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Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...
If indeed this happened, and you are not doing this just to troll us ( the reason I say this is because this kind of situation is not your typical type of relationship situation), then I highly recommend you seek professional help. Having sexual contact with another man as a straight male def means that there may be other kinds of factors in your life that come into play. I know for a fact because I have personally seen a good friend of mine(used to be) become sexually confused to the point where he is no longer my friend. Back then we used to be good friends. But at some point, his parents left him here alone and went back to hk with his new brother and he was forced to live alone with noone to celebrate Christmas, new years and birthday with. I was pretty much the only friend he had back then. Now, bear in mind that at that point in time, he was a straight male. But because of a lack of family love, he had low self esteem and being one of the fatter types, hedidnt attract so much attention from the girls. So in absence of this love, he began looking for alternatives. As a good friend of his, it was painful to watch him transform from a normal healthy kid into a fucked up sexually confused prick. He began developing sexual feelings for me and my friend and at one point, tried to rape me. It was then that I definitely knew he was a friend of mine no longer. I do not have anything against gay men AT ALL, but when someone decides to cause harm upon me without my consent, things will be dealt with a definite seriousness..
So if indeed you are having troubles within any part of your life, seek help from the many people that can help you before its too late and you find yourself trapped inside a box psychologically and emotionally. Posted via RS Mobile
If indeed this happened, and you are not doing this just to troll us ( the reason I say this is because this kind of situation is not your typical type of relationship situation), then I highly recommend you seek professional help. Having sexual contact with another man as a straight male def means that there may be other kinds of factors in your life that come into play. I know for a fact because I have personally seen a good friend of mine(used to be) become sexually confused to the point where he is no longer my friend. Back then we used to be good friends. But at some point, his parents left him here alone and went back to hk with his new brother and he was forced to live alone with noone to celebrate Christmas, new years and birthday with. I was pretty much the only friend he had back then. Now, bear in mind that at that point in time, he was a straight male. But because of a lack of family love, he had low self esteem and being one of the fatter types, hedidnt attract so much attention from the girls. So in absence of this love, he began looking for alternatives. As a good friend of his, it was painful to watch him transform from a normal healthy kid into a fucked up sexually confused prick. He began developing sexual feelings for me and my friend and at one point, tried to rape me. It was then that I definitely knew he was a friend of mine no longer. I do not have anything against gay men AT ALL, but when someone decides to cause harm upon me without my consent, things will be dealt with a definite seriousness..
So if indeed you are having troubles within any part of your life, seek help from the many people that can help you before its too late and you find yourself trapped inside a box psychologically and emotionally. Posted via RS Mobile
How ignorant. You make homosexuality sound like a disease. It's not something that you can just contract nor is it something that you can SAVE someone from. No, he does not need to seek help for being gay (and i'm not saying that he is)
You may not have anything against gay men, but you're homophobic as shit.
Homophobia is not a disease and neither should it be a negative connotation I have friends and know people that are openly gay, and I accept them for who they are. I can hang out with them as a straight guy. Being gay is not a disorder and cannot be treated. I was disgusted to hear 16yo boys on the train yesterday saying they weren't going out because it was pride weekend and they didn't want to be seen as gay. Open you minds you homophobes. Posted via RS Mobile
Homophobia is not a disease and neither should it be a negative connotation I have friends and know people that are openly gay, and I accept them for who they are. I can hang out with them as a straight guy. Being gay is not a disorder and cannot be treated. I was disgusted to hear 16yo boys on the train yesterday saying they weren't going out because it was pride weekend and they didn't want to be seen as gay. Open you minds you homophobes. Posted via RS Mobile
THANK you! If you were comfortable with your sexuality you wouldn't be afraid to have gay friends because you would know that nobody is going to be able to "convert" you. And if you were mature, you wouldn't give a shit about what other people think about you having a gay friend.
My friends are comfortable with me being straight and I am comfortable with them being gay. If you're nice to me I will do the same. If you're a dick, then I won't deal with you. I wouldn't like it if they tried to rape me but I wouldn't go as far as saying it psycological. Being gay has nothing to do with neglect Posted via RS Mobile
THANK you! If you were comfortable with your sexuality you wouldn't be afraid to have gay friends because you would know that nobody is going to be able to "convert" you. And if you were mature, you wouldn't give a shit about what other people think about you having a gay friend.
Don't get me wrong. I'm totally fine with homophobia and befriending a gay man. No problem. But when your best friend from elementary decides to develop sexual feelings for you 5 years in, and on a hangout one day, decides to lock the door of his room and tries to rape you - you feel saddened, violated and worst of all betrayed. Although I am strongly against discrimination to any type of people on this planet and am a strong believer of equality, I may tend to have a different viewpoint on things...only because of the aftermath of my experiences. Posted via RS Mobile
My friends are comfortable with me being straight and I am comfortable with them being gay. If you're nice to me I will do the same. If you're a dick, then I won't deal with you. I wouldn't like it if they tried to rape me but I wouldn't go as far as saying it psycological. Being gay has nothing to do with neglect Posted via RS Mobile
U are only partly correct. Although the sexual orientation of most gay men are genetically predetermined, studies show that neglect strongly predisposes a man to become gay. The fact that his mom left him to be with his step dad and brother is not a lie. He had no friends to turn to, back when he was in elementary, and all thru to highschool, he had difficulties with his self-esteem. At one point, I remembered he told me he would slit his wrist twice a week to make himself feel better. Till this day, I feel remorse for him, but that does not in any way cover up for the actions he made.
Also, whether or not something should be determined as a psychological disorder is truly dependant on culture and Biological development. The fact that my friend was neglected by his environment caused him to divert his sexual orientation as an outlet for his problems. Culturally homophobia is now widely accepted as a norm.... Biologically, less so. Posted via RS Mobile
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THANK you! If you were comfortable with your sexuality you wouldn't be afraid to have gay friends because you would know that nobody is going to be able to "convert" you. And if you were mature, you wouldn't give a shit about what other people think about you having a gay friend.
Would a penis forced up you ass from your gay "friend" be enough to convert you? Its easy to say. But how often do you see a gay guy walking with another man who is only his "friend"? The reason I carry hate for him is because of his person and his actions.NOT because he is gay. Posted via RS Mobile
You know Elton John and Clay Aiken had girlfriends too.
But in all seriousnes, like everyone mentioned before, you need to reconcile with yourself, and based on your own opinions and emotions, decide on what truly makes you happy. This is something you must do for yourself, and noone else can decide for you.
As for your girlfriend, I think the proper thing to do is to confess as soon as possible. Lying and cheating is not healthy for a relationship, and the longer this delays, the more damaging it may get.
^ I totally agree. Search within yourself to discover what you truly desire. But in the process, try not to let things affect you too much, never be afraid to openly discuss your issues with someone you trust. Just NEVER EVER box yourself up and let things boil up, or devastating things may happen. Posted via RS Mobile
How ignorant. You make homosexuality sound like a disease. It's not something that you can just contract nor is it something that you can SAVE someone from. No, he does not need to seek help for being gay (and i'm not saying that he is)
You may not have anything against gay men, but you're homophobic as shit.
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