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07-19-2011, 09:35 PM
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| Nurse Reveals Top 5 Secrets People Make on Their Deathbed
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By Bonnie Ware(who worked for years nursing the dying) 1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it. 2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly,in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip.But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,love and relationships. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have sillyness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again,long before you are dying.
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07-19-2011, 09:40 PM
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These are some of the things we need to remind ourselves day in and day out.
Life is short, make the best out of it.
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07-19-2011, 09:59 PM
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Everyone has regrets. Casting away the things that really matter to us, the things we actually have to work for, is just that much easier when we can settle for the lesser and familiar things in life. These are choices we make everyday, and sadly, for many of us, will keep making until its too late. We then come to fear our regrets more than our own death, a degree of self-oppression that I find hard to match in any other regard.
It's difficult to live out our dreams, do the things we love, and realize our innermost desires because of societal pressures today. But we always need to keep it in the back of our minds that we aren't actually living unless we are doing the things we love. It's important to work hard to support yourself and those dependant on you, but its also important to remember your own hopes and dreams. In consideration of our personal well-being and quality of life, all things need to be balanced and taken in moderation. Remember where your true priorities lay.
8 hours to sleep. 8 hours to work. 8 hours to live.
Live everyday to the fullest and never look back, life is too short for regret.
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07-19-2011, 11:23 PM
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i'm going to print this and put it up in my room, thanks for sharing OP
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07-19-2011, 11:33 PM
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#5 | Rs has made me the man i am today!
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LiquidTurbo, I know you didn't write this, but I want to thank you for sharing it. Probably one of the most impacting items I have ever read on RS.
I've been going through a lot of stress and sleepless nights lately, and in some way, this article makes me realize everything I have been worrying about has been so trivial.
Seriously, thanks.
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07-19-2011, 11:39 PM
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Saw this on my friend's facebook awhile ago, it was a good read.
Sometimes we just forget about what really matters while pursuing things we think we want.
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07-19-2011, 11:41 PM
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I guess my regrets are going to be the exact opposite. LOL!
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07-19-2011, 11:48 PM
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1. i knew i shouldve slammed that chick
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07-19-2011, 11:50 PM
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very thought provoking read OP
thank you. i have just printed out the 5 secrets and stuck it to my wall
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07-19-2011, 11:55 PM
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not everyone lives like this??? what a shame.
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07-20-2011, 12:44 AM
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It's difficult to live out our dreams, do the things we love, and realize our innermost desires because of societal pressures today. |
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07-20-2011, 12:59 AM
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07-20-2011, 01:07 AM
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all i can say is the grass is greener on the other side.
if they didnt work so hard
didnt forget about their friends
didnt live up to other's expectations
let themselves be "happier" (by slacking off and whaever else)
they'd probably be in a lot worse position. or whatever. you guys know what i mean.
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07-20-2011, 01:48 AM
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07-20-2011, 02:02 AM
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07-20-2011, 02:14 AM
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6. I wish I stopped wasting time on RS and focus on actual life..
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07-20-2011, 02:30 AM
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awesome read. in fact, quite inspiring.
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07-20-2011, 10:29 AM
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good read
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07-20-2011, 11:26 AM
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My own little philosophy:
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07-20-2011, 12:34 PM
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I try not to live with regret, it tends to consume me when I do.
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07-20-2011, 12:42 PM
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good read.
inspires me to do things i normally wouldnt do
get out of my comfort zone and just do it
maybe go for that girl u've always wanted to do?
but i have to say
there will be regrets in life no matter what you do.
can anyone really say when they r dying..that they've lived life completely..with no regrets??
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07-20-2011, 05:18 PM
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Of course. Its entirely possible. I'm sure that lots of people die at ease, but not very frequently. Posted via RS Mobile |
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07-20-2011, 06:07 PM
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I already have all those regrets and I'm only 26 Posted via RS Mobile |
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