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07-28-2009, 01:03 PM
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| To fight for a girl or not?
So I've been reading through tons of old threads, some people have been saying to fight for someone that you really care about, but then there are those that say to let go and let them come back to you. How/When do you know which one to do? I'm kind of in a situation right now, and I constantly think if I should fight for this girl, and if I do will it push her away? Or should I let her go? but then it may just seem to her as though I don't really care about her.
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07-28-2009, 02:28 PM
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#2 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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I'd fight. But that's just how I've always been. I absolutely refuse to give up just like that.
Also, it'd help if you post more info on the situation. There's always an assessment one should do b4 making the final decision.
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07-28-2009, 02:54 PM
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#3 | | MoD
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I go also with fight as I refuse to be a door mat and lose.
give us more info so we can "help"
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07-28-2009, 03:07 PM
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depends if she has a bf already. If she doesnt, then by all means fight off all competition. But if she has a bf, then I think it's immoral to go after her. Just think about how cool u'd be if some jackass starts macking at ur girl.
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07-28-2009, 04:58 PM
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depends on the situation.
if she told you she's not sure how she feels about you just yet/has a bf but doesn't knbow what to do cause she is "torn" between the two of you/isn't ready for a relationship..i say don't waste your time cause what she's really trying to say (but can't say it) is "i don't like you but i don't want your attention to go away just yet so please stick around so i can play around with you some more"
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07-28-2009, 05:12 PM
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why fight for her if she isnt fightin back to begin with
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07-28-2009, 06:46 PM
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The situation is that me and this girl were seeing each other/together for a while back from like October-December. She was really confused as she was trying to get over her ex but they were still talking and he was trying to get her back. So we hook up, and we get really couply and stuff, but I couldn't take it anymore when she started to hang out with him again and invited him over for christmas eve dinner. So I broke things off, not in such a nice way. Time goes by and I call her to meet up because I wanted to apologize for the way things ended. Ever since that day that I saw her I can't get her out of my mind and I told her that I want to work things out. She says that she doesn't want to because she doesn't wasn't to repeat the past which is understandable. But to that my argument is that I never really got a fair chance of actually being her official boyfriend without any interference with her ex in the picture. So now I'm stuck, do I just forget about it? Or keep fighting for it?
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07-28-2009, 06:54 PM
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i think u shud fight for it IF she has no more ties with the ex
b/c i wouldnt know but just guessing that u were just a rebound back then?
if u feel like shes a good catch then good luck
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07-28-2009, 10:22 PM
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i say nay in this one
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07-29-2009, 12:22 AM
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^ i second that
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07-29-2009, 01:10 AM
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^ third
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07-29-2009, 02:23 AM
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#12 | | DOES HE LOOK LIKE A BITCH?
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Originally Posted by choda  The situation is that me and this girl were seeing each other/together for a while back from like October-December. She was really confused as she was trying to get over her ex but they were still talking and he was trying to get her back. So we hook up, and we get really couply and stuff, but I couldn't take it anymore when she started to hang out with him again and invited him over for christmas eve dinner. So I broke things off, not in such a nice way. Time goes by and I call her to meet up because I wanted to apologize for the way things ended. Ever since that day that I saw her I can't get her out of my mind and I told her that I want to work things out. She says that she doesn't want to because she doesn't wasn't to repeat the past which is understandable. But to that my argument is that I never really got a fair chance of actually being her official boyfriend without any interference with her ex in the picture. So now I'm stuck, do I just forget about it? Or keep fighting for it? | Fight for it.
