1) ask your gf to spread her legs
2) look at it
3) see if there are any differences between you and what you see

i've suggested to my bf about going to a strip club before and he's fine with it :P heck we'll prob even go together!

I think just let her go.
Generally strip clubs can be a lot safer than clubs.. people are there to see the dancers, not your gf. plus there is security for protection.

y so serious

going to a strip club for the first time, is no different than drinking for the first time, going clubbing for the first time, getting your drivers license, driving, all that jazz.

its a right of passage...

Strip clubs in Canada are Overpriced! :D

This is your girlfriend right? Since she's your girlfriend you're not really letting her do anything she can do whatever she wants. Even if she was your wife you'd have to have zero self confidence or trust to not let her do something like go to a strip club. That goes for woman not trusting their boyfriends/husbands to. The girls/guys who don't like the significant others going to strip clubs almost always have issues ie: low self esteem or they're cheaters themselves and think their partner is going to do the same to them.

portland stripclubs FTW! :thumbsup::thumbsup:

I encourage my boyfriends and his friends all the time to go stripclubs.
I even paid a stripper so my boyfriend could get a "motorboat" from a hot, cute stripper.

I have this thinking that everyone should have fun...even couples need to have fun.
It is not like my S.O. will have sex, kiss, touch or keep-in-touch with the strippers.
It is just a pure entertainment.
Besides, if my S.O. will cheat on me then it shows that he is not worth it since there is no loyalty.

As for trusting my S.O. in a case like this --wake up with another girl by his side coz he`s drunk.
Then I can determine how irresponsible my SO is.
And in ur case, if you are scared that something will happen to her in a stripclub...
then u can test and determine the street-smart-level of your girlfriend.


Goodluck.

P.S. U should not really think a lot. You are just stressing yourself to things that should not even matter. :-p

this is so true, there is NOTHING wrong with strip clubs (male or female) and no one should feel bad about going or their partner going to one

you end up letting her go or what lol?

and the paramount still lets in 18 and up, went tonight was pretty sick new hot azn there shes bangin

titty bars are extremely safe. the strippers are so much more friendlier than guys because they know the guys aer so much more aggressive.

strippers will interact with the girl so much more and flirt with them. seriously, if anything happens, a girl can just tell the bouncer he was trying to touch you and BAM, they get kicked out. you got nothing to worry about her safety.

if youre that insecure it would be a good time to ask yourself if you're ready to be in a relationship. the most important thing in a relationship is trust.

UPDATE:GF going to stripclub
 

im gonna make this detailed as possible so yall know where im coming from.
first off thanx to everyone on the board for being serious and giving me some good responses, i gotta tell you this girl has completley ruined my self esteem and this board has helped me get outta my emo phase....since ive bin getting a good response and the replys are actually helpful i feel comfortable updating whats going on in my life.(too bad its a long read)

first off background on me and my girl we had an amazing relationship when we first met. we have bin together for 3 yrs, we blow our pay cheques on each other because we like going out and watching a movie + dinner and that kinda stuff. not ur typical girl i am east indian and its hard to find a good east indian girl who hasnt been around the block.. well i found one which is why im bothering with this thread which is why im going thru this BS and which is why im still with her after everything im about to tell u guys. shes beutiful gets checked out alot which pisses me off and is like 10, but she use to like makeing me feel good abt my self as if im so hot too even tho im not....she loved me alot i know she did i just dunno where it went....we use to walk around and some fob would look at her and she would grab my arm like fuk u kinda thing and i liked that i dunno why...she use to call me things like daddi;) she was wild in bed and i saved my self for her she was the first girl i had sex with.

im telling u guys all this so u guys know how much i feel for her and what we have gone thru. we have gone thru alot of BS ive cheated on her and she has forgive me as well...i know big shock but we got past that thats why i know she loves me i fukd around and she took me back

it means alot to me and things were never the same after that. so now after all that love i wonder if she fed up or did she find someone else...does she really need time to her self or is she trying to buy time to talk to someone else..AM I FUCKING INSECURE OR WAT...

so fast forward past few weeks(thats was the past^) my gf has been acting kinda shady latley she tend to give up what she hiding because she will start a fight to get my mind off it when i realize she starts a fight for no reason

eg.i work from 10am-6pm call her on my breaks no answer woke up at 9am and txted her so i never even got a response from that. got off work at 6pm took the bus home because i thought she could give me ride but she never answered she pickes up the fone at like 9:45pm that night and tells me she with her cuzin and that she is going home. i can tell if shes drunk and so i ask her "did u drink" and she goes "yea i had a beer"=1 beer in my head. she had WAAY more than a fucking beer so i said polity "umm no babe u had more than a beer and her response was "WTF I DONT HAVE TIME FOR THIS SHIT" and hung up on me and never answered all night. me n her also talk every night before bed until recently so that was like WTF to me because i waited and got no call.-am i wrong in thinking she found someone else.

so the next day she tells me she was with her cuzin yada yada came home late passed out im sorry...basically asking me to say "oh its ok i love u baby everything is fine and dandy" so i did because i dont want to fight and shes gonna blow it up into a huge deal even i tho in my opinion i didnt do anything wrong and should be allowed to ask WTF my GF of the past 3 yrs was up to last night...so now u guys know our history i want to know a few things

do u tihink she found someone else if she is acting shady eg. doesnt want to talk as much as before(has chances to multitask and talk but choses not too)

is wild slutty sexy sex worth it if u feel like ur getting treated like crap(Even tho u feel fuckn awesome in bed together complete openess anal w\e u want)
she lets me grab her body w\e i want whenever i want as long as no one can see and its not too much public she keeps me satisfied sexually but when it comes to my feelings she just doenst care

