To this day, I still have dreams of my parents nagging me to all fucking hell.

Then I wake up in the calm serenity of my home and breathe that rewarding sigh of relief.

that's one hell of a way to call her fat

I just asked her.

She straight-faced me and said, "No" and walked away.

... lol

What does this say about our society when adult children refuse to live with or care for their parents in their old age? For the most part, they lived with your naughty diapered ass for 17-20 yrs, feeding you and putting up with your teenage bullshit.

It says they signed up for 20 years of bullshit, 9 months before it even started

Although I have no intentions of ever living with my parents if there was some sort of emergency case where they needed my help I'm not going to turn my back on them. One example would be if something happened to my dad who looks after things mainly I'd figure out something we could do with my mom and my niece who also lives with them. I could never imagine a world where I would ask my son to care and look after me in my old age, I would never put that burden on him, just put me down.

Although I talk to my parents fairly frequently at least once or twice a week we're not physically that close, I've seen my mom 3 times and my dad 2 times in the last 6 years, they moved away and live halfway across the Country.

That we've progressed past the point where we all have to work a potato farm iving in a 1 room shack to survive? lol

My parents are moving into our basement against our wishes. I can't say no to it but it's a concern for us. It makes a ton of sense from a finance perspective as they can cash out their old condo and save on the very expensive strata fees ($700/m), property taxes, insurance, storage(from downsizing their house), etc. It's the reason why I spent a chunk of money doing sound proofing for the basement so they don't hear us.

When things are good, it's great. We stayed with them in their condo for 3 months while our house was being renovated. There were no problems and everyone was on their best behaviour. Living together long term is a different story as you can't be on best behaviour for eternity. Wife and I tried not to have arguments when staying with my parents, and we went outside to have our contentious discussions if possible. When it's under the same roof that's a lot harder and my concern is my parents taking my side on things unnecessarily and eventually having a poor relationship with my wife. My parents also have no sense of privacy.
We are gonna see how things go but if it means I take out an extra loan to buy a condo for them, and forgo my plans for a P-car, then so be it. Everyone's happiness > just mine.

We had plans to eventually have my parents move in as they get older, but that was 5-10 years down the road and not now. Her parents are more independent (also the relationship is not very good) but it does open up a can of worms where its "unfair" if we only live with one set of parents and not the other. I have negative wishes to have both sides of parents living under the same roof.

:rofl:

I am the guy at our condo who has to replace it when it breaks. I found the same thing until we started using a basic, brass twist hoze nozzle. Those things don't break, thankfully. They do get stolen though once in a while. Who the fuck pays all this money to live here, and then steals a $20 hose nozzle, I will never understand.

The bigger issue we have is the hose itself kinks and cracks. They only last a few months and I can't seem to find a hose that doesn't do that.

Have you tried going with a rubber hose?

https://www.new-line.com/hose/water-...thread-200-psi

Should be much more long lived than you're typical PVC hose. The downside is that it's really heavy in comparison.

I’d hope they are paying a big chunk of those savings back to you.

For years my siblings and I wrestled the idea about living with our parents but they are not the easiest to get along with. My sister refuses to live with our mom and my brother refuses to live with our dad. I refuse to live with either given the fact my relationship with them is strained. Communication/language barrier aside I'm not close with my parents at all. I looked after myself since elementary while they both worked and that really contributed to our current situation. We here live in a different society where kids don't really live/take care of our parents but elsewhere in the world is such a norm. My wife's grandma flew in and will be here the next 3 months and my wife's aunt came with since she's the primary caregiver for wife's grandma. The aunt is single no kids. No real career, her whole time/life has been spent taking care of the grandma and she's absolutely fine with it.

They are paying rent for sure, just less than market, and that's fine. They've helped with the house and again with some renos. Though that didn't come without some arguments as well. It also comes with some benefits, like we can go out for a dessert date after our son goes to sleep and have my parents just keep an eye on things.

We don't use our parents for child care unless necessary, and it's something my wife and I agreed on. Our parents and us just don't see eye to eye in terms of discipline and rules, also we don't want to make it a chore for them and I want them to want to see the grandkids vs "oh no not again". And in our opinion, they aren't great with young kids as they didn't do a lot of caretaking below 5. I had a live in nanny growing up in HK and wife's parents were out of the country for work when she was under 5.

Rubber house is the answer.

You guys should look into joining/starting a makerspace. I pay $60 a month for 24/7 access to makerspace Nanaimo. We where 95% member funded but just got a $25000 grant that's going to be used to buy new equipment for the wood shop.

That would imply that every child grew up in a Danny Tanner / Carl Winslow household.

Far from reality.

And watching your parents make new offspring because your 2 older siblings died from infection & pestilence.

Lo, Yeah I was going to post my personal experience before as a response but I figured it was a bit to personal and everyone has their own story.

I can say my childhood was anything but typical and what I do as a parent now and how attentive I am to my own son is a direct result of that.

That or someone runs it over.
At our old strata, yes people stole the cheap brass nozzles.
But what's worse was people running over the hose or end of the hose.

Get an industrial grade washdown gun. Uses a 1/2" NPT fitting, which would not only be more difficult to remove, but since it's not your standard garden hose fitting theft would be kind of pointless. Bonus that being industrial grade, would likely live longer.

https://www.new-line.com/fittings/wa...th-black-cover
This one's brass but you can get them in Aluminum and Stainless


Of course, you'd have to get the matching hose to suit the fitting

I wrote, 'for the most part'. I'm realistic enough to know that some people were raised in a pretty broken, shitty home. I get that. 'For the most part'.

I was going to say that having your elderly parents live with you might be a cultural value .. it may be.

But there are lots of options like Laneway house, in-law separate suites with separate entrances (separate kitchen, separate TV area, etc.) and probably other variations so that your parents or PIL are not in the bedroom beside you when you're feeling frisky.

Everyone will have a different upbringing and point of view, no right or wrong. I grew up being taken care by my grandparents entirely of my childhood up to post secondary, before they moved into a care home. My parents were too busy working to provide for the family financially, especially my dad where he worked 11-12 hour days for 6 days a week. I ain't super close with my parents compared to my grandparents, but I have grown to appreciate what they have done to provide for me. Even when I lived at home before I got my own place, as long as I showed "I was working", they gave me privacy and understood the "gotta make money" LOL. Miss those times when my grandparents spoiled me rotten, some of the best days of my life.

^ Thanks ...I forgot to highlight grandparent/intergenerational relationships in healthy settings.

So many couples with young children would like their parents to be available for free babysitting. Again, not gonna work in every family but in a give and take situation, there are some intangibles that you gain.

When I bought my current house it was partly b/c it offered the ability to create 2 ground level suites so that my parents and in-laws could move in with us if needed. I'm not exactly keen on them living with us cause both sets drive me nuts but I consider it my responsibility to support them if they need the help. That the suites have separate entrances and they won't have a key to my part of the house is mandatory. Ain't no way they drop by without asking first.

It is nice to get free child care from them (they live close by right now) but, to be honest, I'd rather hire a babysitter and let my parents/in-laws have low stress time with my kid. Maybe when my kid is older and more independent I'll change my tune but right now a professional babysitter is soooooo much better than my parents or in-laws.

Not gonna lie, the grandma moving to the island and being available to babysit or take the kid for a weekend at a moment's notice has been pretty nice. She has nothing else going on so she likes doing it.
Especially after 5 years of not really having that kind of support at all.

Legit having kids sounds like a total nightmare to me :devil: