Jealousy

[Glove]

wow, a lot of people on RS like to play relationship games, that shit is all wrong.

no games.


Dude, your gf sounds like a massive bitch, set her straight.

this is what you need to say to her,


"gf name" I dont care who you text on your own damn time, but when your with me, I expect your attention, I find it damn rude and borderline bitch behaviour that you text people the whole time your with me, either spend your time with me properly, or fuckin beat it. I dont have time for this.

Then if she gets mad at you, just get up and leave, you dont need to argue your point, youv already made it.

Man up.

If she says she will text whoever she pleases whenever she pleases, then you just gotta tell her your out of the relationship then, because she obviously doesnt respect you.

[SupraTTturbo2jz]

to be honest, stay away from these kind of two face bitche GFs. They start doing this stuff with guys they would meet and being flirty, giving out number etc..it may seem fine to them but once you turn around and do it back to them, they say "wtf, why you txting these girls" . Sometimes even trust doesn't help, they going to end up cheating on you. Leave her ass

[zx7rrrr]

I think the main issue is your car.Shes mean to you because u drive a civic..she probably found a new guy who drives a porsche. U gotta step up bro

[gumnny]

Buddy, I read your reply for like two times, I cannot explain to you how much I agree what you have wrote, I am suffering the same jealousy problem but after I read what you wrote, it enlightened me a lot

Originally Posted by j3welz

Jealousy is NEVER a good thing on the side of men. For women, it’s different. If your girlfriend gets jealous or senses competition from another girl, it INCREASES the attraction she feels for you. Women want men who are wanted. It also feels good personally to know that your girlfriend likes you enough to get jealous (as long as it’s not overboard).

But it doesn’t work the other way around. When a GUY gets jealous of ANOTHER guy, it DECREASES your girlfriends attraction for you and INCREASES her attraction towards the other guy. Your jealousy of some other guy is a sign that he is superior to you. And as a result, your girlfriend is naturally inclined to be drawn towards whoever you’re jealous of.

The golden rule you need to remember in terms of jealousy is that over-protective behavior will NEVER prevent your girlfriend from cheating on you. The ONLY thing in this UNIVERSE that will keep your girlfriend from cheating on you, is a high interest level. If her interest level is low, your girlfriend WILL fuk somebody else. Every single girl in the world has skills comparable to Houdini. They can escape any prison their boyfriends put them in to go fuk some other dude who they’re more attracted to.

Ok, so wtf to do?...Always ACT CONFIDENT. Be a pro con-artist. Even if some guy with metallic balls twice as big as yours is talking to your girlfriend, don’t say shit. If your girlfriend is talking with other guys, talk to other girls. Make sure you DON’T tell her something like “can you please stop talking to other guys,” If you do, then you might as well donate your balls to charity. If your ever in doubt of what to do, ask yourself, “What would James Bond do in this scenario?”

Besides just acting confident, if you actually want to get over your jealousy problems you’re going to have to work on inner game and confidence. Jealousy is a manifestation of your insecurities, I e; your fear of competition and loss, and if you act on it, it means you let your emotions control your actions. A very bad combination of personality traits. This is perfectly countered with confidence which is just raw fearlessness.

And on a final note, it’s not ALWAYS your fault. For the most part, it usually is. But, in some instances your girlfriend might just be a whore. If your girlfriend shows disrespectful behavior, like heavy flirting and grinding with another guy at a club for thirty minutes and giving her phone number to him afterwards , then dump her. Seriously, don’t even think twice about it. I know it’s easier said than done, but believe me, it’s easier to dump your girlfriend and get through it than stay with a girlfriend who does shyt like that. I promise you, it’s much better to get over your fears of losing her than to have to live through a relationship like that.

A lot of guys are under the impression that they’ll be able to change their girlfriend’s inner mental framework and turn them into the type of person they want… it won’t happen. Girls are like stocks, Turn-arounds rarely ever Turn around. Don’t get emotional and think straight with your head on your shoulders when dealing with jealousy in relationships.

[gumnny]

seriously you are not having the worst , my girlfriend plays her phone texting all day long , it drives me nuts . I asks her who she texting with , she said "friends" . one day we are having dinner together and she just none stop texting , she even ignored my conversation and keep texting , then I grab my phone and text her and she replies me .

seriously whats wrong with all the girls nowadays

[Tapioca]

Originally Posted by gumnny

seriously you are not having the worst , my girlfriend plays her phone texting all day long , it drives me nuts . I asks her who she texting with , she said "friends" . one day we are having dinner together and she just none stop texting , she even ignored my conversation and keep texting , then I grab my phone and text her and she replies me .

seriously whats wrong with all the girls nowadays

Why do you continue to be with this girl then? Is the sex that good? Is she hot and does having her around elevate your status among your peers?

