Did you like her because she was one of the few that reciprocated the feelings at first? Was the one when you were 18 the first one?

Thought there was finally gonna be a happy ending to PK's story :alone:

Honestly. It really is. She is the first one that actually reciprocated feelings to me. And that's was why i wanted it to work out so badly.

The one when i met when i was 18 never openly admitted to anything.

Soooo... I'm trying to understand what this girl is looking for...

Met this girl almost 3 months ago and we've only had ONE date. I thought it went ok but I wouldn't have been surprised if she decided to "ghost" me. However, we've been messaging pretty much everyday since and I've tried to schedule a second date; but her school/work sched gets in the way... A few weeks ago, I was kinda annoyed and asked her if she was just avoiding a second date and told her she doesn't have to if she doesn't want to.

She told me she's just really busy cause assignments are due and people are leaving where she works and I understand. What puzzles me is that if she was interested she would try her best to accommodate and if she wasn't, she wouldn't be replying to my texts or put me off. Additionally, I do "hit" on her through my texts and she knows that I like her. She did tell me that she would be avail in the middle of Aug and she has been saying things like "oh I'm almost done this final".

Kind of a headache trying to guess what this girl wants...

Unnecessary post

Understand how you feel. When you find a girl that's awesome yet it just wasn't the right timing to date, it just ain't meant to be.

Been single for 2 yrs now and I still dredd the feeling on my x being one that does reciprocate feelings and has a smile on her face every time....

yes, seems like I'll be :alone: but it just means I gotta keep looking.

Appears to me that you are no different than being single at this point. If she is interested, I am sure she can squeeze at least even 1-2 hours from her week to at least "see" you. Sounds like bullshit she is even that busy. E.g. No time to even get together for a quick meal...(I'm sure she eats...)

To me it seems like yes she is interested in you, but she isn't going to change her life style or change her existing priorities to accommodate this.

keep trying and going at it. You just need to show her you are worth her time.

Or you could risk it and not reply to her. and play mind games with her.
make her think "why isn't Speedstars texting me?"
But, she sounds like the type of girl that wouldn't take that kind shit. I feel like you would probably loose her if you did this

depends how much you like this girl and if you feel like she is worth your time and patients

woah woah woah, hold it right there. you make it sound like they are already "dating" and he sealed the deal.
They merely went on ONE date. nothing is established yet.

Civic's are Fast - Miata's are Faster
but my TSX will smoke you

I was looking things from a "time/intent" perspective haha. If she ain't willing to make time to see him (second date), he won't be able to establish anything. They met 3 months ago and haven't seen since? If the girl had interested intent, don't think someone would wait this long...

Honestly, I have no idea how girls think, let alone this girl
but the story I picture in my head is that she has had some bad past dates and short relationships. so this time around she is more cautious about making moves and being too emotionally invested too early.

This is usually why I'm on this forum. to make magical love stories up in my head.
You guys remember the story I made about the brother and sister love story a couple weeks back rite? Golden story!

I've actually stopped texting for like a day or two but she usually says something along the lines of "hey did u forget to reply" or something random. She is almost done classes so I guess I'll see how it goes..

Don't give up! Hang in there!

PK-EK's TSX smoked my miata

fuck this shit.


I'm promoting the side chick

Another update.
Literally on 3rd base and about to reach home plate in starting a long-term relationship with her. First dinner "spend time together/date" went well I'd say, some things could have been better; overall great because we spent almost 4 hours together. Walked away quite confident she is interested/attracted to me based on the interaction/vibe.

She is away on vacation mid next week, so I am hoping either cross home plate before she leaves/after she gets back.

The only thing uncertain variable at this point is whether she may be seeing others. Some people mask it so well, it's hard to even tell. It's like they want to pick and choose the best, although I don't believe I am in that situation, but it ain't official til I cross home plate.

everyone should know the difference between love and lust! sometimes the idea of someone sounds good but it isn't as good as you think it'll be

Called it off with the girl. Complete waste of time.

Now to focus on getting an s15 :sweetjesus:

How did you call it off? Face to face or just through a text message?
When she asked you if you forgot to reply to her texts you should've pulled what she does and tell her you were to busy.

If you haven't already, download Bumble to your phone. Best dating app ever haha. You'll be on a date by Friday!

Just told her through text it's not gonna work if she keeps making up excuses and that she wasted 2 months of my time. Think I'm gonna hold off on online dating for now.

Wow, with another turn of event. Feel like I am going to get struck out for stealing to home base.

Found out she's seeing another person as well. I don't know if I should take it as a challenge. All that pressure now. Committed so much time the past few weeks...

I don't even know where I currently stand now. All signs pointed she is interested in me....I don't know anymore....

The one fucking variable that was unknown that I feared.

For Fuck Sake!

I just realized I essentially had 3 months of summer, and spent 3 weeks cleaning my room because it got ransacked by my parent.

I better get this contract by next year so I can get the fuck outta here.

To add. She's not committed in anyway to me, so it's fair she see's others. Right now I am at a 50/50 chance. I have another date end of next week (could be my last or could be many more to come going forward). I feel like my mentality right now is, I have to bring the best out of me to set myself apart from the other person and also impress so that I have the highest chance to succeed. Other than that, there's not much I can do at the moment or "prepare" for??

Planning to take her on a hike, that way we have plenty of opportunities to communicate and at the same time have plenty of fun.

Hang in there! Don't have to prove her anything. She just needs to feel the most comfortable around you compared to the others. Best of luck!

Last week while drunk, I joined Tinder. After getting an indentation in my phone's glass from all the swipe-lefts I was doing, I decided to be more flexible and swipe right more liberally.

About a week into using this app, I got a match (the other person swiped right first). I sent her a simple 'hello' message and in about two minutes we were umatched lol.

App uninstalled...

I've seen better train wrecks on the History Channel anyway.

I was on the same boat. If you walk away and she doesnt chase you back. Dont even look back. Just know that it was a good experience to learn from it. You leveled up if you don't continue things with her anymore

Are there still even people out there who put in 50/50 of their effort to keep a relationship alive?