Speak it Out

[ZN6]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

I ended up going to twelvewest for that girl's birthday. Hit up the bar next door and it's pretty pricy and not worth it. We went to Alibi Room for dinner which had way better beer for cheaper, and it was good food.

Turns out all the girls are taken, and I don't with taken girls. Had a pretty shitty night, I was dd, so that meant 3 beers max (over 5 hours) and no more after that. Good thing I was dd too, cause birthday girl spent a couple hours puking on Granville ._.

I've been trying really hard not to smoke cigarettes when I drink now, since it's a really bad habit. The fiending got pretty bad today when it just smells like rubbing alcohol in the club, everyone's smoking outside, and bday girl's friends asked me for a cig.

Overall, while I am 21, I think I'm getting too old got this. I think starting to party in grade 9 has taken it's effect on me. Aside from health (bc ur not supposed to drink young), I think that because I started early, this going out stuff is just boring to me and the logistics and effort spent to plan arent worth my time. Plus I just don't vibe with the hip hop, hype, fuckboy/girl crowd.

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What did I say? What did I put out as the obvious choice? What?

21 is young as fuck. Forget about dating for now and enjoy your fucking life. Y U NO SHRED WITH BROS?!

Girls will come when you are older and more distinguished. I wish someone told me that sooner. But I am telling you now.
You know what chicks dig? Life experience and stories you can share with them. Not fuck bois going clubbing.

If you need a girl in your life to make you happy, you are doing life wrong. A girl should add to your life, not to get you a life. Vice versa, you should pride your girl and make her feel like a fucking queen; not a fucking princess.

[!Yaminashi]

Originally Posted by nns

The following is going to be a small rant. Some (all?) of it may not make any sense because I'm a little clouded by emotion atm.

I used to deal with being alone and single so much better. Like it wasn't even a care in my mind that I'd be at home, weekend after weekend watching TV alone. I didn't care that I didn't have any plans. I didn't care that I had no one to share my close thoughts with. I was content.

But over the last 2-3 years I've changed. I've become more outgoing socially. I think it had to do with me leaving a job. It had weighed me down. I had a sense of self-imposed duty and dedication - misguided into thinking I had to give my all and sacrifice my own happiness in servitude to the role and the company.

I got a new job. It was a lot less stress. I was able to work on myself. I went out more. A night at home felt very lonely and uncomfortable, let alone a whole weekend. I wanted to socialize. I wanted attention. I went on dating apps. I asked girls out in person, got numbers, wash, repeat. Nothing that ever amounted to what I'd consider a GF. Nothing that ever became something that I could put my trust in.

I think many of us have heard stories about how difficult the dating scene is in Vancouver. I kinda see both sides of the argument. On one side we hear it's just a numbers game. If you go out, talk to people, meet people, get numbers, whatever - eventually you'll meet someone right? The *one*? Well ok, numbers game put into consideration, i've done all that many times. Been on dating apps for years. I still haven't found anyone. So is it still numbers and odds? I don't know anymore. Is it specifically the people in Vancouver? Are they guarded because they've heard so many horror stories or suffered some themselves? I don't know.

I mean, even if it were true, or it wasn't. If it's one way or the other. In the end of the day it wouldn't magically change the circumstances.

So i'm kind of losing focus on why I decided to post this. I guess i'm just looking for some perspective. Some wisdom or ammo to tell me to keep pushing forward, don't give up, keep my head up, all that shit. Cause right now, I just don't see it. I can't sum up that positivity. I remember reading something posted in this very thread, who said along the lines of he didn't find someone until he literally stopped looking. I think he decided to focus on bettering himself and before he knew it he so happened to find someone.

I'd consider myself already bettering myself. I've worked out for 8+ yrs. I've created a small bucket list of things that I wanted to do but used to think were difficult. Things like baking, shooting, climbing, hiking, photography. All that shit..it doesn't keep me company when I want to have a connection with someone.

I don't know...end rant. I imagine some or all of you are going to dissect this, skewer and roast me..great.

edit: Does anyone feel that they've paid their fair share of dues, suffered enough, and that maybe it was about time some luck came up on them? Or is it just wrong to think that way? Karma ain't real right? Man i just..i don't know.

Originally Posted by 6793026

3) Keep waiting: There is a reason. If you believe in a higher being/ karma / God / universe. Just understand it's no DIFFERENT than why you didn't get the job 5 yrs ago, or broken up with your 2nd gf from 9 yrs ago who was a nagging bitch. Everything happens for a reason, you'll look back and be glad you're single now.

^This.