[gumnny]

Originally Posted by Tapioca

Why do you continue to be with this girl then? Is the sex that good? Is she hot and does having her around elevate your status among your peers?

dont even mention about sex . i am already disappointed to the point , back then when we first met , sex is always good and excited , now ? she has less to no interest . it's like i am begging for sex every time and gets turn down , its harsh and hurt , i talked to her about it and she said 'what ... we like each other doesnt mean we need to have sex every day .. " , i am so disappointed and tired of her rejects , i feel useless and helpless , i dont know what to say and deeply just because i still love her so much and wish she would change one day

[Nabatron]

^^^dude she aint going to change for shit...kick this bitch to the curb and find an even hotter bitch because seems to me like this girl isn't giving you the time of day anymore. She is constantley texting "friends" god knows whos she even texting. Might as well find someone new who will actually appreciate your company.

[<3 envee]

Listen to what Nabatron said and ask yourself the questions Tapioca mentioned. Don't love because you want to be in love, feel lonely or just want a companion. Love when not only you are ready, but also the other. I'm just getting the sense that she's not ready and does not realize how rude it is doing the things she's doing. Don't waste your time on her, you could be doing things that could be more meaningful in life than this; because time goes by fast. Sooner or later you'll be thinking to yourself, I spent X number of months/years on this bitch, I could of been spending that time with my friends or whatever you love to do the most and accomplished way more. I hate hearing these kind of stories and majority of them are men getting their life fucked over by "girls". I'm sure you've seen the line "you need a woman, not a girl" numerous times, but it's true. Girls nowadays just puts themselves too high up there, and trying to find someone who really cares is like trying to find utopia in society. I'm not saying it's impossible to find someone, but it's just harder in this generation; the way people think and their perspective with relationships.

[too_slow]

Originally Posted by zx7rrrr

I think the main issue is your car.Shes mean to you because u drive a civic..she probably found a new guy who drives a porsche. U gotta step up bro

That's rich, considering you had to ask for opinions on what kind of used-baller cars you should pick up for the girl that you had knocked up.. only to settle for a Jetta Trendline..

To the OP : if the girl wants to play games, you should do the same too.. go out and meet other people..

[z3german]

meet new people bra, i hate the texting thing.

as bad as this may sound i train whatever girls with ground rules right from the get go.

rule 1) no phone conversations in car, texting permitted depending on situation e.g. just driving, no much talking

rule 2) no texting at all during meals unless its fast food or some shiz, even then because you set the ground rule in the beginning she will be pretty much trained to not text even with fast food. If its super important they will call you, so calling is permitted but no conversations, just straight cut n dry whats the point of the phone call and then hang up

4 girlfriends later, never had a problem with texting, just had a problem with the bitches LOL

current relationship 4-5years going strong.


Also on the over bearing part of your problem. Yea drop that act right now, as many people said already it makes you look very weak, if i was the guy who is texting your gf I would think this is free hunting season for me. You guys fight over stupid shit like being over bearing, who does she text to vent? Yea probably some of those guys, so yeah the guys know you got relationship issues. Even if you catch her she will butter you up with "i just wanted a guy opinion! it means nothing!" which has a proven $$$$$ record to her.

Change your life, stay with her if you want but dont give a shit who she talks to. Do your own thing, go buy a old ass beater bicycle and restore it to get your mind off the girl. Make her want to crave you, make her not just use you for cars and food. If she shows no interest then fuck it and move on, like seriously fuck her then ditch LOL its her first relationship, she never had the feeling of being in a relationship so yea I can see her craving that honey moon stage of the relationship, it is a fun stage.

tldr: time to move on brotha, better fish in the sea, way way way way better.

[j3welz]

Originally Posted by gumnny

dont even mention about sex . i am already disappointed to the point , back then when we first met , sex is always good and excited , now ? she has less to no interest . it's like i am begging for sex every time and gets turn down , its harsh and hurt , i talked to her about it and she said 'what ... we like each other doesnt mean we need to have sex every day .. " , i am so disappointed and tired of her rejects , i feel useless and helpless , i dont know what to say and deeply just because i still love her so much and wish she would change one day

Oneitis paralyzes rational thinking in a merciful way. Forget however many year you and your girlfriend spent together, forget the specifics of your relationship, forget all of her best friends who are feeding you abused morality, and forget that shit hole you call a relationship.

You are a man, she is a woman. Why do women have sex with men? To reproduce kids with their genes. Why do women continuously have sex with men? To preserve a nourishing dynamic. Women use sex to get relationships, men use relationships to get sex. If she’s not giving you sex, you shouldn’t give her a relationship. If your girlfriend isn't having as much sex as she should be, it means she subconsciously thinks she can keep you in the relationship without putting out. Seriously, it's that simple.