To all the reply abt me having a vagina in betweeen my legs, ive bin on a emotinal roller coaster cut my arms because i was so depressed, i know everything abt depression from looking it up on google i show every symptom but i dont get help even tho i need it, i try to tell this girl i really need her my parents are having issues and it my family is really having problems i really need soeone there for me i rely on her alot but it hurts when you give it ur all and no one is there to love u back...if u have a heart juss keep this serious pls-and no links for suicide help pls it doesnt work

on saturday i go out with my buddy who is friends with my gf best friend we are out blazing and he gets a call from my gf best friend and hes giving her directions on how to get back from paramount my gf never told me she went but apparently we were "broken up" because we got a fight in the morning because i wasnt use to her not asnwering my calls and i was asking why she no answer and we fought. so back to my night....my buddy tells them how to get back and i ask who it was he goes it was ur gf and her friend they went to the strip club....i felt embarassed....ive never bin to a strip club and my gf has gone before me so i dunno i just felt retarded....i confronted her next day taht she lied to me and she got choked for calling her a liar and she said "rememeber we broke up i can do w\e i want"-so apparantly 3 yrs goes out the window just like that.

i dunno revscene i could sit here and write pages on why i want to be with her and why i dont everything balances out but my life is so stressing yet she is so beutiful and perfect.

also forgot to mention she is a part of my family which is a big deal but she doesnt care but its a a big deal since im east indian my parents and her parents are a bit old fashioned but they still manage to be cool enogh with our relationship which has been amazing but i feel shameful that i have to tell them one day "we broke up" especially after all the family shit going on its not really a good option-just wish my girl could understand me:(

this is how chix make guys monsters and cold hearted and mean i know if i follow ur guys advice and leave her im never gonna love or feel for anyone like i do now....i gotta stop typing lets hear ur replies

in the end my gf things im boring doesnt like talking to me on the phone and wishes she didnt have a cellphone so i could call her i feel like im annoying her like a kid annoys his mother WHYYY MEEEEE GOOOD!!!

forgot to add that the reason my gf got her best friend to call my best friend when we went out to blaze was so that i could hear it from someone else and she knew that would hurt my feelings...she said that to me straigght up

im not reading that wall of text.

fail

So...why are you letting her treat you like that?
You're letting her walk all over you.

No. chix don't make monsters out of us. It's just a dog-eat-dog world; and you got chewed because you were the weaker dog.

I'm not saying you have to be an ass to survive; but I am saying you're a hella "needy" person right now; and that's why she has all the leverage between the 2 of you. Unless that balance of leverage shifts, I don't see a chance of her ever changing her ways towards you.

you're no longer a challenge to her, interest level drops drastically. but let's look at it at a bigger picture. i'll acknowledge the fact that you love her, good thing bad thing? i say 50/50, why? because it's natural for humans to want what they can't have, yet loving her gives her control. clearly her interest level is at about what? 40% right now? you can talk to her less and it may increase her interest level in you, but probably up to 60% at most.

personally, i fear being clingy/needy when it comes to getting attached to girls. i rather fight a snake physically, then get smashed emotionally. that's just me.

what i suggest, meet a girl on the side that you can hang out with, not find a girl to hang out with within your phone book. but, find a new girl, start fresh and build a new first impression. keep your individed attention to her, why dwell on the negatives in life (the gf)? keep her as a friend at first, if things escalate becuase you guys have mutual feelings. great, that negative current gf will be far back in your mind. i'll state you'll never forget about her, but you have to take a few deep breathes and recognize and move on. again, keep her as a friend but show interest. don't talk about your gf to this girl, because i'm sure you don't want to hear about her exbf. keep it clean, if she asks if you have a gf, don't be shady. lying complicates things. word it to your favor, tell her it's not going smoothly then switch the subject and let her talk about her.

okay, now back to your girlfriend.

if she's treating you like shit, do you want to really stay with her? if she's putting you through all this, do you really want to stay with her?

cliche, rhetorical questions. i know the answer, you know the answer i want to hear. however, you won't do anything about it.

i'm going to presume that you're going to keep fighting for your relationship to work out, and you're going to wait and do whatever until it gets resolved.

if your motto is: good will come to those who wait.
my motto for you is: it won't last.

no you're not retarded. don't put yourself down. confidence is key, clearly your confidence is out of the window, but putting yourself down isn't going to help. you need to have self-control, you're emotions are probably telling you that you need to have her now or you'll go crazy. you're ego (love's enemy) needs immediate gratifications. but, look at yourself you can stay on revscene and write page fulls all day about her. a kid at toys-r-us has more self-control. if there's no challenge the chance of a romantic relationship is a small possibility.

if the relationship ends, well self experience is the best way to learn. just make sure you take notes and learn from your mistakes.

best of luck stoner

blah blah blah, cliff notes?

Close the book on this one. It's over. Fix yourself up before you move onto your next relationship. You have lots of baggage and other issues to work through before you're ready for another girl.

^LOL, nice

Wow lol^^^^^^^ I'd say leave but you seem to really love her soo I have no idea what to tell you. Sucks man, but I'm just wondering what would you do if she left?
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You need professional help for depression. Seriously.