Alot of people think it's just a load of shit, but you'll later realize that no matter how hard you tried, things never quite worked out with anyone (currently). There's always some sort of lesson to be learned from every single situation that life throws your way. Take what you can away from it now and remember it because it'll only benefit you in the future. Enjoy being single while you can because life can change in the blink of an eye.

Everyone has a set path in life - your time just hasn't come yet.

Trust your intuition. If you're ever out and just have a strong urge to talk to someone, do it. Never leave thinking "what if"

That's all I've got.

[bcrdukes]

[TOS'd]

[MSREE]

Medication brain. I was eating this stuffed tortellini my hubby bought, thinking "why does he even like tortellini? Its kinda hard." So i added pasta sauce and microwaved for a few minutes and continued to eat it.

About 7 minutes in, i see the tupperware my hubs actually made for me with cooked tortellini and beef on the bottom shelf of my fridge.

[ZN6]

Got together with a new girl who is 5.5 years younger after a less than friendly breakup. A bit early to tell if values match but so far all the tick boxes are being checked off systematically.

[Armind]

Originally Posted by ZN6

Got together with a new girl who is 5.5 years younger after a less than friendly breakup. A bit early to tell if values match but so far all the tick boxes are being checked off systematically.

[ZN6]

Originally Posted by Armind

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Spoiler!

Mind your own bidniss

[BIC_BAWS]

So I got offered/landed two new job offers on top of my full time job:
1. Project Manager to launch a new building -> FT Property Manager in a year
2. Project Manager to launch a new business as Cannabis LP

I planned to go back to school next Sept, to hopefully do my BBA (1 year) or take another accounting diploma (1-2yr) -> BTech:Account (1 yr) -> CPA (2-3 years). I always wanted my bach, for the wrong reasons, just to say im better than a sauder grad, bc that clients/employers will think you know your shit better than a diploma student, and I can get my CPA

Issue? Well I planned to go back, but if I do, I lose all three things. But if I don't go back to school, then I can't/delay get(ting) CPA, which I want.

What do you guys think? Am I stupid for even considering school, when I have the jobs that I've always wanted?

[6793026]

FT property manager in a yr is key.
Not sure the Cannabis role will be a huge thing (long term) nor is it a huge resume booster.

just my 2 cents

school u can do later; i made it this far without ever looking at my schooling (unless u're a doctor, engineer etc). Sometimes roles don't come too often.

[BIC_BAWS]

To add more detail, getting my CPA is important, so that I can take over the family business (current ft job), and moreover so my mother can finally take a break after working non stop for the past 10 years.

If I were to take the FT Property Manager role, I'd have to leave the family business, or well at most, take on less responsibilities and clients. That and not go back to school

Right now, I'm not in school, so I can maintain my current FT job AND work on both projects (new building + new business). In terms of #2, it's more of a contracted project mgmt job, as it's to complete business plan + application, and manage the launch as a Licensed Producer of Cannabis.

The pros that I can clearly see is the opportunity to get some project management experience, and more consulting experience. Both of which I like more and would rather do over accounting. BUT like I said above, I'm only doing accounting so my mother can relax.

Many people tell me that I should just do what I want to do, and not let my parents decide my career for me. But I supposed this is more of my choice, than something that they're hardselling.

[Fafine]

Vaping causes cancer, new study warns | Daily Mail Online

rip

[BIC_BAWS]

Originally Posted by Fafine

Vaping causes cancer, new study warns | Daily Mail Online

rip

Well shit.

Edit: wait.

The penlike device heats Marlboro-branded sticks of tobacco but stops short of burning them.$

This is the type of e-cigs they used. Not vg/pg stuff.

[Fafine]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

Well shit.

Edit: wait.



This is the type of e-cigs they used. Not vg/pg stuff.

nice didnt see that part

[Akinari]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

Well shit.

Edit: wait.



This is the type of e-cigs they used. Not vg/pg stuff.

Very deceptive clickbait type article. Until a legitimate third-party study of VG/PG juices comes out saying that vaping is detrimental to your health, I'll keep at it.

EDIT: just went through the last three pages of this thread and wow, RS life advice 101.

[Gerbs]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

better than a sauder grad, bc that clients/employers will think you know your shit better than a diploma student, and I can get my CPA

I found that the recruiting process for firms like big 4. I feel like sauder grads have the advantage on that for accounting. They tend to hire Sauder or Eastern schools and like 6 BCIT students last year While recruiting for prestigious finance / consulting is non existent for BCIT. But BCIT get's you a job

[6793026]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

If I were to take the FT Property Manager role, I'd have to leave the family business, or well at most, take on less responsibilities and clients. That and not go back to school

In terms of #2, it's more of a contracted project mgmt job, as it's to complete business plan + application, and manage the launch as a Licensed Producer of Cannabis.

Family is family, and not knowing how old you are is a tad diff. If you're in your early 20s, go do school if you see it as a requirement because once you hit your 30s, you won't have the patience, time nor freedom to do school (MBA is different).

Your mom will still a) hound over you even if you take over the business b) she won't let go. Working non-stop for 10yrs is a true indicator.

I feel like "complete business plan + application, and manage the launch as a Licensed Producer of Cannabis. " is just fluff. That's what every employer says to their potential employee and load and behold, jobs aren't 100% of what the promised.

Let us know how it turns out. You got options, just don't ever regret what you choose and make the best out of every situation is key!

[GS8]

Slept 4 hours last night, up for 20 hours right now and decided to to speak it out

My older brother: Repeated half of grade 12, dropped out of post-secondary twice, went through odd jobs here and there but slowly built up skill sets. Landed fresh job back in 2008 through a less than honest resume and has been employed there since.

Current: Has townhouse but soon-to-be detached home, a then new (2012) GTi and a then new (2017) Fusion Sport. Has 2 young kids and wife recently lost her job but he can still support all four of them till she gets a new job. He recently turned down multiple offers for a $100k+ a year job promotion, deciding he will take it when his kids are older and the offer comes around again.

Me: Graduated with B average from grade 12 Graduated twice from post secondary (2 diplomas) while working at least 30 hours a week at a grocery store.

Present: Rents an apartment and drives a 20 year old car. Makes livable wage but savings are minimal by end of month.

Oh life, you taught me so well!

Sometimes when I have nice dreams while asleep, I like to think they are life's way of apologizing to me.

[Gh0st]

Originally Posted by GS8

Slept 4 hours last night, up for 20 hours right now and decided to to speak it out

My older brother: Repeated half of grade 12, dropped out of post-secondary twice, went through odd jobs here and there but slowly built up skill sets. Landed fresh job back in 2008 through a less than honest resume and has been employed there since.

Current: Has townhouse but soon-to-be detached home, a then new (2012) GTi and a then new (2017) Fusion Sport. Has 2 young kids and wife recently lost her job but he can still support all four of them till she gets a new job. He recently turned down multiple offers for a $100k+ a year job promotion, deciding he will take it when his kids are older and the offer comes around again.

Me: Graduated with B average from grade 12 Graduated twice from post secondary (2 diplomas) while working at least 30 hours a week at a grocery store.

Present: Rents an apartment and drives a 20 year old car. Makes livable wage but savings are minimal by end of month.

Oh life, you taught me so well!

Sometimes when I have nice dreams while asleep, I like to think they are life's way of apologizing to me.

Don't be so hard on yourself. It's all timing - everything is timing.

My mother: made like 20-40k a year with 4 kids, single mother doesn't speak english, does not have local connections - immigrant.

A great planner and saver she is. Able to buy a 3100 sqft Vancouver home.

Me: born and raised in Vancouver. Young. Millennial. Making 100k. Nowhere near buying a detached home. That's a far-fetched goal. I'm not that bad at saving either.

It's all timing buddy.

[CorneringArtist]

Wew the ghosting game is strong lately. Back and forth for a couple days, disappear, repeat.

[ZN6]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

Wew the ghosting game is strong lately. Back and forth for a couple days, disappear, repeat.

What did you learn from those conversations? generally, it's something that the ghostee does that triggers the ghoster to ghost.

come on too strong?

nothing interesting to talk about?

well, you're better off without them anyways, move on and put a stronger foot forward next time. like, don't let the conversation go on too long before asking the person out for like a lunch or coffee or something. that will show that you have a bit of courage and balls rather than playing text tennis.

[CorneringArtist]

Originally Posted by ZN6

What did you learn from those conversations? generally, it's something that the ghostee does that triggers the ghoster to ghost.

come on too strong?

nothing interesting to talk about?

well, you're better off without them anyways, move on and put a stronger foot forward next time. like, don't let the conversation go on too long before asking the person out for like a lunch or coffee or something. that will show that you have a bit of courage and balls rather than playing text tennis.

Did exactly that, trying to keep the conversation from dragging out by asking a few honest questions, offered to meet for coffee after maybe half a dozen back and forths, cuts things off without warning. Before I kept from being so forward, it led to boring-ass exchanges before losing interest.

I can't win.

[JSALES]

Friend applied at my company and put me down as a reference without my consent and now has an interview, ugh.

[Armind]

That's a dick move.

[JSALES]

Yeah, this person was so keen on getting a job with me that I don't think they even applied anywhere else, just dead set on working with my company because of the salary