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11-12-2017, 12:06 PM
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#23451 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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Originally Posted by Traum  Damn...?! Is being a gentleman out of fashion nowadays? Back when I was in the dating scene, it has always been a winning move for me. More than a few girls were totally and genuinely blown away when I pulled the move on them. The rest at least appreciated it. It really helped set the tone for the rest of the evening.
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Originally Posted by Inaii Lol being courteous makes you a bitch? Ahhh kids these days. | I used to do this for a girl I was seeing a while ago. She liked it at first, but as I did more, she got a bit annoyed. Eventually we started poking fun and race for the passenger side door, LOL.
It's probably like the others said about how girls are more independent nowadays. Doing that once in a while is fine, but don't do it too often. Quote:
Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS What do you guys think about this? My friends see it as her being forward - wants the d. But I think she's calling me out for being thirsty af LMAO  | That's a lot of "haha"s...
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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS I wouldn't sweat it, maybe she was busy and saw your text and forgot to reply. I've come to terms of not sending too many texts (unless it's a meaningful conversation), generally from what I heard 1-3 texts and then wait. For this girl that I went out with, initially my response time was about 2 hrs each, then she gave me her number, and I waited a bit before texting her.
I told myself I'm tired of these mind games, but like it seems to be what works. Personally I just didn't want to come off as not having a life and being on my phone all day. | I can just talk to her in person a bit on weekdays so no problems. It's just that she's busy on weekdays and I don't particularly like being an asshole and holding up a line in Timmy's just because I am talking to a girl I like.
In my case, I am the one who gave her the number. She didn't text me until the second night. It sounds silly, but once I figured out how her schedule works, it's understandable.
I am with you. There are some general rules/guidelines I follow, but I try not thinking too hard about it.
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11-12-2017, 10:11 PM
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11-12-2017, 10:57 PM
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#23453 | | I STILL don't get it
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Originally Posted by guurl Some well known old romanian lady named Delores she lives by langara.
I was like wtf how would anybody even know this about myself/my family
So specific.. i can give you info if you want to go LOL | Yes please!
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11-12-2017, 11:27 PM
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#23454 | | Rs has made me the man i am today!
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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS What do you guys think about this? My friends see it as her being forward - wants the d. But I think she's calling me out for being thirsty af LMAO
Sent from my Pixel XL using Tapatalk | I'd say that she's feeling you out and seeing how you answer. I wouldn't take it as her being forward.
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11-12-2017, 11:52 PM
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#23455 | | I STILL don't get it
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Originally Posted by UnknownJinX I used to do this for a girl I was seeing a while ago. She liked it at first, but as I did more, she got a bit annoyed. Eventually we started poking fun and race for the passenger side door, LOL.
It's probably like the others said about how girls are more independent nowadays. Doing that once in a while is fine, but don't do it too often.
. | Lol if my bf doesn't hold doors open for me that nigga knows when he gets home its a take down with a rear naked choke as a finisher  but seriously, I'm 5'2 and I kind of have a hard time opening some doors that are heavy. My cousins damn BMW has the heaviest doors I've ever tried to open in my life.
I guess everyone's different but I find the older I get the more old school I become. When I was dating, dude paying on the first date was a given. It's not that I don't have my own money but if you ask me, then you pay. If I ask you out, then I pay.
I dunno how you young guns date now lol. It all seems so unnecessarily complicated?? What happened to just being honest then if they don't like it fuck em?
Being a gentleman shouldn't be done for looks or to save face. The thought of "being a lil bitch" shouldnt even come into mind when it comes down to how to treat a lady lol. It all goes back to showing a woman that you're THE man, you can take care of her and that you fuckin got this.
I guess girls nowadays play games with you dudes based off their personal insecurities and it's not really fair. But I find if you live your life based off your values, you attract people who do the same. If you guys don't want chicks who play games, you can't play them yourself.
The best rule I've ever applied thru all my years of dating: If they wanted to, they would.
If someone doesn't text you back, it's cuz they don't want to. I'd never make an excuse otherwise - just leads to more heartache later on.
I've worked graveyards/all kinds of shift work and I've never curved a guy I was genuinely interested in because of time. If I want him, I'll make the time lol.
Same goes for men. This rule has saved me a lot of time/energy that I would have wasted pining over some dude who was busy mulling over his other options.
Anyways dating truly sucks and my heart goes out to the people still out there in the game lol. Lord knows I'm way too old for that shit hahaha.
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11-13-2017, 12:23 AM
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Scored a FWB today. Like literally scored one today 
Basically met an Asian girl who's a friend of a friend. It escalated quickly when we ended up in bed together some 4 hours after meeting. I told her 'on the count of three, say relationship or fwb'.
We both said fwb and gave a heavy sigh of relief. We then celebrated our mutual choice.
