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10-26-2017, 01:19 PM
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#23376 | | I STILL don't get it
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Originally Posted by PK-EK  She was a good girlfriend. Just not good soul mate.
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10-26-2017, 01:53 PM
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#23377 | | うに
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Originally Posted by TOS'd The reason for Speak it Out is to actually set PK-EK up with someone, whether that be someone from this thread or outside of RS. |
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10-26-2017, 02:03 PM
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#23378 | | うに
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Originally Posted by TOS'd The reason for Speak it Out is to actually set PK-EK up with someone, whether that be someone from this thread or outside of RS. |
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10-26-2017, 05:08 PM
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#23379 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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Originally Posted by PK-EK On Monday I get a message from her saying she needs a ride after school at 9pm
(After the breakup I told her she could message me if she ever needed help)
I figured this was one of those rare times where she had to stay late afterschool and it being so late; it would be hard to catch a bus home.
Picked her up drove her home, said no more than 5 words during the car ride.
last night i got the same text message.... so I did the same picked her up
said Hey. Said goodnight dropped her off.
*I was starting to wonder that maybe her classes actually ended and 9pm and what she did the rest of the time that I didn't drive her*
I get a text in the middle of the night saying "I want you back"
I replied this morning with a list of reasons why we broke up in the first place.
Why I wasn't right for her.
Example: I am very Hong Kong Orientated and she said it herself that Hong Kong people do not like mainlanders (She called me out once for it... and I was like WTF?!?! I'm CBC)
I also pointed out that I don't simply want a Girlfriend, but a Soul mate. Someone who understands me on a deeper level. and that isn't something that can be just learnt overnight.
I told her that if she really wanted to get back together, I would give it a try. but only if she was willing to change her mindset.
I also told her that she would not be happy with herself if she changed into my ideal partner. | Hong Kong/CBC is more like a team effort when you're in a relationship or at least you would desire to achieve that level of companionship. I feel like Mainland is more like all on the male side of the family and everything is to be handled by the man himself, not much support really.
I know a buddy that took years of effort and dealing with shit to turn his gf into a culture where its a team effort and the value of earning hard money. She changed a lot but she was never like this. Many things needed to be shown and guided and the psychology that goes into it is immense if you can imagine. Like a game of Inception from explaining what a real job is, making money, coming from different backrounds, all that needs to be guided carefully before they reached to this stage. Because who doesn't want to live the easy life? The life where you don't need to do much and live off someone else maybe?
Tough. But I think you have a long road ahead
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10-26-2017, 09:57 PM
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#23380 | | RS has made me the bitter person i am today!
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Jesus, you have an M3 somewhere, pick up some chicks and show them a good time and who knows, maybe you'll have a good time too.  | Was thinking that too E93 M3 at such a young age 
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10-26-2017, 10:11 PM
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#23381 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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10-26-2017, 10:50 PM
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#23382 | | I STILL don't get it
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Originally Posted by PK-EK On Monday I get a message from her saying she needs a ride after school at 9pm
(After the breakup I told her she could message me if she ever needed help)
I figured this was one of those rare times where she had to stay late afterschool and it being so late; it would be hard to catch a bus home.
Picked her up drove her home, said no more than 5 words during the car ride.
last night i got the same text message.... so I did the same picked her up
said Hey. Said goodnight dropped her off.
*I was starting to wonder that maybe her classes actually ended and 9pm and what she did the rest of the time that I didn't drive her*
I get a text in the middle of the night saying "I want you back"
I replied this morning with a list of reasons why we broke up in the first place.
Why I wasn't right for her.
Example: I am very Hong Kong Orientated and she said it herself that Hong Kong people do not like mainlanders (She called me out once for it... and I was like WTF?!?! I'm CBC)
I also pointed out that I don't simply want a Girlfriend, but a Soul mate. Someone who understands me on a deeper level. and that isn't something that can be just learnt overnight.
