Honestly, it just helped barfing it all on this thread. I have never really verbalized (or typed) those thoughts before...

I think though that's a barrier that we face all the time, the fact that our problems aren't as big as other people's problems. While there is valid point to that, I also like to believe that everyone's problems are individualized for their own learning experience. Saying that, we shouldn't look at our problem and someone else's and go "theirs is bigger and more important than mine, so I'll just keep it under wraps."
If it wasn't really important, you wouldn't be feeling it. The shame that comes with that doesn't let us feel our emotions/hardships the way we are supposed to, inhibiting life lessons and emotional range, etc. Our version of down and out will always be different than someone else's version, we just can't control that. However, we can acknowledge our personalized version and help ourselves to work through it.
It's just a matter of controlling it within reason. I'm not saying that if people who are well off/have resources available to them and feel down should start adopting unhealthy coping habits like people who have no other options.

I just think it's just our responsibility to ourselves to not invalidate our feelings because it's harder to let it go in the future and make our peace with it if for years, we train our minds to think that there is no peace to be had in the first place. We have to be realistic. Any change that we want to evoke externally will always come within us first. If we dismiss our problems but try to help others, we won't be doing much because we wouldn't be able to give ourselves fully to the situation.

Damn Dino, I love you and you are so accomplished to me :heartsmile:

One of the tougher situations for Asians is having the pressure come from the Family. I used to work for a non-profit org and we were actually doing good work for the community. I visited my dad and when he introduced me to his friends and talked about what I've been up to... I can only see disappointment when he mumbled something about me working for a charity. I've never felt so put down in my entire life. I subsequently quit my job and tried to prove my dad wrong and it's been hell.

Do a good job, pursue happiness that's self-imposed, not societal or pressures from everyone else. Especially chicks. Fuck 'em. I hang out with a bunch of Asian girls and these are the keywords they use for I want a guy with loads of money: "ambitious, career-driven, long-term goal oriented" be weary.

I just want to give you a hug (at the Stock and n00bie Meet.)

I just turned 26. Things that I noticed:

- Can't study as well anymore
- Getting fat :okay:
- Brain dead after a day of work
- Can't fuck around at work compared to school
- Other priorities where I can't buy a manual sports car :okay:
- Seeing parents/grand parent age
- People around me starting to get married/have kids
- JB is starting to look too young :ohgodwhy:

:woot:

can i touch your butt while we hug??

I don't think it's also asians. I think its anyone who has a high achieving (older) family member

In North America, I think the path to success is the pursuit of your passions. If you think about the typical Asian path to success, it consists of the following:
- study hard
- become a professional - something to do with money, or medicine
- get married, have kids, and own a detached home
- take care of parents in their retirement
- rinse and repeat with the next generation

The problem with this path is that it produces people who are risk-averse, souless, and uninteresting. It's the reason why there are countless Asian men who are single in their 30s. It's the reason why Asians aren't successful in politics or in entertainment. It's the reason why you hardly see Asians rise above middle-management in corporate Canada.

Unless you plan to move to Asia, I think you really need to pursue your passions and put aside whatever your family thinks. And moreover, I would recommend that Asian guys in their 20s forget about what the typical Asian woman in her 20s wants and date other women.

Growing up, I was never quite cool enough to fit in with the popular crowd and I was a little too smart for my own good. I tried to change my core personality in order to make myself more attractive to women (of the typical Asian variety) and to other people in my 20s, but it didn't work. Now that I'm 30, I'm beginning to realize that you need to be true to yourself and your core values.

:concentrate:

jacked from another thread, but its pretty relevant for here

25 Things I’ve Learned In My 20s « Thought Catalog

Sorry to bring up a dead thread, but I just want to say thank you to all of you who have posted in this thread. You guys have definitely made an impact on my mind and how to view my life. I sincerely wish to someday achieve my dream (still haven't quite figured it out yet:okay:) and show my appreciation to all of you. Don't worry, I'm good at stalking people.

This thread has been inactive for awhile but I thought I'd provide an update.

I was hired and I will be leaving for Japan in less than a month to teach. I picked up my visa yesterday and finalized my flight and all that's left is to wait for everything to sink in.

I am a mixed bag of excitement and nervousness.

Congrats brother!

Whatever happens, I guarantee you won't regret it, looking back.

After all, you're only gonna remember the things you DID do, not the things you didn't.

Learn some Japanese!!....either then that..its smooth sailing in japan,most of the train ticket machines have English setting on them,just the remote ones in the middle of nowhere is jdm language only :concentrate:
don't forget,you can drink in public :fullofwin:

:suspicious: & its funny your old fashioned parents said you might die in a earth quake....Bwhaha....WTF?...Srsly?..srs??..

good luck. just curious what company u joined up with? interac, aeon, berlitz, GABA? or were u one of the lucky ones that got accepted into JET

I have same point of views as you shit lol

Just turned down a couple 6-figure job offers yesterday and today to stay on track for my bigger goals..

:concentrate:

thats tough to turn down. what field of work are u in?

man.. i hope you're making the right choices

if i was ur parent i would beat u with a stick.. LOL

I'm in engineering

And that's exactly why I didn't tell my parents :lawl: :fuckthatshit:

I figure if I got 2 offers now, and I completely fail with all my goals, it couldn't be THAT hard to still find a decent job a few years down the road.
But what I have going on with my projects are somewhat age and time-sensitive.

Jobs will always be around, but certain opportunities only arise ever so often.

I'm not hurting for money either.. I don't make 6 figures now, but I'm comfortable. I have my realistic "dream" car, a roof over my head, and the freedom to do whatever the hell I want. So turning down these job offers were completely rational.. at least in my perspective.

Weren't you in recording business? But engineering major....LOL

PJ = not a single fk was given

Yup I work with a record label on the side, that's one of the "side projects" I have going on that might blow up in the near future haha

Parents just don't understand, hahaha.

Oh, I actually know how to speak Japanese, haha. I think that may have been one of the major reasons they hired me.

I should brush up on my kanji though since that was such a bitch to learn. :concentrate:

I opted not to apply for JET because of their one year hiring process. Too damn long of a wait for me, haha.

I got accepted to both Interac (ALT) and iTTTi Peppy Kids Club (Eikawa) but Interac offered me a Dec or later start date, while PKC offered me an October start date.

I went with PKC because of the earlier start date and, as an eikawa, isn't as bad as the others where your salary depends on how many students you have in your class. Plus, classes are in the afternoons so it's much better for me.