Fafine]

Originally Posted by PK-EK

You spend all your life being the "victim" and for the first time in your life you are the "antagonist"
Feel so weird.


just because it was one of the short chapters, doesn't mean it wasn't a good one.

Owell on to the next one

[Armind]

Funny how someone who's incapable of competing with the rest of the colleagues on fitbit be talking shit about someone who's currently first lol.

Hate the game, not the player fat boy.