Relationship & Gender Discussion THIS SPACE OPEN FOR ADVERTISEMENT. YOU SHOULD BE ADVERTISING HERE!
The thin line between love and hate
Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex... |
|
View Poll Results: How Important/Often Sex In Relationship? | |
Not Really (1 time every 2-3 mo)
|     | 8 | 2.96% | |
Somewhat/Once in A While (1 time every mo)
|    | 37 | 13.70% | |
Often (1-2 time every week)
|    | 179 | 66.30% | |
Always (1 or 2 times every day)
|    | 46 | 17.04% |
 | | 
05-11-2012, 06:53 PM
|
#1 | | I STILL don't get it
Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vancouver
Posts: 475
Thanked 433 Times in 68 Posts
Failed 36 Times in 9 Posts
| How Important Is Sex In A Relationship?
I guess this question varies from person to person, but a bunch of us were chatting the other night and we have a buddy whos in a long d relationship and he only gets to see her once a year! Yet he still says its ok and he loves her just as much since they started going out. But for some of us, we generally expected it at least once a week if in a committed relationship, sucks to be caught in a dry spell.
I believe sex is really important because it is a bond between two people and you feel a deeper connection with each other. I mean without it, it would almost be the same as being best friends with the opposite sex, it defines the relationship.
So I was wondering what would most of you rate sex in terms of significance in a relationship? And how often would you be satisfied? Please post how long youve been in a relationship too (past or present)
| 
|  | |
05-11-2012, 07:02 PM
|
#2 | | VLS Head Mod
Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: E Van
Posts: 8,002
Thanked 911 Times in 396 Posts
Failed 87 Times in 32 Posts
|
Once a week, that's it ! Lol try 2-3 times a week 
I don't see how anyone can be in a ld relationship. Sex, although not the main issue, is a pretty big factor in a relationship.
| |
| | |
05-11-2012, 07:05 PM
|
#3 | | Mod.
Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: east vanner
Posts: 7,134
Thanked 1,769 Times in 684 Posts
Failed 87 Times in 28 Posts
|
sex is the physical connection in a relationship. we as humans are physical people. therefore we need to have that physical connection in a relationship. something is up with your friend if he's "okay" with seeing her only once a year
| |
| | |
05-11-2012, 07:10 PM
|
#4 | | Throw yo paws in da air!
Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: State of Trance
Posts: 5,125
Thanked 2,779 Times in 957 Posts
Failed 217 Times in 61 Posts
|
im showing this thread to my gf lol, i honestly think this is why we fight so much -___- dry spell ftl
__________________
Proud member of GRAPE Great Revscene Action Photography Enthusiasts
2008 Infiniti M45X - Y50 (Current)
2000 Honda Prelude SH (Sold)
1995 Dodge Spirit (Sold)
1998 Nissan Maxima SE (Sold)
1996 Honda Prelude SR-V (Sold) | |
| | |
05-11-2012, 07:16 PM
|
#5 | | Hopeless Romantic
Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Surrey
Posts: 2,544
Thanked 989 Times in 232 Posts
Failed 12 Times in 7 Posts
|
I think it's really important... Physical attraction as a whole not just particularly sex. Generally in the earlier, more honeymoon stages i'd say it's significantly more frequent as in a daily thing... And gradually turns into a few times a week as time progresses
I honestly find it surprising when couples have sex once a month or less especially if they see each other all the time.
| |
| | |
05-11-2012, 07:18 PM
|
#6 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: richmond
Posts: 2,513
Thanked 1,352 Times in 445 Posts
Failed 192 Times in 79 Posts
|
If there's no sex in the relationship, then there's gonna be sex outside of it
| |
| | | This post thanked by: | cowncow, dlo, Excelsis, Gallardo, gearshifter, GGnoRE, Glove, guurl, hotjoint, joolee, JSilver, MindBomber, xmisstrinh | |
05-11-2012, 07:24 PM
|
#7 | | Los Bastardo owned my ass at least once
Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: vancouver
Posts: 6,084
Thanked 7,930 Times in 1,432 Posts
Failed 1,279 Times in 298 Posts
|
what !nhan said, but its not necessary to fuck every other day lol, i can survive with once a week, 2-3 times a month, but if u expecting me not to fuck and be with you.. good luck lol a boy gotta do what a boy gotta do, sometimes leftonya and rightanya doesnt do the job..
__________________ Quote: |
[08-12, 00:25] Iceman-19 the owner was someone i knew. trusted him. that blew up in my face like i was a 19 year old jap girl at a bukkake party.
| | |
| | |
05-11-2012, 07:44 PM
|
#8 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Duncan, BC
Posts: 10,127
Thanked 5,568 Times in 2,107 Posts
Failed 231 Times in 90 Posts
|
I wouldn't say it defines the relationship, but it's quite important.
Daily, weekly, monthly ... I don't think the frequency is necessarily indicative of how good the relationship is. That said, if one/both feel unfilled sexually, it will lead to other problems.
| |
| | |
05-11-2012, 09:36 PM
|
#9 | | resident Oil Guru
Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Vancouver
Posts: 7,716
Thanked 10,457 Times in 1,794 Posts
Failed 1,065 Times in 267 Posts
|
Sex is icing on the cake. It's not the cake. Cake tastes crappy if its made purely with icing.
| |
| | |
05-11-2012, 09:45 PM
|
#10 | | 14 dolla balla aint got nothing on me!
Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver
Posts: 694
Thanked 818 Times in 177 Posts
Failed 88 Times in 27 Posts
|
Does sex with my two best buddies count? Lefty and Righty are always there for me when I need them.  | |
| | |
05-11-2012, 09:52 PM
|
#11 | | Banned By Establishment
Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: bedroom
Posts: 3,112
Thanked 3,492 Times in 1,176 Posts
Failed 441 Times in 145 Posts
|
i like sex 
But on a more srs note...it is very important in a relationship...but more for the human contact and intimacy. but on the same note, cuddling, kissing, touching, hugging, general affection, kind/caring words, etc are just as important. if you go a while without any diddlin' it really shouldn't matter if you are still having that intimate contact. shit gets in the way, people get sick, work is stressful, etc. but as long as there is still affection, life is peachy  | |
| | |
05-11-2012, 11:27 PM
|
#12 | | Director of RS Cares
Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Crayon Box
Posts: 5,175
Thanked 605 Times in 282 Posts
Failed 107 Times in 22 Posts
|
For me, sex is a very important part of a relationship. We've been together for almost 2 years and we still have intense sexual attraction for one another--which is how it should be imo. Sex is more than just "sex" for me but it's more or less... "making love." Whether it's firey hot or sweet and sensual. It's about committment, love, passion and more for one another.
Of course, I'm not under the impression that we'll still be RAGING MOTHER FUCKERS when we're 40+ with kids..but that's also our responsibility to keep the fire going in our relationship.
__________________  tiptronic: getting cut off by bicycles since 2007
| |
| | |
05-11-2012, 11:56 PM
|
#13 | | -Stare-
Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: GVR
Posts: 2,913
Thanked 8,013 Times in 648 Posts
Failed 1,322 Times in 166 Posts
| Quote:
Originally Posted by !Nhan  sex is the physical connection in a relationship. we as humans are physical people. therefore we need to have that physical connection in a relationship. something is up with your friend if he's "okay" with seeing her only once a year | +9000
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 12:05 AM
|
#14 | | I *Fwap* *Fwap* *Fwap* to RS
Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Vαncouver
Posts: 1,510
Thanked 5,279 Times in 603 Posts
Failed 355 Times in 79 Posts
|
i personally think sex is one of the biggest things in a long-term relationship .. relationships w/o sex are like friendships. without that physical attraction there .. it's doomed to the shitter
i believe it's a way to show your significant other that you really love 'em
my girlfriend thinks i'm lustful and a horndog even though i only bring it up like once a week .. + we only have sex like once/twice month, so i actually get really pissed off when she labels me a horndog. guess she hasn't matured yet
we've been together for two years too .. like wtf gotta show her this thread fersure man
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 12:14 AM
|
#15 | | My name is PJ and I like dogs.
Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Vancity/Toronto
Posts: 3,180
Thanked 1,683 Times in 532 Posts
Failed 26 Times in 20 Posts
|
No less than once a week, no more than once a day.
Depends how busy we are, but my sex drive goes through the roof if we don't do it at least once a week.
__________________ Studies show 100% of people die.. Might as well have some fun.
Hello my name is PJ. Buy/Sell Feedback 1-0-0 | |
| | |
05-12-2012, 12:22 AM
|
#16 | | I STILL don't get it
Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vancouver
Posts: 475
Thanked 433 Times in 68 Posts
Failed 36 Times in 9 Posts
|
^^yea all you guys/girls not getting enough intimacy time with your SO, show them this thread and educate them!
I mean most guys want the intimacy with their girls, but seems like there a general stereotype that guys as horndogs automatically if they push for it. Everyone needs to feel loved and appreciated, without physical intimacy in a relationship it seems to further distance people apart. Because sooner or later someone is going to have the feeling of not being wanted, and the longer it is the worst that feeling gets.
First no sex->frustration and confusion towards no physical intimacy-> leads to being distant-> cold/short tempered towards SO and fights, lots of fights -> doomed
At least thats what I came up with from past experience lol
Last edited by CL typeS; 05-12-2012 at 02:02 AM.
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 12:36 AM
|
#17 | | In RS I Trust
Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Mission
Posts: 20,738
Thanked 17,635 Times in 4,330 Posts
Failed 1,037 Times in 352 Posts
|
I'm down for 2 times a day everyday but I think 2-3x a week would be the norm. It's very important to me cause you need that physical contact and it helps bring you closer together.
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 10:25 AM
|
#18 | | Banned By Establishment
Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: bedroom
Posts: 3,112
Thanked 3,492 Times in 1,176 Posts
Failed 441 Times in 145 Posts
| Quote:
Originally Posted by pinn3r i believe it's a way to show your significant other that you really love 'em
| no, dude.
i can hear your argument now, "you would do it, if you reeeeallly loved me!!"
no wonder she doesn't jump on your disco stick...every girls loves it when her bf begs her and whines at her for sex.
you COULD make a case for "making love", but jumping on her and pounding her like a rabbit until you bust a nut has nothing to do with you "love" for her....its about your "love" for fucking.
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 11:29 AM
|
#19 | | Throw yo paws in da air!
Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: State of Trance
Posts: 5,125
Thanked 2,779 Times in 957 Posts
Failed 217 Times in 61 Posts
| Quote:
Originally Posted by CL typeS
First no sex->frustration and confusion towards no physical intimacy-> leads to being distant-> cold/short tempered towards SO and fights, lots of fights -> doomed
At least thats what I came up with from past experience lol
| this fuckin nails it i would give you 100$ if my gf understands it LOL im literally going thru all those points and im currently in "cold/short tempered .. etc etc "
__________________
Proud member of GRAPE Great Revscene Action Photography Enthusiasts
2008 Infiniti M45X - Y50 (Current)
2000 Honda Prelude SH (Sold)
1995 Dodge Spirit (Sold)
1998 Nissan Maxima SE (Sold)
1996 Honda Prelude SR-V (Sold) | |
| | |
05-12-2012, 02:38 PM
|
#20 | | Need to Seek Professional Help
Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Alpha Centauri
Posts: 1,017
Thanked 103 Times in 62 Posts
Failed 121 Times in 45 Posts
|
Every fucking day is the only way to roll.
__________________
RS firearm expert
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 04:07 PM
|
#21 | | 14 dolla balla aint got nothing on me!
Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver
Posts: 694
Thanked 818 Times in 177 Posts
Failed 88 Times in 27 Posts
|
.
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 04:17 PM
|
#22 | | Willing to sell a family member for a few minutes on RS
Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Surrey
Posts: 12,759
Thanked 689 Times in 376 Posts
Failed 61 Times in 38 Posts
| Quote:
Originally Posted by PJ No less than once a week | This.
Atleast once a week. I would say 2-3 times a week is sufficient. Although everyday would be perfect  . If no sex, I would settle for a bj  | |
| | |
05-12-2012, 04:25 PM
|
#23 | | I *Fwap* *Fwap* *Fwap* to RS
Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Vαncouver
Posts: 1,510
Thanked 5,279 Times in 603 Posts
Failed 355 Times in 79 Posts
| Quote:
Originally Posted by dinosaur no, dude.
i can hear your argument now, "you would do it, if you reeeeallly loved me!!"
no wonder she doesn't jump on your disco stick...every girls loves it when her bf begs her and whines at her for sex.
you COULD make a case for "making love", but jumping on her and pounding her like a rabbit until you bust a nut has nothing to do with you "love" for her....its about your "love" for fucking. | that's not what i meant, i worded my stuff wrong. i'm not even the one begging for sex; every time she comes over, she's the one who starts grabbing my ass & stuff like that. the only problem is that she's not allowed to come over often. & w/o a bed, she doesn't even think about sex. it'd be exciting if we could in different places though
i mean, how else are you supposed to express your love for the other person? through hugs & kisses? yeah you could, but in a long-term relationship that shit won't work forever
edit - this is literally my conversation with her:
me: how long has it been? like 3 weeks? lol weeeeoooo
her: is that all you care about o m g why can't we be cute and do corny things, not horny omg horndog blah blah
me: 
when she's over:
her: kk let's watch a movie
me: k
her: *touchy touchy*
me: 
Last edited by pinn3r; 05-12-2012 at 05:10 PM.
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 06:04 PM
|
#24 | | Banned By Establishment
Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: bedroom
Posts: 3,112
Thanked 3,492 Times in 1,176 Posts
Failed 441 Times in 145 Posts
| Quote:
Originally Posted by pinn3r how else are you supposed to express your love for the other person? through hugs & kisses? yeah you could, but in a long-term relationship that shit won't work forever
| oh honey....in a long-term relationship, that is the shit that makes it last forever. you can get sex anywhere at any time from a plethora of places. you can't find someone to give you a sweet kiss, hold you while you cry, a loving hug, or an evening of cuddling.
don't get me wrong...i do think sex is important. i have been is sex-less (or almost sex-less) relationships, and ones full of sex. yes, the ones with sex are miles different...BUT, it wasn't about the sex...it was about the whole package.
| |
| | |
05-12-2012, 08:03 PM
|
#25 | | Throw yo paws in da air!
Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: State of Trance
Posts: 5,125
Thanked 2,779 Times in 957 Posts
Failed 217 Times in 61 Posts
|
i wish my gf understood that i dont want sex ALL the time, but at least 2-3 times a month would be awesome and thus i wouldnt think so much about sex. its the fact that we dont and it turns to be like once-twice every 2 months LOL and it sucks cus then thats all i end up thinking about and then she says its all i think about, but thats cus we never seem to do it so what else am i supposed to think about -__- haha
__________________
Proud member of GRAPE Great Revscene Action Photography Enthusiasts
2008 Infiniti M45X - Y50 (Current)
2000 Honda Prelude SH (Sold)
1995 Dodge Spirit (Sold)
1998 Nissan Maxima SE (Sold)
1996 Honda Prelude SR-V (Sold) | |
| | | |
Posting Rules
| You may not post new threads You may not post replies You may not post attachments You may not edit your posts
HTML code is Off
| | |
All times are GMT -8. The time now is 07:09 PM.
|
You are currently viewing our boards as a guest which gives you limited access to view most discussions and access our other features. By joining our free community you will have access to post topics, communicate privately with other members (PM), respond to polls, upload content and access many other special features. Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please, join our community today!
The banners on the left side and below do not show for registered users!
