Dude seriously. If youre offended by a snowflake comment i made in general then maybe you really are and need to chill out? If it didnt resonate with you, you wouldnt have been so defensive.

The literal people I was talking about was:
1. a 35+ year old man who constantly complains that he doesnt really have people to chill with cuz all his friends have kids. But when i did go to hang out with him like a normal person he trapped me in his car and fucking GROPED me after i repeatedly said/screamed NO STOP. I knew him for 3 years before he did this.
2. A 40+ year old man who cheats on all his girlfriends then wonders why I dont ever talk to or hang out with him? Because obviously I think hes creepy af???

These dudes are 30+ yrs old and complain women dont treat them right. They are snowflakes, yes. Men who think the world and women should bend in their favor.

Maybe next time ask me before you reply and call me something you have no idea about.

I experienced something no woman ever should have and I was afraid to stop him because we were in an enclosed space and he could have hurt me. I didnt really think I had to relive it by explaining it, i was venting generally. But here I am.

Like I said, Ive always been direct and Ive always quoted you guys directly in here when Im ACTUALLY talking to you and/or commenting on something one of you said in this thread.

Its april 2nd, you uncultured swine!

Hello, I'm in Luxembourg City

So there goes my life
Passing by with every exit sign
It's been so long
Sometimes I wonder how I will stay strong
No sleep tonight
I'll keep on driving these dark highway lines
And as the moon fades
One more night gone only twenty more days

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So is Advil. But after July 1, hopefully, weed won't be a drug anymore

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The pending decision on the legalization of marijuana/weed won't change whether it is a drug or not.

Legalized -> it will have a DIN and still be a drug, albeit regulated.

Not Legalized -> still a drug

Thoughts about girls who don’t read messages (like 2-3 business day kind of delay lol), but do end up replying in complete and cohesive sentences that are actually relevant to the conversation (not one word things that are obviously meant to brush you off).

Has also OK’d to coffee via message and has invited you out to go biking even though you have never explicitly asked (after having a lengthy conversation about bikes).

Not expecting anything, I’m just curious what everyone’s opinion is.

Context: work in the same mall and we’ve been in the same class and I always secretly admired her. Visited her one day on my break while she was working, very briefly talked and when I was walking out I turned back to say bye and noticed she was blushing quite hard.

When me and my hubs were getting to know each other, we had scheduled a date a month after we initially connected online. During that month, he tried to keep in contact with me fairly regularly and I was horrible at it.
Id message him back usually super late when I got home from work cuz I was working at the club and mid convos id fall asleep, so Id disappear until the next day and he was always left hanging lol.

I was interested but not so much I checked for him every hour. I did give explanations for my shotty contact skills though lol.

Personally, i know lots of girls, when theyre single just focus on work, eating and sleeping then repeat the next day.

Dating requires a certain energy, courting stage even more so. Could be shes responding when she can/has the energy for it. Doesnt necessarily signal disinterest since you dont know yet what her day to day responsibilities are :)

Thanks! Basically the same response I’ve received from my two other close female friends who I’ve inquired about the same thing. Especially her being a student and finals seasons and telling me she works basically everyday so, I can definitely see that being draining, I’ve been there done that.

It was just pretty surprising she would suggest we go do something together that we’ve talked about even though I’ve never asked so that was nice.

don't let the interest fade but also don't be too clingy.

It took travelling alone, lotsa partying, scootering across a country and meeting a ton of new people to find myself. :ilied:

Not some touristy trap shit.

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I myself wouldnt make plans for another hang out until the first is over with so i think her invitation is a good sign, sounds like she's into it :fullofwin:
When is coffee scheduled for?

Do guys still pay for dates nowadays? Or is the dating culture now more independent/go dutch type of style?

Not telling co-workers and shutting off social media walls and messengers to sweep my own birthday under the rug was a good idea. No obligation to respond to people who genuinely don't give a fuck. Now that it's the other side of 25, there's even less fucks to give.

^ i've done that for a few years now what even better is when you start plotting people's bday on calendars with yrly reminders.

The happy bday goes a long way when their bday doesn't come up on FB and u wish them one. *bonus brownie pts

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The challenging thing is even if I reply to her message a 1-2 minutes after she sends me a message, she won't reply for another day or two, so setting things up is difficult.

The most challenging thing is asking if she's at work today (even though she has said she basically works everyday) and seeing if I could drop by and look at some clothes (which I actually need to do, would be nice if she got the commission too), but then she doesn't respond until a day or two later.

I did walk into the store to browse clothes myself yesterday, also to see if she was there but she wasn't, but it's pretty creepy for me to constantly walk in to see if she's there, also I can't be bothered because the store I work at is at the opposite end of the mall so... :badpokerface:

I don't really wanna agonize over this, it's really just a matter of asking her when she's free for coffee, or asking her if she wants to check out a cafe I've been meaning to visit with me, but I don't really wanna do it electronically given her reluctance to reply, especially since we've had good albeit brief conversations face-to-face.

So really, at the end of the day, since she's already said yes to coffee, it's just a matter of setting a time with her in-person, but I'm struggling because I don't want to make it seem like I'm desperate or creepy in any way shape or form by constantly walking into her store to see if she's there, which I'm not at all, but there's still a bit of self-consciousness required in situations like this.

It's my first time doing something like this so, this is a learning experience for me.

Depends. I've experienced it all three ways: go dutch, girl pays, or I pay. The actual paying part doesn't matter as much as his/her attitude towards it.

Five people here not counting family. One who caught me on an old post before I wiped everything, a coworker who caught that, and three people who remembered. All I did to celebrate was claim free birthday food.

Again, told me who actually gave a shit.

In the span of less than 2 weeks, three different people I've known have passed away. Messed up

I've always hated b-days. Never liked the attention. My friends genuinely wanted to see me and celebrate; and I respect that. That was 5 yrs ago. Now, I openly reserve a table at some Chinese restaurant annually and we eat like kings. I pick up the tab as always on my bday to thank them for dealing with me for all these years ahahhaha.

it's been great.

One thing I learn is when I send a message if they don't reply just leave it at that. I know some girls like to play games and purposely not reply you (pointing at the people who use what'sapp I can see if you read your message). Simply I stop messaging till you reply.

I hate it when people play games is like sure if you are busy and doesn't have time to read your message 24/7.

A friend invited me to this dating group in wechat and my god too many people wanted to message me (I was actually surprise that there so many single successful females out there.). Before than I went to a few social events with her (it was more like just lunch with some fun activities). Most girls were pretty decent but the guys is just :considered::considered::considered: seems like they were not on same level as these girls. Maybe that's why there is so many single girls out there?

Went to a speed dating event with some friends to have fun and again I would say 80% of the guys don't deserve a date lol. One came in and was totally drunk, one was dress like a bum.......

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You need to type Chinese. Also just so you know the girls are pretty direct. They basically ask all your personal question IE what yours job, how much you make, any property you own? When do you plan to get marry, want to have kids. etc etc etc...

Bit the bullet and swooped in for her number.

Happened to walk by her store and she was standing right by the entrance, went up to her, made some small talk about work, then asked her again if she had two finals this upcoming week, she confirmed that was the case. I then acknowledged that she would be busy and I wanted her to focus on her finals, and asked if we could get bubble tea together after she’s done finals, she said yes.

I handed my phone to her already on the dial screen, told her we should text instead of using fb message (long story, my buddy was stupid and didn’t initially give her my number). Then I completely derped and asked her to text me, totally not realizing that she doesn’t have my number LOL.

So I texted her and said this better not be Pizza Hut, and told her how I derped :lawl:

I swear I was a nervous wreck.