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threezero 06-24-2019 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld (Post 8951489)
summer fling?

dont judge before you try.

That a possibility...

She has claimed my favorite hoodie... I guess it is on now.


RIP to my hoodie

FOREVER 06-26-2019 07:26 PM

Here I am waiting for the light to turn green. An orange M3 with CF accents on the bumper, and braps as it passes me on the oncoming side. The light turns green, the older guy behind me starts honking as I am still mesmerized. He rips it past me and yells "GET OFF YOUR PHONE." My phone was in my bag, in the trunk..


I've never felt so disgruntled before.... :okay:PJSalt

Mr.Money 07-03-2019 02:27 PM

watching the news.....i hate these people killing other people pleading insanity because "they heard voices inside their head"....we all hear voices in our head!!......ever since i was a young adult it would be 'Fuck school" waking up in the morning....then later now i'm older its "Fuck Work!" looking at that clock at 7 am everyday......But We never listen to them

Traum 07-10-2019 11:29 PM

Just want to wish my ex a happy birthday today.

GS8 07-11-2019 07:57 PM

Good Lord, I just realized you can't spell sex without ex...

Throwaway1234 07-30-2019 07:24 AM

I feel okay with this - and I feel like I shouldn't be.
 
-Throwaway for obvious reasons-

Recently, my dad's been acting weird.

He's never been a fan of short hair, at least for the past 5 years or so. He claims it's cause it's cheaper to just not cut it every two months. His hair is long enough to tie into a ponytail or about should length. That's fine. For as long as I can remember, he usually hides out in his office are doing whatever he's doing. He wears knee high socks, just plain black ones, because he says his work chafes his legs and that they're cheaper than buying men's socks. Previously, he's bought purple phone cases because they were cheaper than black.

In the past six months or so, my brother has been asking my mom why my dad has been wearing knee highs/panty hose. My dad claims its because it's warm. Even more recently, he's been seen with purple short shorts. Hot weather, I get it. I walk around the house in boxers and it's not a big deal. My mom's been walking into his office to ask him things, and he's been quickly covering up or hiding things. THEN yesterday, she walked in on him doing the same actions, but then she caught a glimpse of what he was wearing. It was a bra.

My entire explanation to her for all of this for the past two weeks is people like weird shit, it's just the way the world is??? I mean for an example (i didn't tell her this) I fantasize about rough sex and rape-play, but I don't act on it. It's weird, but it's just the way things are.

Anyway, after all of this, my mom leaves the house with him for a couple of hours. I started to get worried after two hours, cause I've always heard stories about couples killing each other and what not. They came back, safe and sound, and everything seemed okay. Okay. So today, she tells me she wants to just go on a vacation with my dad. That's fine, they should really be doing date nights or whatever, for intimacy and a better connection - like every healthy couple. I also find out today the reason why he's been doing all this weird stuff. Apparently, he's always felt a feminine side ever since he was a kid. Apparently, he used to play with makeup and shit.

So. Does this make him gay? Apparently not, because he likes women. So he's trans? I don't know. It's weird. And it's even weirder that I'm oddly okay with this. Granted, I've never had a strong relationship with him. He's never communicated to me directly. He always tells my mom to tell me things or parent me through my mom. Probably some deep rooted daddy issues there. But this sexual identity thing would explain a lot. He's not happy with himself, thus, he projects.

Regardless of what he is, trans/gay/bi/straight, he's still my dad. And I'm oddly okay (or in shock/denial) over everything that has happened. Either that or society no longer oppresses the LGBTQ community and that is now just the norm. Thus, this is just normal. I think.

Jmac 07-30-2019 08:56 AM

Maybe he just wants to experiment with stuff he’s always been interested in but has been too ashamed to actually do because society has been pretty unfriendly to that behaviour until recently. And just because he does it, it doesn’t mean he should be pigeonholed with labels, which society loves to do.

BIC_BAWS 08-26-2019 09:38 AM

I've been working full time for the past two years. I wouldn't say I'm burnt out, but I'm disappointed in this year. People say I inspire them, because I was able to make something for myself - I started my own digital marketing company last year. That said, I feel like I'm a fake. Call it imposter syndrome. I haven't done anything significant or astonishing in the past year. It just feels like I'm cruising through life and this sucks.

6793026 08-26-2019 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Throwaway1234 (Post 8955286)

Regardless of what he is, trans/gay/bi/straight, he's still my dad. And I'm oddly okay (or in shock/denial) over everything that has happened. Either that or society no longer oppresses the LGBTQ community and that is now just the norm. Thus, this is just normal. I think.

https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/...4Mg@@._V1_.jpg

not trolling, you shoudl watch this movie. HK film, great acting both female and male lead; situation is exactly what you're describing; dad with a wife with a kid etc. Obviously from the movie poster, he's full blown wearing female clothes. A well done movie dealing with the the asian / hk / lens on LGBTQ etc.

GS8 08-27-2019 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS (Post 8958131)
I haven't done anything significant or astonishing in the past year. It just feels like I'm cruising through life and this sucks.

Welcome to the machine

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Welcome my son, welcome to the machine.
Where have you been?
It's alright we know where you've been.
You've been in the pipeline, filling in time,
Provided with toys and 'Scouting for Boys'.
You bought a guitar to punish your ma,
And you didn't like school,
And you know you're nobody's fool,
So welcome to the machine.
For me, the machine is a hamster wheel and I can't stop running. That weird conundrum of making money and not having time to spend it and in that one moment where I can breathe and spend my money, I don't know what to buy. I could go out and buy a $70k midlife crisis car but then what? That would only tighten the cage. Also I've been driving a brand new car for the last 6 weeks and it's sooooooo meh. I like my $1500 car better.


6793026 08-27-2019 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by GS8 (Post 8958326)
For me, the machine is a hamster wheel and I can't stop running. That weird conundrum of making money and not having time to spend it and in that one moment where I can breathe and spend my money, I don't know what to buy. I could go out and buy a $70k midlife crisis car but then what? That would only tighten the cage. Also I've been driving a brand new car for the last 6 weeks and it's sooooooo meh. I like my $1500 car better.

really? I love my life. In Van, we have the best of what the world has to offer. I don't give a shit about money because work life balance means so much to me. Fuck overtime, I'm here to enjoy the activities to the max. Work comes second.

*note, i'm not a millennial, i work in a fortune 50 company in sales managing entire BC.

BIC_BAWS 08-28-2019 12:22 AM

I don't want to wake up one day, be 45, and realize I have accomplished nothing in my life. Maybe its the entrepreneurial spirit. But I want to always be doing something greater than me. Likely, it's wanting recognition for the results I produce or something to put my name to.



Money is a constant. You'll always need it. Doing something that is recognized across all sources of media generates money. But I think it's getting named for it that is driving me.

Bouncing Bettys 08-30-2019 09:56 PM

There was a twitter game where you use predictive text to complete the sentence: I'm marrying an ______ . For me, I'm marrying an issue. Given my history, that makes too much sense.

Presto 09-04-2019 05:31 PM

My sister is the designated keeper of family information and secrets/scandals. When I want to know the situation, I check with her.

BIC_BAWS 09-04-2019 10:36 PM

How do you know if your s/o is not the right person for you? I guess you just know, hence why I'm typing this, but what if they do change? What if it gets better? I'm finding that the differences in maturity is driving us apart. Someone who just goes to school, has no idea the life of someone who is trying to juggle a full time job, a part time job, and a side business.

Gerbs 09-05-2019 11:45 AM

As someone who worked FT and did school FT the last two years. I don't think I could date someone that just goes to school. Different values/drive in life.