EDIT: I should add this girl is perfectly normal. I bought her coffee at Starbucks and she was totally shocked I paid.
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11-13-2017, 12:26 AM
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#23457 | | Orgasm Donor & Alatar owned my ass twice!
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Originally Posted by MSREE Being a gentleman shouldn't be done for looks or to save face. The thought of "being a lil bitch" shouldnt even come into mind when it comes down to how to treat a lady lol. It all goes back to showing a woman that you're THE man, you can take care of her and that you fuckin got this. | ^^ This -- it's totally worth repeating.
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11-13-2017, 12:34 AM
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#23458 | | My name is Michael. J. Caboose, and I hate BABIES!
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Originally Posted by GS8 Scored a FWB today. Like literally scored one today
Basically met an Asian girl who's a friend of a friend. It escalated quickly when we ended up in bed together some 4 hours after meeting. I told her 'on the count of three, say relationship or fwb'.
We both said fwb and gave a heavy sigh of relief. We then celebrated our mutual choice.
EDIT: I should add this girl is perfectly normal. I bought her coffee at Starbucks and she was totally shocked I paid. | Okay now share some of your luck with the rest of us GS8 
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Originally Posted by STATUS105 IF I FIND YOU
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11-13-2017, 01:32 AM
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Originally Posted by dn53 ^ i think holding the car door open thing for a girl on a first date makes you look like a little bitch 
I do it once in awhile, but def not on the first date. it's good to look like a gentleman but you don't want the girl to have an idea that you think she cant do anything by herself
ps, i love the tiramisu at true confections its killa | I usually open the door. I don't do it all the time because im lazy but cmon, its just a door. Cant really think too much about a door.. couldve probably spent the time worrying about what to eat.
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11-13-2017, 01:34 AM
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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS What do you guys think about this? My friends see it as her being forward - wants the d. But I think she's calling me out for being thirsty af LMAO
Where do you sign up for said hobbies? Community centers?
I wouldn't sweat it, maybe she was busy and saw your text and forgot to reply. I've come to terms of not sending too many texts (unless it's a meaningful conversation), generally from what I heard 1-3 texts and then wait. For this girl that I went out with, initially my response time was about 2 hrs each, then she gave me her number, and I waited a bit before texting her.
I told myself I'm tired of these mind games, but like it seems to be what works. Personally I just didn't want to come off as not having a life and being on my phone all day.
Sent from my Pixel XL using Tapatalk | is it me or am I the only person who hates texting like that haha
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11-13-2017, 07:07 AM
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#23461 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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Originally Posted by ilovebacon is it me or am I the only person who hates texting like that haha
"nth" "smth" | YES SO MUCH. That was the first thing I noticed, I can't stand her typing style.
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11-13-2017, 04:47 PM
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#23462 | | I *heart* Revscene.net very Muchie
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Originally Posted by Inaii Okay now share some of your luck with the rest of us GS8 | Well I did learn one thing.
Those AXE bodywash commercials are actually true. 
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I knew she was interested 30 minutes into meeting her. She carefully made her intentions more and more known but she was waiting for me to reciprocate at key moments.
We were watching a movie on my couch and she kept looking at me while saying 'I'm just seeing if your're bored and falling asleep!' She fooled me the first time. Gradually she would readjust herself and get closer to me. The moment I put my hand on her leg, She started hugging me and smelling me (hence the AXE bodywash reference). She started talking under her breath and necking me.
She was waiting for me to kiss her on the lips which I did.
IMO she did everything right. I don't think there should be gender roles in this type of thing. I view it more as a double or nothing type scenario. If you're interested, you make your move. If they are not interested, it's not the end of the world especially if you just met. If they do show interest, then you just doubled your experience points and leveled up.
I don't feel the woman should ever have to sit back and let the man do all the communication building. That isn't fair to both people. It takes teamwork to build something.
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11-13-2017, 05:46 PM
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#23463 | | My name is Michael. J. Caboose, and I hate BABIES!
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Originally Posted by GS8 Well I did learn one thing.
Those AXE bodywash commercials are actually true. | Ew ew ew ew ew NO! Unless you're 16 and haven't had time to pick out a proper cologne, just no. Fuck even the Adidas "sports" cologne is better than Axe.
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Originally Posted by STATUS105 IF I FIND YOU
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11-13-2017, 06:02 PM
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#23464 | | I *heart* Revscene.net very Muchie
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Originally Posted by Inaii Ew ew ew ew ew NO! Unless you're 16 and haven't had time to pick out a proper cologne, just no. Fuck even the Adidas "sports" cologne is better than Axe. | I agree. I got it as part of a gift basket on Christmas last year and I've been using it sparingly ever since. I was joking with my comment hence the
I use proper cologne which funny enough forgot to put on last night. It would have masked the AXE completely.