I told her that if she really wanted to get back together, I would give it a try. but only if she was willing to change her mindset.
I also told her that she would not be happy with herself if she changed into my ideal partner. | If she needs to change drastically for her to be ideal to you, i think its a waste to try, no??
I once was in a relationship where I felt I had to work at being someone else for him to love me the way I did him. Feels bad man lol. It also feels unnatural and sparks up resentment. I think the dynamic is really not healthy for a relationship. Now for me, if a dude ever told me I had to change to be ideal for him I would reply with FUCKIN SEE YA PAL. Lmao, cuz if I'm gonna change for anyone, its gonna be for myself because thats the only way it will really work & stick. When I was younger, i would take that as a challenge that needed to be accepted but I know now doing that doesnt serve me or him in the long run. The ideal person/relationship will never ask the other to change but only to grow together. Also something Ive seen/learned, if you're iffy about her now, you always will be.
If what you really want is a soul mate, you need to create space in your life for one. The thing with soul mate attraction is, you need to go all in or not at all. You need to really define what a soul mate means to you and put that out in the Universe.
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10-26-2017, 11:09 PM
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#23383 | | I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
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*you message me a month later saying hi, when you were on vacation for 2 weeks.
You were online messaging other dudes already, you are such a boomerang.
I done with you a month ago, not even going to waste time being friends.
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10-27-2017, 05:30 AM
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#23384 | | Ask me about killing a hobo and dumping his body in the river
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Originally Posted by Presto Evo, you seem like you make decent coin. I've learned that my cousin's MO in getting a girl is to invite them on a trip somewhere, like Hawaii, Vegas or even London. If they yes to then you're definitely gonna get a lot of poon and maybe a gf, after. He married the London girl, last month. | Well its not like i haven't gone that route,I went to Taiwan with the girl i was seeing, i would say we had lots of fun. it was also a very new experience for me since the furthest i had left Vancouver was Seattle and Prince George, Im planning on going to Cancun, Bali, Hong Kong, or Japan this coming summer.
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10-27-2017, 08:22 AM
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#23385 | | うに
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Originally Posted by TOS'd The reason for Speak it Out is to actually set PK-EK up with someone, whether that be someone from this thread or outside of RS. |
Last edited by PK-EK; 10-14-2021 at 11:41 AM.
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10-27-2017, 08:40 AM
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#23386 | | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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Originally Posted by PK-EK Even after telling her all this...
She still wants to try....
but she thinks its a simple list that i can give her that she needs to change.
No.... its not a simple fucking list; its more of a mindset and mentality
she really wants to get back together...  | I've dated an MLC girl before. From my experience, her and her friends are in two ends of the spectrum. She wanted to make absolutely NO choice and makes you do all the decision making for her. The other end of the spectrum her friends are making the man the bitch, bag holder. It doesn't seem like there's middle ground, with their culture.
Again, not statistically significant, but that's my experience. MLC girl culture does not align with mine. That's a really big power struggle.
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10-27-2017, 10:05 AM
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#23387 | | I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
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Originally Posted by PK-EK Even after telling her all this...
She still wants to try....
but she thinks its a simple list that i can give her that she needs to change.
No.... its not a simple fucking list; its more of a mindset and mentality
she really wants to get back together... | just walk away yo. You'll be the one she can never ever have. That'll teach her a lesson. Don't be the one going back and then 3 months later, she says,"sorry it ain't working out" when you have poured your heart into it just to get dumped again.
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10-27-2017, 10:34 AM
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#23388 | | うに
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Originally Posted by TOS'd The reason for Speak it Out is to actually set PK-EK up with someone, whether that be someone from this thread or outside of RS. |
Last edited by PK-EK; 10-14-2021 at 11:41 AM.