If you entertain a women’s pleas to withhold sex, this is what happens:

A. She subconsciously assumes that she can do better than you
B. You are displaying lower value than her – destroying your ability to reinforce dominance & attraction
C. YOU subconsciously begin to think that sex is a REWARD for “good behavior” and start acting like a beggar
D. A whole host of bad shit

To solve this:

A. Be wanted by other women. The ultimate remedy to all relationship problems. When a girl is reminded that she is in a competitive sexual market where there is a risk she might lose her boyfriend to another girl, she immediately jumps into hyper-qualifying mode to keep her “good catch”
B. Read (A) one more time
C. Be less available and less needy.
D. Worst case scenario, break-up, fuck other women, and then get back together
E. Be ABLE to fuck other women. Don’t cheat, but don’t fortify yourself in ethical armor. Men with options have a certain aura about them. Remember, the ideal man is one who CAN fuck other women, but WILLINGLY CHOOSES NOT TO.

[zx7rrrr]

Originally Posted by too_slow

That's rich, considering you had to ask for opinions on what kind of used-baller cars you should pick up for the girl that you had knocked up.. only to settle for a Jetta Trendline..

To the OP : if the girl wants to play games, you should do the same too.. go out and meet other people..

Easy there stalker.u have my bank info too?..fyi...my wife couldnt give to shits wwhat car i drive.

Creepy revscene dude..

[Yodamaster]

Sounds like you need to find someone else.


Honesty and faith are hard to find these days (for some fucked up reason), if she isn't being honest or faithful, let her walk. Not being serious about something that is most definitely supposed to be serious is the worst turn off in the history of relationships.

But! Relationships are a double edged sword, you can't just take it in the ass and expect things to pan out, you have to actually put in the effort to prove to your partner that you're worth being with.

[gumnny]

Girlfriend just threw our engagement ring to me and we are done with our engagement. I feel like shit and could not believe she would do this to me

Originally Posted by j3welz

Oneitis paralyzes rational thinking in a merciful way. Forget however many year you and your girlfriend spent together, forget the specifics of your relationship, forget all of her best friends who are feeding you abused morality, and forget that shit hole you call a relationship.

You are a man, she is a woman. Why do women have sex with men? To reproduce kids with their genes. Why do women continuously have sex with men? To preserve a nourishing dynamic. Women use sex to get relationships, men use relationships to get sex. If she’s not giving you sex, you shouldn’t give her a relationship. If your girlfriend isn't having as much sex as she should be, it means she subconsciously thinks she can keep you in the relationship without putting out. Seriously, it's that simple.

If you entertain a women’s pleas to withhold sex, this is what happens:

A. She subconsciously assumes that she can do better than you
B. You are displaying lower value than her – destroying your ability to reinforce dominance & attraction
C. YOU subconsciously begin to think that sex is a REWARD for “good behavior” and start acting like a beggar
D. A whole host of bad shit

To solve this:

A. Be wanted by other women. The ultimate remedy to all relationship problems. When a girl is reminded that she is in a competitive sexual market where there is a risk she might lose her boyfriend to another girl, she immediately jumps into hyper-qualifying mode to keep her “good catch”
B. Read (A) one more time
C. Be less available and less needy.
D. Worst case scenario, break-up, fuck other women, and then get back together
E. Be ABLE to fuck other women. Don’t cheat, but don’t fortify yourself in ethical armor. Men with options have a certain aura about them. Remember, the ideal man is one who CAN fuck other women, but WILLINGLY CHOOSES NOT TO.

[icemiko]

Originally Posted by gumnny

seriously you are not having the worst , my girlfriend plays her phone texting all day long , it drives me nuts . I asks her who she texting with , she said "friends" . one day we are having dinner together and she just none stop texting , she even ignored my conversation and keep texting , then I grab my phone and text her and she replies me .

seriously whats wrong with all the girls nowadays

This sounds familiar, sometimes I just want to grab her phone and fucken throw it out. And "friends" usually mean someone she doesn't want you to know about.

[freakshow]

Originally Posted by gumnny

Girlfriend just threw our engagement ring to me and we are done with our engagement. I feel like shit and could not believe she would do this to me

You'd rather this happen now than later.. time to move on dude..

[Shikigami-GTR]

Originally Posted by threezero

your girl is just keeping her options open. There is really nothing you can do, being jealous and overprotective isn't gonna make her stop. She is either gonna dump your ass or do it behind your back anyways.

Just ignore her, work on yourself make her see that she already has the best option there is and she better treasure it. Know your bottom line and make sure she knows your bottom line if she dare to hit it than make sure you live up to your words.

agreed, theres nothing you can do right now, but to make yourself the best option for her

[buddha1]

one word for this thread: ENLIGHTENMENT.

this honestly made me understand everything in my relationship and it made me realize what a bitch my ex was. she did everything that the OP said his gf does and i ended up doing everything that everyone said not to do; get jealous and angry. from reading through this thread multiple times, everything became clear to me and it explained a lot of my doubts and assumptions that were left unanswered. this epiphany hit me real good and im glad i read this. thanks everyone, forreal.