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07-29-2009, 03:39 AM
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Originally Posted by choda The situation is that me and this girl were seeing each other/together for a while back from like October-December. She was really confused as she was trying to get over her ex but they were still talking and he was trying to get her back. So we hook up, and we get really couply and stuff, but I couldn't take it anymore when she started to hang out with him again and invited him over for christmas eve dinner. So I broke things off, not in such a nice way. Time goes by and I call her to meet up because I wanted to apologize for the way things ended. Ever since that day that I saw her I can't get her out of my mind and I told her that I want to work things out. She says that she doesn't want to because she doesn't wasn't to repeat the past which is understandable. But to that my argument is that I never really got a fair chance of actually being her official boyfriend without any interference with her ex in the picture. So now I'm stuck, do I just forget about it? Or keep fighting for it? | absolutely fight for it, i mean if you can't get her off your mind then that's already a good reason to fight. You should do it asap because it's better to fight for it now, then for her to hook up with another guy/ her ex and then you fight for it.
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07-29-2009, 09:38 AM
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#14 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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fight for it.
I know I would.
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07-29-2009, 11:40 AM
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id fight for it
... always best to go down in flames.
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07-29-2009, 04:13 PM
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I say forget her, she had her chance, the "I can't get over my ex" is a lie, always was and always will be. She just wants to use you for attention/whatever else she wants. I've been on the receiving end of this twice.
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07-30-2009, 12:04 AM
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Originally Posted by miss_crayon depends on the situation.
if she told you she's not sure how she feels about you just yet/has a bf but doesn't knbow what to do cause she is "torn" between the two of you/isn't ready for a relationship..i say don't waste your time cause what she's really trying to say (but can't say it) is "i don't like you but i don't want your attention to go away just yet so please stick around so i can play around with you some more" | QFT
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07-30-2009, 01:21 AM
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#18 | | look at these diamonds, they shining
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i fought for it, it made things worse
my advice to you OP : just let it go. if its meant to be, its meant to be.
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07-30-2009, 04:38 AM
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Originally Posted by miss_crayon depends on the situation.
if she told you she's not sure how she feels about you just yet/has a bf but doesn't knbow what to do cause she is "torn" between the two of you/isn't ready for a relationship..i say don't waste your time cause what she's really trying to say (but can't say it) is "i don't like you but i don't want your attention to go away just yet so please stick around so i can play around with you some more" | so true. reading between the lines
same thing happened to me and ive moved on to bigger and better things 
it really depends on the situation, if she doesnt have a boyfriend, fight.
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07-30-2009, 06:04 AM
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| Quote: | She says that she doesn't want to because she doesn't wasn't to repeat the past | WAKE THE FUCK UP! SHE JUST SAID "GET LOST, YOU LOSER."
you just get slapped in the face, and you are begging her to be with you again?
HOLY SHIT, is she the only female you know in your life?
yeah, fight for it...SLAP!!!
I mean...SLAP!!!
oh, I am sorry...SLAP!!!
SLAP SLAP SLAP!!! you are fucking stupid.  | |
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07-30-2009, 02:53 PM
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#21 | | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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^ daumn take it easy on him LOl hes just blinded right now once he's over her, he'll realize his mistake and hopefully get in his car, drive down to her house and run her over
lol jokes aside yeah just let it go she just a bitch
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07-30-2009, 04:12 PM
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Thanks for all the responses! Really appreciated, I think I'm just going to let it go and see what happens now, and for your comment asian_XL she just doesn't want to repeat the past, meaning she doesn't want me to hurt her again the way I told her we were over. Thanks for coming out anyways tard
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08-01-2009, 10:15 AM
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I think being she's not willing to take some of the responsibility of the two of you breaking up, I'd suggest walking away. I'm sorry but it's one thing to remain in touch with an ex, but if it bothers the current person you are with why would you invite them over for a holiday meal ??? It wasn't just you who ended the relationship, so unless she's willing to work on it take some large steps backwards.
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08-03-2009, 09:29 AM
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Originally Posted by choda she just doesn't want to repeat the past, meaning she doesn't want me to hurt her again the way I told her we were over. | Isn't she the one who hurt you by acting like a couple then ditching you when it mattered (Christmas dinner)? If she is afraid of how "you'll hurt her again", and she thinks she's in the clear, i would move on.
About fighting for it: I'm all for fighting, but I also don't play games.
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08-03-2009, 04:15 PM
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Man I gotta get my eyes checked. I read "Should I fight a girl or not?"
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