I work 9am-2am. Typically my life balance comes from the weekend. This only lasted about 2 years. I'm focusing on my health this year. So I'll take 2 hrs out of every weekday to gym and Sundays to meal prep.

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Dance and team sports seem to have worked well for me!

Usually hit up the studio after work to blow off some steam and have some fun.

The ratio even for hip hop is like.... 70 female : 30 male

I think the only way it's going to work is if you find a woman who truly loves you and supports your goals.

Let me ask you this: if you find a woman who you may not be attracted to on the outside, but supports you career all the way, would you go for it? Would you be willing to play the long game? Slave yourself to work while you're in your 20's and early 30's, while your bros are hooking up with hot bitchez?

I would. My now ex-gf didn't like how I didn't give enough attention to her / I worked too much. Even if we were together physically, I would get calls and problems to solve.

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The family chat I'm in on Facebook is a fucking echo chamber of stupidity.

I would any day. Bros can hook up with hot bitches all day long, cause in the end, he'll realize personalities do matter at the end.

Honestly, after all the makeup is gone, looks fade. Even Le Perla and toys get old after a while. Personality trumps all my man.

Personalities do matter, but you still want to be attracted to a person. If there is someone that wants to support you, I would give them a chance. Attractiveness is highly subjective, and a person can definitely grow on you because of their other traits.

Well, I think physical attractiveness is arguably pretty objective and is something that is largely influenced by cultural norms. It's pretty fair to say that if you find a girl attractive, chances are, the guy across the room probably does too. That's male competition, and there's nothing that can change that.

However, I find that as I get older and becoming more career and family oriented, those other traits are starting to grab my attention just as much as attractiveness.

What I can't stand, are girls who are both unattractive AND unsupportive. That's when I back the fuck off.

:seriously:

Ladies: Guy sends you flowers for your birthday

thoughts?

whats your intentions

FWB :troll:

How close with you to/how attracted do you think she is to you?

She's my work wife?
Was my work wife. Until I quit and she changed jobs too.

I'm attracted to her slightly, wouldn't mind giving it a try if she was down. But also wouldn't cry over it if she wasn't interested

Personally, I've always preferred to keep my work wife as nothing more than the work wife. It gets tricky as soon as it turns into a real workplace romance...

IMO, already got messy due to the fact you're calling her a "wife" instead of a coworker.
That is, unless you're single and looking to mingle.


I mean, let's be honest... You know what you're trying to do.

Waaah? You've never had a work wife before, dude? They are awesome!

(And yes, they are special, but not that kind of special that you might be thinking of.)

^I have work moms, treat me like a son LOL, watch my back when shit hits the fan...

currently in a pretty tricky situation right now:

I have an old buddy who I used to be pretty good friends with, we'd study together and help each other out in university. I'm not as close with him as I used to be, mostly because of a beef we had - a few years back, he stopped inviting me to hangouts with friends, started excluding me from team projects, and stopped replying to my texts. I sometimes see him when I hangout with my bigger group of friends, but other than that, we don't keep in touch.

This is a list of his gf history:
gf # 1 - my other buddy's ex gf. He definitely broke the 'bro code' on this one, and it ruined their friendship together. Eventually he broke up with this gf.

gf #2 - a close friend of ours who is in our social circle. This was kind of around the time he stopped inviting me to shit, stopped replying to my texts, etc. I had no idea he was dating my friend and only found out through my other friend. It didn't work out and they broke up on good terms.

potential gf #3 - he recently DM'ed my sister on instagram (he only met her once in person). They went out for coffee, and my sister only told me after the fact. They made plans to go for dinner next week.

Initially, when I found out, I was pissed AF, not gonna lie. Mostly at the fact that they both didn't really think to consult with me first before going out - as if my opinion didn't matter. I also can't bear the thought of him going out with my sister after all the shit I had to put up with from him for all these years. As you can tell, he has a track record of dating girls through my connections, and he's never discussed any of it with me.

The reason I'm still sitting on the fence though, is because I know deep down that he can be a good boyfriend to her (maybe even better than the ones she has had before). I also know that at the end of the day, they are both adults (with a 4 year age gap), and if they really want to go out, there's nothing I can do to stop it.

Really torn on how I should deal with this situation.

I think for me, I'd approach it with a non judgemental tone and be generous with my assumptions towards the other guy.

Maybe I'd take this as an opportunity to better understand my sister and her perspectives on friends/partners. Mention that you're going through a tough time and how she'd deal with someone who "has good intentions but sometimes does 'x bad behaviour" or someone "who you've seen be an amazing partner but also does 'y bad behaviour' to their friends sometimes.

Maybe you'll find that this matters to her, maybe you'll find that it doesn't.

Note to self: If wife wants to have sushi dinner 4 nights straight don't judge or argue just go with it.

FALK.............. went to stage 5 of interviews and didn't make it to get an offer. they strung me along to the very end but I asked them and he was honest with me.

From 45 people down to 4 and lost. It's all good. I know the universe / God / stars will align and the next door will open.

I did exactly that and told my sister that if she really wanted to go out with him that she had my approval.

I found out last night that she called it off.

Definitely the awesome thing to do. Speaks boldly about who you are!

Would you allow her to date anyone on Revscene? :troll: