[Confidential] Confessing

[threezero]

i don't confess unless i've already hit a homerun, even than sometimes its not a good idea. Once you've confess the ball is no longer in your court.

[Fmediumkick]

Originally Posted by yameen

rather than starting a new thread, i wanted to bring this old one back up.

from the comments that i'm seeing, it seems like the majority agree that waiting it out and not confessing is the way to go. a few of you have mentioned this, but at what point would you confess to get away from the "friendzone". what if the girl has an attraction towards you and waiting for you to confess, but because it took too long, they now start to lose interest.

i'm asking because i'm confused and i'm sort of in a similar situation.



so far from the above list, the ones bolded is what i know of how she feels about me. there were others things we did so far, such as having dinner alone together. i tease her a lot and make fun of her in a playful way. she doesn't get mad and we both get a good laugh. she compliments me a lot (friendzone?) i was late in asking her to watch a certain movie with me and i said "dang, i wanted to watch that movie with you too" and she replied back by saying that if i can't find anyone else, she would watch it again with me.

originally i planned on asking her to dinner this weekend and confessing, but it seems like everything in this thread is telling me not to. any thoughts?

I never really understand why something so simple is so complicated

Life is short, so why waste it chasing after some girl for years and go no where?.

Get to the point!, be selfish, think for yourself, make yourself happy and stop being miserable every seconds every mins you're not with her and go to bed every damn night wondering if she want to start something with you or not.

I say the next time you find that right moment whether its a drive her home or watching a movie at home, or anywhere where its just the only two of you and pop the question!

Tell her something like "I don't want to regret this later on or for the rest of my life but I just want you to know that I have feeling for you and I want us to be more then friends" or something along those lines but make sure you make it clear to her what you're trying to say.

You either get the answer you dying to hear or you don't.

If you get the answer you been dying to hear then

If you dont get the answer you want then now you can stop wasting your time thinking if things will ever happen between you 2 and move on with your life and hope the next girl is your SO.

Corny as it sounds, but just follow your heart dude. Be honest, be positive, get to the point and keep life simple.

[Psykopathik]

if you like her, chances are someone else does too.

He who hesitates, masturbates.

[RabidRat]

Originally Posted by yameen

rather than starting a new thread, i wanted to bring this old one back up.

from the comments that i'm seeing, it seems like the majority agree that waiting it out and not confessing is the way to go. a few of you have mentioned this, but at what point would you confess to get away from the "friendzone". what if the girl has an attraction towards you and waiting for you to confess, but because it took too long, they now start to lose interest.

i'm asking because i'm confused and i'm sort of in a similar situation.



so far from the above list, the ones bolded is what i know of how she feels about me. there were others things we did so far, such as having dinner alone together. i tease her a lot and make fun of her in a playful way. she doesn't get mad and we both get a good laugh. she compliments me a lot (friendzone?) i was late in asking her to watch a certain movie with me and i said "dang, i wanted to watch that movie with you too" and she replied back by saying that if i can't find anyone else, she would watch it again with me.

originally i planned on asking her to dinner this weekend and confessing, but it seems like everything in this thread is telling me not to. any thoughts?

I don't see the need for confessing. Why not just keep asking her out and spending more time with her? Eventually it'll get to the point where you won't have to guess anymore and you'll just know she's into you.

[Durrann]

Originally Posted by RabidRat

I don't see the need for confessing. Why not just keep asking her out and spending more time with her? Eventually it'll get to the point where you won't have to guess anymore and you'll just know she's into you.

but that can lead to being friendzoned
wont it?

hows that different from any of her other friends doing that

[gloors]

Is it worth confessing to a girl that your head overheels for that you like her but according to her own words she's not looking for anything atm right now. Yeah I know that seems like she's not interested but I have a huge gut feeling to wait it out with hwr

[Presto]

Yameen, I've hit those bolded points, before. When it's only those points, then you are in the friendzone. As previous posts have said: when a girl likes you, she makes it obvious. How long have you been going out with her? Does she call you, or are you the one that's always calling her?

[CP.AR]

Here's my story

her and I were already really good friends.
I asked her to see if we can "try" going further into the relationship. I said if she didn't then we can still be awesome friends and I'll just leave it at that.

She agreed.
we've been together for 6 years now.

[yameen]

Originally Posted by Durrann

but that can lead to being friendzoned
wont it?

hows that different from any of her other friends doing that

this was my mentality. don't want to get friendzoned.

Originally Posted by Amuro Ray

Here's my story

her and I were already really good friends.
I asked her to see if we can "try" going further into the relationship. I said if she didn't then we can still be awesome friends and I'll just leave it at that.

She agreed.
we've been together for 6 years now.

thanks amuro, that's actually a very good line to use. i'll ask to see if we can try and if not, then it was never really meant to be to begin with.

Originally Posted by Presto

Yameen, I've hit those bolded points, before. When it's only those points, then you are in the friendzone. As previous posts have said: when a girl likes you, she makes it obvious. How long have you been going out with her? Does she call you, or are you the one that's always calling her?

she's a very shy girl in terms of initiating anything. she never calls out people. knowing that, she texts me. it's been about a month and i see her weekly. which is why i'm thinking about using amuro's line to just let it out and see what happens when we have our next dinner. also, i mentioned that she was willing to rewatch a movie with me and she always makes an effort to talk to me when we're around other people.

[Fmediumkick]

I say the same thing amuro say and you thank him and not me?!



Just playing hahah, i say the next time you hangout with her.. Just pull the trigger! and give us the good news!

[yameen]

it's been a week but i felt like i should update RS. confessed after our date and lets just say i didn't get friendzoned, and she felt the same way. however, she wants to take it slow which is what i want too since i'm busy with my own life. thanks RS! i am pro-confess early rather than not confessing. thanks for everyone's advice!

[k2_alpha]

^good job!
now actually take it slow.
Dont mess up!

Good luck!

[doritos]

honestly, it all depends on looks, personality and your presence around them. My current gf told me she liked me after one week, my ex told me after the second date. I don't even talk, we go to the movies, dinner, they invite me back to their place to watch a movie or tv shows and I leave and thats it. I never tried chasing or showed interest at first. Some reason they just end up liking me for who I am. I probably am bad than most people out there because I am bad at having conversations. Maybe im just childish at heart so they like it.

[Shorn]

also - if you try and fail, that's part of learning. i doubt there's any guys out there that have never been rejected before.

[cruz-in]

ive never confessed, its only gotten me a broken heart.

i tell her i like her and i would like to go futher with my actions.