BIC_BAWS 09-05-2019 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Gerbs (Post 8959151)
As someone who worked FT and did school FT the last two years. I don't think I could date someone that just goes to school. Different values/drive in life.

Yeah it's frustrating that she thinks work can be just simple 9-5. That's if your fortunate. However, I'm not fortunate to be in that position. I do a 9-5, then 5-8 m-f and weekends for other clients, weekends some of my time is split out for my side projects, and I still manage to have a full day of time to spend with her.

I think I know my answer. It's frustrating dating someone who doesn't understand the grind. The grind doesn't end. In her free time, she likes to watch YouTube videos and essentially kill time. In my free time, I like to learn shit on LinkedIn Lynda and start projects. Or work on my car and improve my lap times.

I think the most frustrating thing is that, she can't understand why I do this. Yeah it seems hard and it's tough. But good things don't come easy, and in order for me to be happy, I need to always be improving and growing. She doesn't understand that work is a need, not a choice. You need to work, to survive. I guess someone who grew up with a stay at home mom her entire life, will never understand that.

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Jmac 09-05-2019 01:23 PM

I mean, I've been there, done that. Worked full time while going to school full time in my late-teens/early-20s. Worked full-time and part-time while going to school part-time in my mid-20s/late-20s. Still working full-time and "going to school" (distance education) part-time into my mid-30s.

I was going through some of my old pay stubs last month and the hours I worked while also studying and working part-time at another job was fucking insane during the busy periods (110-160 hours a pay period at my main job plus another 20-40 hours at my part-time job plus school). It's no wonder I was in the hospital a few times a year thinking I was having a heart attack (which always turned out to be a panic attack, thankfully).

My SO is like the complete opposite, which can be frustrating at times (e.g. go work back-to-back 16-hour shifts, do an evening course on one of those days, and get like 4 hours of sleep between shifts and she hasn't done anything around the house while working 6 hours over that stretch), but she's also happy and doesn't cause me additional stress (for the most part) when I'm not working.

Mr.HappySilp 09-05-2019 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Gerbs (Post 8959151)
As someone who worked FT and did school FT the last two years. I don't think I could date someone that just goes to school. Different values/drive in life.

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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS (Post 8959153)
Yeah it's frustrating that she thinks work can be just simple 9-5. That's if your fortunate. However, I'm not fortunate to be in that position. I do a 9-5, then 5-8 m-f and weekends for other clients, weekends some of my time is split out for my side projects, and I still manage to have a full day of time to spend with her.

I think I know my answer. It's frustrating dating someone who doesn't understand the grind. The grind doesn't end. In her free time, she likes to watch YouTube videos and essentially kill time. In my free time, I like to learn shit on LinkedIn Lynda and start projects. Or work on my car and improve my lap times.

I think the most frustrating thing is that, she can't understand why I do this. Yeah it seems hard and it's tough. But good things don't come easy, and in order for me to be happy, I need to always be improving and growing. She doesn't understand that work is a need, not a choice. You need to work, to survive. I guess someone who grew up with a stay at home mom her entire life, will never understand that.

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Originally Posted by Jmac (Post 8959159)
I mean, I've been there, done that. Worked full time while going to school full time in my late-teens/early-20s. Worked full-time and part-time while going to school part-time in my mid-20s/late-20s. Still working full-time and "going to school" (distance education) part-time into my mid-30s.

I was going through some of my old pay stubs last month and the hours I worked while also studying and working part-time at another job was fucking insane during the busy periods (110-160 hours a pay period at my main job plus another 20-40 hours at my part-time job plus school). It's no wonder I was in the hospital a few times a year thinking I was having a heart attack (which always turned out to be a panic attack, thankfully).

My SO is like the complete opposite, which can be frustrating at times (e.g. go work back-to-back 16-hour shifts, do an evening course on one of those days, and get like 4 hours of sleep between shifts and she hasn't done anything around the house while working 6 hours over that stretch), but she's also happy and doesn't cause me additional stress (for the most part) when I'm not working.


