Speak it Out

[CorneringArtist]

They say travel lets you get a new perspective on things, reset mentally a bit. All it's done is break me further.

[EvoLove]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

They say travel lets you get a new perspective on things, reset mentally a bit. All it's done is break me further.

i think it really depends on what you do and where you go when you travel. For me i visited my aunts/uncles and cousins whom i haven't seen in about 17 years, so it was a fun experience.

[CorneringArtist]

Originally Posted by EvoLove

i think it really depends on what you do and where you go when you travel. For me i visited my aunts/uncles and cousins whom i haven't seen in about 17 years, so it was a fun experience.

I went to Japan and did the standard tourism shit in Tokyo. It was relaxing and a different experience, but whoever said travel lets you learn a few things about the world and yourself was a liar.

[TOS'd]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

I went to Japan and did the standard tourism shit in Tokyo. It was relaxing and a different experience, but whoever said travel lets you learn a few things about the world and yourself was a liar.

Totally disagree with this, but I guess it also depends on the person, so ymmv.

[MSREE]

Interesting how men whine ??? Your life isn't that hard, you're just ungrateful lol
All this crying about no connection, being unhappy or lonely... well I got news for you crybaby bitch, connect with damn yourself wtf????

Super annoying how people aren't grateful for what they fuckin have.
There are people literally dying and/or in physical pain every day. There's kids who are homeless and hungry every waking minute of the day. Who the fuck even are you????

Wake the fuck up you snowflake bitches. Be happy for what you have NOW and who YOU are.

If you don't like something, then fucking change it???????

[bcrdukes]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

I went to Japan and did the standard tourism shit in Tokyo. It was relaxing and a different experience, but whoever said travel lets you learn a few things about the world and yourself was a liar.

Go somewhere shittier. You'll learn faster.

[bcrdukes]

STFU MSREE

[Mr.HappySilp]

Originally Posted by MSREE

Interesting how men whine ??? Your life isn't that hard, you're just ungrateful lol
All this crying about no connection, being unhappy or lonely... well I got news for you crybaby bitch, connect with damn yourself wtf????

Super annoying how people aren't grateful for what they fuckin have.
There are people literally dying and/or in physical pain every day. There's kids who are homeless and hungry every waking minute of the day. Who the fuck even are you????

Wake the fuck up you snowflake bitches. Be happy for what you have NOW and who YOU are.

If you don't like something, then fucking change it???????

Maybe they have a reason to complain. I mean maybe try thinking from their point of view? Somethings you just can't change even if you try.

[bcrdukes]

Damn. 25K posts on Revscene. Time flies.

[BIC_BAWS]

Snowflakes? Really??? And generalizing all men? You sound like a femin-nzai (man hater/loves to oppress men, etc)

[CorneringArtist]

Fucking thanks. This is why I fucking hate and fear people. The more I tried to reach out for perspective before ending up where I am now, I get shit for it.

I truly think other than family I have one real friend. ONE. And I can't hang out with them week in and week out. I know a metric fuck ton of people, but do I feel like I can reach out to them? Fuck no because I legitimately fear asking people to go and do things for fear of appearing creepy. I don't have this magic fucking network that normal people have and it's been eating me for years. You can only be beside yourself for so long before the loneliness sets in. Do you know how difficult it is to want to get to truly know people but be completely fucking scared you've already fucked up your chances with them after saying hello? That fear keeps people at arm's length and when you think you've mustered the confidence to reach out, you stop and realize you look like a creep for asking after so long.It's a pathetic irony that keeps digging itself a deeper and deeper hole.

Cheers for the rant. I must be an even bigger piece of shit than I fucking thought.

[bcrdukes]

April Fools!

[Akinari]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

That fear keeps people at arm's length and when you think you've mustered the confidence to reach out, you stop and realize you look like a creep for asking after so long.

Cheers for the rant. I must be an even bigger piece of shit than I fucking thought.

Bro I feel the exact same way, I completely know that feel. Being afraid to ask in fear that you’ll fail, I’ve definitely been there, I still go through that even now. At the end of the day, it’s being comfortable and confident with who you are and learning not to get phased by shit, that’s what will make you successful. Don’t be afraid of things that haven’t happened yet. Put yourself out there and just go with the flow. Be yourself, do what feels right.

[UnknownJinX]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

I truly think other than family I have one real friend. ONE. And I can't hang out with them week in and week out. I know a metric fuck ton of people, but do I feel like I can reach out to them? Fuck no because I legitimately fear asking people to go and do things for fear of appearing creepy. I don't have this magic fucking network that normal people have and it's been eating me for years. You can only be beside yourself for so long before the loneliness sets in. Do you know how difficult it is to want to get to truly know people but be completely fucking scared you've already fucked up your chances with them after saying hello? That fear keeps people at arm's length and when you think you've mustered the confidence to reach out, you stop and realize you look like a creep for asking after so long.It's a pathetic irony that keeps digging itself a deeper and deeper hole.