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10-27-2017, 11:12 AM
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#23389 | | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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Originally Posted by EvoLove Well its not like i haven't gone that route,I went to Taiwan with the girl i was seeing, i would say we had lots of fun. it was also a very new experience for me since the furthest i had left Vancouver was Seattle and Prince George, Im planning on going to Cancun, Bali, Hong Kong, or Japan this coming summer. | Shut up, Evo, just shut up. Here's what you need to do:
Drop LG like a bad habit. Surround yourself with some good people and get your god damn confidence up. Grab your nutsack and squeeze as hard as you can to see if there's anything there and just scream out into a pillow and unleash some rage. It's time to put the timid little bitch Evo away and it's time to grow the fuck up. You do not need friends to trick you into thinking that you knocked some girl up.
It's like some kind of bad drama.
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10-27-2017, 11:19 AM
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#23390 | | うに
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Its time for Evo 2.0 
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10-27-2017, 12:11 PM
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#23391 | | Zombie Mod
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Fack.. I slacked and the days for the Halloween event stuff are all sold out at Van Dusen. Anyone have any suggestions on Halloween-themed options happening tonight?
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10-27-2017, 12:54 PM
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#23392 | | I STILL don't get it
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Originally Posted by Presto Fack.. I slacked and the days for the Halloween event stuff are all sold out at Van Dusen. Anyone have any suggestions on Halloween-themed options happening tonight? | I wasnt sure if for wife or kids but this list has adult and family options for all over Lower Mainland  https://www.todocanada.ca/halloween-...adult-parties/ | |
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10-27-2017, 05:53 PM
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Originally Posted by Presto Fack.. I slacked and the days for the Halloween event stuff are all sold out at Van Dusen. Anyone have any suggestions on Halloween-themed options happening tonight? | As of right now I see you can still buy tickets for Tuesday, October 31, 2017, 5:00 pm PST. But that's also the time kids would head out for trick-or-treating, so maybe thats why its still available. https://ticketstonight.ticketforce.c...s.asp?evt=3579
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10-27-2017, 05:54 PM
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#23394 | | God of Unce
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God dammit Evo.
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10-28-2017, 06:40 AM
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#23395 | | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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Vacation mode: on.
Random searched my bag and found energy gels, "is this lubrication? Oh nevermind." 
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10-28-2017, 08:04 AM
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#23396 | | 14 dolla balla aint got nothing on me!
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22 and already eligible for hip replacement....
somethings are just not fair.
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10-28-2017, 08:24 AM
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#23397 | | うに
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Originally Posted by TOS'd The reason for Speak it Out is to actually set PK-EK up with someone, whether that be someone from this thread or outside of RS. |
Last edited by PK-EK; 10-14-2021 at 11:42 AM.
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10-28-2017, 08:52 AM
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#23398 | | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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Originally Posted by PK-EK After telling her I need more sexual intimacy in the relationship
I arrange for a sleep over  | Dude, sex is not the solution to a long run problem... Like how a kid ain't the solution to marriage problems.
If you are gonna do this, better take as many precautions not to knock her up before a wedding. Didn't you also say she was a virgin? Shit man, you'll have a shit load of responsibility after taking her virginity.
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10-28-2017, 09:54 AM
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#23399 | | うに
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Originally Posted by TOS'd The reason for Speak it Out is to actually set PK-EK up with someone, whether that be someone from this thread or outside of RS. |
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10-28-2017, 10:42 AM
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#23400 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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Originally Posted by PK-EK having a hard time explaining my feelings correctly. because i honestly don't even know myself
I question myself how much i actually like her.
but as soon as we started talking again. my entire outlook on life changed back to when we were together. everything seemed calm again. and the sun seems to shine a little brighter......
I question myself If she is actually the one I need in my life. I point out all her flaws in the back of my head.
but at the end of the day. I feel better about everything knowing we can go back to normal.
perhaps humans are just a creature of habit. and we feel most comfortable with someone that isn't alien to use. but at the moment. I don't feel like I have a problem getting back together with her.
*getting ready to be called an idiot here* | Companionship is a bitch. So is human nature.
But just to let you know it will all bite you in ass later. No lube.
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