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Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...
Moving sucks. Almost something goes missing after moving even after emptying every single box =/
As you're packing boxes, grab blank sheets of paper and create inventory lists of the box's contents. Write the item down AS you're putting it in the box.
tfw you thought you bombed it hard... but got an offer
This reminds me of a job interview I had about 11 years ago. I really wanted this job and showed up about 15 minutes early. Suddenly things weren't going so well in my gut. I asked the clerk if I may use the bathroom and she pointed me in the direction. It was one of those single bathrooms for all staff.
Long story short, I had vicious diarrhoea and it caused me to be 12 minutes late for my interview. Bathroom smelled a like fish graveyard. Luckily it was raining and I didn't have an umbrella so I got really wet and told them I was in the bathroom 'drying off'.
By the end of it, I was both embarrassed and disappointed with myself and thought there was no way they'd call me back.
Sure enough, they did call me back. It was down to me and one other person. I did not end up getting the job but beat 30 people despite moving the earth in their bathroom.
A person can change their habits and look very different later on. My friend used to be quite chubby however with correct diet and exercise she's very attractive now.
For me it's always been more than just what she looks like. Looks can and will change, what she is inside is much harder to change.
The question is, are you attracted to her? If yes, go for it. If no, don't. Physical attraction is just as important as emotional, psychological, sexual types of attraction.
Don't feel guilty and call yourself "shallow". Your lack of interest in a girl because she is bigger is no different from women who like tall men, or white guys, or men with broad shoulders, etc. You're human. You're allowed to have preferences.
Ever go through a shitty time in your life to the point where you start listening to music and over time, you become fixated on one song that you have on an endless loop?
When you get over that hump and move forward, do you forever associate that song with the emotional state you endured while listening to it or do you listen as if nothing ever happened? Or do you stop listening to it all together?
Ever go through a shitty time in your life to the point where you start listening to music and over time, you become fixated on one song that you have on an endless loop?
When you get over that hump and move forward, do you forever associate that song with the emotional state you endured while listening to it or do you listen as if nothing ever happened? Or do you stop listening to it all together?
I still listen to the songs I forever associate with an emotional state or event. Some are good memories and some are bad, but the bad ones don't trigger the emotions and events of that time the same anymore. They kind of just add another layer of emotion to the song for me.
Two examples for me:
A mutual breakup
City and Colour - Hello, I'm in Delaware
Wait for the results, stay positive. In the event that it didn't go well, there are always plenty of more opportunities out there. Reflect on this one and see where you feel like you could improve on for the next opportunity.
__________________ Posted from NE 1-J W Inglis Building
Background of myself: decent job, own place, own car, travel 1-2 times a year. Just a regular working person lifestyle.
I met this girl online and I met her in person last week, we chat for 2.5 hours at a dessert shop. Regular conversation breaking the ice and knowing more about each other. She's the good good type girl, raised from "Vancouver West side", studied hard and has a decent job, lived the asian parent rules being a good "ONLY" child.
I asked her out on a date since she is honest and genuine about her life from the first meetup. Plus I have nothing to lose anyways from a date, wanted to just take things from there. She tells me "she thinks she is looking for someone older". I didn't respond to her after that.
Is this girl looking for someone more "mature" or gold digger? I feel she is a gold digger. At the end of the first initial meetup, it was at night and she didn't drive, so I offered to drop her off at the skytrain station. For reference, I drive a subi with a loud exhaust and my car is new. Maybe I portray myself as an immature kid driving a loud ricer car? Also probably she is used to the benz/bmw lifestyle from the west side? Not sure what people look for when they seek for someone "older" besides financial stability, she's 30 for reference.
I always feel women that have their shit together are the hardest to get into because they have everything and don't feel anything is needed to change their life.
I always feel women that have their shit together are the hardest to get into because they have everything and don't feel anything is needed to change their life.
Amen brother. I've seen a lot of girls (and guys) who are used to the "finer things in life, car, work, travel, eats" unable to bend backwards to "accommodate" to meet people. By setting the bar that high is to limit yourself to options.
Lastly, the bullshi* "you should never settle for less" crap doesn't work with me. I'm the equal opportunity employer. By meeting different people, rich, poor, skinny, rich, gave me a better understanding of what I want and lastly, gave me a much better game.
Not going to judge; you put on a good game and sometime it just didn't work with that one person.
Honestly. It CAN be a blessing in disguise, she tells you what she wants instead of you trying to guess. NOTHING worse then a girl leading you on and not knowing what she wants.
If she wants someone who is financially stable, maturer, mentally solid, maybe you're not it. SOmetimes its ok.
Let me play the Devil's Advocate here and stir up some conversation.
How old are you? how old was the girl?
What kind of tone did you use when you spoke to her in the 2.5 hours?
What did you tell her?
Did you tell her about your travels? Where did you travel too?
COuld it be that when you spoke to her; you gave her the vibe that you're not really mature.
example: going to Las Vegas for an EDM event Vs. Going to Las Vegas for work
Did you tell her about your car before hand?
how did you word it? "yeah, My Subaru is modified with a Invida stage 3 exhaust!" Vs. "Yeah, My car is this old loud modified thing. sorry about that"
Its natural for a women to look for an "Older" - they want a protector, and generally, someone older is more protective.
Especially for a girl that was sheltered her entire life and an only child. this makes perfect sense
Its not about the hand you were given, its all about how you play it.
Girl is 30 and I'm older by a year. Right from the get go her tone is "serious" attitude, like the type that can't really take humor; whereas, I am more open with humor. There is no right or wrong, each to their own. I am serious when it's serious matter and kid around when it's play time. No need to tell her of my car prior since a car shouldn't be a reason why someone is interested in you lol. Maybe I'm being unrealistic? She's never dated in her life ever; hence, I don't know how she "thinks" she wants someone older when she don't have a baseline to work from. Eg. if she had prior relationships where the guy can't provide or immature, then the reason is reasonable. End of the day, no loss from my end.
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