Cheers for the rant. I must be an even bigger piece of shit than I fucking thought.

You have to try and break out of the cycle, though.

The thing is that if you think that you will appear creepy because you don't talk, then you are. If you just talk to someone, then you aren't creepy. Just talk and see where the conversation goes. If it doesn't go anywhere, no big deal. Lots of people out there and some of them will be willing to talk to you.

Just last night, I had to take a bus to get around(thanks, that vacuum hose joint on the RX-8. Really appreciate you snapping into pieces). There is a girl besides that's just playing on her phone and I just started talking to her. It went pretty well. It's good to just try.

[Mr.HappySilp]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

Fucking thanks. This is why I fucking hate and fear people. The more I tried to reach out for perspective before ending up where I am now, I get shit for it.

I truly think other than family I have one real friend. ONE. And I can't hang out with them week in and week out. I know a metric fuck ton of people, but do I feel like I can reach out to them? Fuck no because I legitimately fear asking people to go and do things for fear of appearing creepy. I don't have this magic fucking network that normal people have and it's been eating me for years. You can only be beside yourself for so long before the loneliness sets in. Do you know how difficult it is to want to get to truly know people but be completely fucking scared you've already fucked up your chances with them after saying hello? That fear keeps people at arm's length and when you think you've mustered the confidence to reach out, you stop and realize you look like a creep for asking after so long.It's a pathetic irony that keeps digging itself a deeper and deeper hole.

Cheers for the rant. I must be an even bigger piece of shit than I fucking thought.

I know right. When I try asking a girl out just for coffee or dinner they go into defensive mode right away saying they just want to be friends. Then later most girls complain they can't get a bf. Well maybe if you are open mind then you might find a bf. Most girls these days have a lot of requirements that you as a guy have to met before they will even consider. It sucks. I basically stop trying to find a gf or even consider asking a girl out. Now I just hand out with friends and hearing girls complain I snap at them saying coz they didn't even give anyone a chance lol.

[CorneringArtist]

Originally Posted by Akinari

At the end of the day, it’s being comfortable and confident with who you are and learning not to get phased by shit, that’s what will make you successful. Don’t be afraid of things that haven’t happened yet. Put yourself out there and just go with the flow. Be yourself, do what feels right.

Originally Posted by UnknownJinX

You have to try and break out of the cycle, though.

Mental blocks and constant thinking about making a mistake make this harder than it's thought out to be. Most people can just push through it, I readily acknowledge that the attempt is already failed. I can tell myself "just do it", but telling and acting are massive gaps.

[tiger_handheld]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

Fucking thanks. This is why I fucking hate and fear people. The more I tried to reach out for perspective before ending up where I am now, I get shit for it.

I truly think other than family I have one real friend. ONE. And I can't hang out with them week in and week out. I know a metric fuck ton of people, but do I feel like I can reach out to them? Fuck no because I legitimately fear asking people to go and do things for fear of appearing creepy. I don't have this magic fucking network that normal people have and it's been eating me for years. You can only be beside yourself for so long before the loneliness sets in. Do you know how difficult it is to want to get to truly know people but be completely fucking scared you've already fucked up your chances with them after saying hello? That fear keeps people at arm's length and when you think you've mustered the confidence to reach out, you stop and realize you look like a creep for asking after so long.It's a pathetic irony that keeps digging itself a deeper and deeper hole.

Cheers for the rant. I must be an even bigger piece of shit than I fucking thought.

what are some things you like to do?

*serious question*

[Akinari]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

Mental blocks and constant thinking about making a mistake make this harder than it's thought out to be. Most people can just push through it, I readily acknowledge that the attempt is already failed. I can tell myself "just do it", but telling and acting are massive gaps.

Come out and have a beer with me

[jinxcrusader]

I'll join on the beer too. In fact, I got first round.

[CorneringArtist]

Originally Posted by tiger_handheld

what are some things you like to do?

*serious question*

Being perfectly honest? Hobbies that no one except a very select few would find interesting and not worth making a connection over. No outdoor hobbies either so I'm dead in the water in a place like Vancouver.

[UnknownJinX]

Originally Posted by MSREE

Interesting how men whine ??? Your life isn't that hard, you're just ungrateful lol
All this crying about no connection, being unhappy or lonely... well I got news for you crybaby bitch, connect with damn yourself wtf????

Super annoying how people aren't grateful for what they fuckin have.
There are people literally dying and/or in physical pain every day. There's kids who are homeless and hungry every waking minute of the day. Who the fuck even are you????

Wake the fuck up you snowflake bitches. Be happy for what you have NOW and who YOU are.

If you don't like something, then fucking change it???????

Originally Posted by bcrdukes

April Fools!