Depends on the person. I used to work 12 works days 7 days a week. Yea the OT pay was awesome and I save a lot coz I don't have any days off literally I put laundry in the morning came home and night take out them (they will be wrinkle and smelly coz they been in the washer for the whole day) It was good at first but after 6 months or so I got really burnt out.

Then switch to 10 to 12 hours day but 5 days a week with a part time job on the weekends.

Can I still do it now? I don't think so. With a family and such is hard to be working such long hours and still have time for my wife after work. It takes 2 hours each day to travel to and back from work. Then there is the cooking, chores, clean up, grocery shopping and then work out.

Traum 09-05-2019 09:06 PM

Holy shxt, you guys... Watch it and take care of your bodies, man... Feeling driven and determined is one thing. You never want to compromise your health just to do that, you know?

6793026 09-06-2019 07:52 AM

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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS (Post 8959118)
How do you know if your s/o is not the right person for you? I guess you just know, hence why I'm typing this, but what if they do change? What if it gets better? I'm finding that the differences in maturity is driving us apart. Someone who just goes to school, has no idea the life of someone who is trying to juggle a full time job, a part time job, and a side business.

this is the reason why i suggest people going thru pre-martial counselling.
I MC my friend's wedding back 10 years ago; they were in love etc. Fast forward a bit; guy was happy to work 9 - 5 but the wife kept on getting promoted and moving up in a company. Guy kept on sitting at home doing video games and didn't take care of the daughter. Came to a point the lifestyle and income changed. Her income was 4 times of her husbands and they (among lots of other stuff which probably I am unaware of) they divorced, guy didn't want to see the daughter, nor contributed to the alimony.

BIC_BAWS 09-06-2019 08:00 AM

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Originally Posted by 6793026 (Post 8959221)
this is the reason why i suggest people going thru pre-martial counselling.

I MC my friend's wedding back 10 years ago; they were in love etc. Fast forward a bit; guy was happy to work 9 - 5 but the wife kept on getting promoted and moving up in a company. Guy kept on sitting at home doing video games and didn't take care of the daughter. Came to a point the lifestyle and income changed. Her income was 4 times of her husbands and they (among lots of other stuff which probably I am unaware of) they divorced, guy didn't want to see the daughter, nor contributed to the alimony.

This guy sounds like a POS. Cool you're happy working 9-5, but you had a daughter together. Why would you commit to that and be a POS. Seriously.

Sounds like he's unhappy that his wife makes so much more than him. Sounds like my father actually, but if that's the case. Why couldn't he take care of his daughter AND start something for himself or start passion projects. SMH.

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XplicitLuder 09-07-2019 07:17 PM

Wish I could say I don't care but somehow I think I do... just wanted to be friends with yall cus we use to chill and you are all cool .. but everytime I try to hangout just seems like there's always something going on. Maybe you guys don't wanna be friends with us? Don't know why.. Sucks not being able to find a group to call my friends, maybe I've watched too much "Friends" and "HIMYM" and friendships like that don't exist for me..

Edit : yes this sounds depressing and I probably am depressed in some parts of my life.. I'll move on but I needed to vent

GS8 09-07-2019 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Traum (Post 8959195)
Holy shxt, you guys... Watch it and take care of your bodies, man... Feeling driven and determined is one thing. You never want to compromise your health just to do that, you know?

Ironically I punched a filing cabinet pretty hard on Friday with everyone around. Needless to say, things aren't going so great at the office :lol

I scared the office dog as well with my knuckle shuffle but she's like a cat as she gets scared by the stapler so I don't really give a :fuckyea:

jinxcrusader 09-16-2019 10:55 PM

I need a second job that's flexible with hours. I work 8 days in a row and 4 days off. That means my days off are not set and by day 3 of my days off I am bored.
And no I'm not interested in those meal delivering jobs... my car is too bad on fuel


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