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11-13-2017, 06:21 PM
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#23465 | | My name is Michael. J. Caboose, and I hate BABIES!
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Oh thank god. Though that makes me wonder about the girl >.o is she scent dead?
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11-13-2017, 07:28 PM
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#23466 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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Originally Posted by MSREE Lol if my bf doesn't hold doors open for me that nigga knows when he gets home its a take down with a rear naked choke as a finisher but seriously, I'm 5'2 and I kind of have a hard time opening some doors that are heavy. My cousins damn BMW has the heaviest doors I've ever tried to open in my life. | European cars, in general, have heavier doors. Quote:
Originally Posted by MSREE The best rule I've ever applied thru all my years of dating: If they wanted to, they would.
If someone doesn't text you back, it's cuz they don't want to. I'd never make an excuse otherwise - just leads to more heartache later on.
I've worked graveyards/all kinds of shift work and I've never curved a guy I was genuinely interested in because of time. If I want him, I'll make the time lol.
Same goes for men. This rule has saved me a lot of time/energy that I would have wasted pining over some dude who was busy mulling over his other options. | Or they are just really busy.
I mean, I don't think it's reasonable for anyone to be like "Heh, ditch your job/school so we can see each other." That's really selfish. If you do want to take a day off just so we can hang out, cool, but I don't expect anyone to do that. Quote:
Originally Posted by ilovebacon is it me or am I the only person who hates texting like that haha
"nth" "smth" | I don't like texttalk in general.
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11-13-2017, 11:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Inaii Oh thank god. Though that makes me wonder about the girl >.o is she scent dead? | She could be haha. I did have Old Spice deodorant under my arms. Maybe she smelled that.
Basically I'm a walking London Drugs.
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11-14-2017, 12:18 AM
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#23468 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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Tbh up to this point I'm unsure of her intentions. Like instinctively, if she was home alone the message would have been "come over" right? So in theory she's down.
Anyway that was yesterday. Took her out to lunch today, then met up with a buddy, went out to dessert with her again, and went back to her place.
I think the issue at hand isn't her roommate, it's her 6 mo old husky. Very cute, but demands attention, and likes to hump everything.I Her roommate (housemate) is chill tho, he mentioned he'd rather have a modified car than buy a luxury big brand sports car, that's a win!
Not sure where I stand with her, since when I'm around guys, I behave differently than when I'm just with her. Aka more car stuff. That and I had a cigarette with the roommate :/ 
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11-14-2017, 12:34 AM
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Wants you to come over...
Her alphabet is missing the letter D and it looks like you've got it.  | |
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11-14-2017, 12:39 AM
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Came over and wasn't down to do anything, except like blaze, which tbh, I'm not down unless its like 12pm and I have 12 hours to sober up.
We ended up looking at old pics of her and testing my Cantonese LOL. But like not sure if she wants to be fwb, friends, or dating. How do you define a relationship?
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11-14-2017, 08:49 AM
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#23471 | | I keep RS good
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lol skip the weed. when was the last time anyone blazed up and didnt prefer to just stare at a screen or just do nothing.
alcohol.
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11-14-2017, 09:57 AM
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#23472 | | I STILL don't get it
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Originally Posted by Ulic Qel-Droma lol skip the weed. when was the last time anyone blazed up and didnt prefer to just stare at a screen or just do nothing.
alcohol. | Doesn't weed make people horny????????
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11-14-2017, 10:02 AM
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#23473 | | I STILL don't get it
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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS Came over and wasn't down to do anything, except like blaze, which tbh, I'm not down unless its like 12pm and I have 12 hours to sober up.
We ended up looking at old pics of her and testing my Cantonese LOL. But like not sure if she wants to be fwb, friends, or dating. How do you define a relationship?
Sent from my Pixel XL using Tapatalk | Usually fwb you'd know within the first couple times of seeing her lol. Err you'd already have the ahh "benefits" by now. In my experience, fwb you get down to business pretty fast.
Just ask her openly and honestly. Don't be a pussy 
Besides we're all here for support!
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11-14-2017, 10:20 AM
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#23474 | | 14 dolla balla aint got nothing on me!
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Ask EvoLove, he has great tips!  Quote:
Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS Came over and wasn't down to do anything, except like blaze, which tbh, I'm not down unless its like 12pm and I have 12 hours to sober up.
We ended up looking at old pics of her and testing my Cantonese LOL. But like not sure if she wants to be fwb, friends, or dating. How do you define a relationship?
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11-14-2017, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Inaii Ew ew ew ew ew NO! Unless you're 16 and haven't had time to pick out a proper cologne, just no. Fuck even the Adidas "sports" cologne is better than Axe. | speaking about colognes, what would you guys recommend?
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