I hope this is the case. That doesn't sound like MSREE very much...

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

Being perfectly honest? Hobbies that no one except a very select few would find interesting and not worth making a connection over. No outdoor hobbies either so I'm dead in the water in a place like Vancouver.

Try something new then! Throw yourself out there.

[Lamboda]

Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp

I know right. When I try asking a girl out just for coffee or dinner they go into defensive mode right away saying they just want to be friends. Then later most girls complain they can't get a bf. Well maybe if you are open mind then you might find a bf. Most girls these days have a lot of requirements that you as a guy have to met before they will even consider. It sucks. I basically stop trying to find a gf or even consider asking a girl out. Now I just hand out with friends and hearing girls complain I snap at them saying coz they didn't even give anyone a chance lol.

Shit sounded like me two years ago. I remember telling one of my female friends that she should give 'nice' guys a chance.

Anyways, girls don't have lots of requirements. They'll say that you have to have a house, money, and a nice car. I've seen guys with shitboxes dating hot girls. I've seen rich guys unable to find a girl due to their lack of personality.

I know I've come a long way myself and I'm not here to preach. I used to think about how to pickup girls, use 'game' on girls, etc. Rather, the epiphany that I had was to learn, grow, and accept myself. I focused on my career, my goals and pursued them. I went back to the gym since my accident and feel stronger than before. I'm doing things I'm passionate and interested in and I don't let noise (aka friends who think differently eg. I like value investing they like crypto) bother me. ALL THIS TRANSLATES TO SELF-CONFIDENCE AND HAPPINESS.

People gravitate to others who are happy, enjoying themselves and self-confident. No one wants to be your friend if you snap at them about what they do. Just nod, say "sure" and do whatever the hell you want.

And for those who say "my hobbies are in things that no one finds interesting..." That's bullshit. Your passion is what's interesting. Embrace the passion and let it flow. If you like anime own it. There's a million other girls that like anime too.

Work your way to become proud of who the fuck you are man. Girls will come.

[TOS'd]

Originally Posted by CorneringArtist

Being perfectly honest? Hobbies that no one except a very select few would find interesting and not worth making a connection over. No outdoor hobbies either so I'm dead in the water in a place like Vancouver.

...such as? I'm sure there are other ppl out there that are interested in the same hobbies as you despite you not thinking it's worth making a connection over.

[MSREE]

Lol, everybody getting butthurt. If the shoe fits then lace the bitch up and take a walk.

I had frustrations in my real life that I was venting about. I didn't quote anybody and comment directly at any of you lol. Bic_Baws... female nazi?? Seriously??? If anybody in here has encouraged all of you that bitches ain't shit, it's been me LOL.

But since y'all wanna open the discussion and come for me then let's gooooo......

If you're crying because you don't have friends, then you need to change something. If you don't like the outcome of your life, then you can change it. If you can travel to places like Japan and not appreciate that experience, then to me, you are ungrateful.

There are people who can't travel anywhere due to illness and y'all out here disrespecting life????

Come on man. I believe in the inherent strength of men. Of the resiliency of the human being. The power of the mind is an incredible thing.

If you can really say your life sucks because you don't connect with other people, then what kind of life do you have?? Sure connection is great but when you're down and out the only person who will pick your ass back up 10 times outta 10 is yourself.

You don't have a girlfriend???? So what???? LOL significant others come and go. YOU are what's constant. Just because you have a bf/gf, it won't make your life better if that's all youre basing quality of life on.

At the very least, appreciate your health??? Be grateful for the menial things in your life???? Life's good but it also takes a conscious effort on your part to elevate your mindset?????

CorneringArtist, now I'm talking directly to you. I myself have offered to reach out to you as well as countless others in this thread. People respond to you with positivity and hope every time you're in here shitting on yourself and still it continues. Ive seen it time and time again where everybody will pull together to offer you a hand, some advice, even a beer. When have you said simply "thanks man" or "I appreciate the offer"? At some point dude, you need to take responsibility for yourself. There is no "magic fix" for your negative outlook. The solution comes from you. Other people can't and shouldn't fix it.

Maybe what I'm saying is harsh, but I don't believe in coddling people. I've been in the hospital for suicide attempts in my past. If anyone knows the darkest corners of depression, not being wanted, it's me. I've struggled for years in and out being depressed and still do. I have crippling anxiety to the point where I physically shake in public. It sets me back yes, but I train myself to work through it every day. I push myself forward because it's only me who can. You can't depend on other people to pull you out of your own spiral. Not only is it extremely selfish but also wildly unrealistic. Eventually people will live their own lives......and you're back at square 1.

[bcrdukes]

MSREE - You are a lie and a waste of time.

Magic Fix? That shit is called DRUGS.

#AprilFools

[In all seriousness, don't do drugs. They are bad for you.]