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My dear grandma lent us 25k to just put us over the top to get 20% down in our condo. Said don’t worry about it, pay it back when you can. The next week she started asking me about the money. Nope’d my way down to the bank/business LOC and paid her off the next day. First and last family loan. Family gifts are great - family loans are terrible. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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To disrespect them and tell them to F off, is definitely not something my friend would ever do, myself included. To think you or me or anyone knows what they're doing in life is false. Everyone can learn something from everyone. Just because we don't typically agree with our parents generation, that doesn't mean we can't learn from them. |
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I'm sure some would say being emascualted by the MIL seems like a reasonable thing if it allowed them to own a detached house in Vancouver... Again, to each their own. But I know I would take low blows from the MIL every so often if that meant I could own a detached house in one of the greatest cities in the world. You own a house in Vancouver and you're already five levels up versus everyone else. Hard to pass that up. |
But isn't everything that your parents doesn't spend yours anyways. I mean they can't take it with them, and most Asians will leave something for their kids unless you dishonour them for some reason. |
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Once they finally accepted it, her parents have significantly upped their luxury spending. :lol Travelling (pre-COVID), new cars, designer clothes... (She's fine with that, she wants them to enjoy their wealth - she just thought it was funny to see such a marked change.) |
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Oh. He doesn't own the house. His name isn't even on title but he still has to pay his part for mortgage/utilities/etc. His MIL is also always over even spending the night spending time with the girls. He gets an earful every night so he either calls us up to hang out or plays as much hockey as he can to get out of the house at night. Is his kids probably better off than mine? Most definitely cause they have a big Richmond house to run around in. Is he better off then me on paper? No. Cause he owns nothing. Everything on title is his wife/MIL name. But... if/ when she passes then I guess be default through his wife he'll "own" the house. |
Sounds like that will end well.. |
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The biggest thing for my parents was going to university and fulfilling their ideology of a "respectable" career as a physician or lawyer. I was never the book smart type, and ended up getting kicked out of university after being placed on academic probation. My parents were often embarrassed about my career choices, and always compared me to their friend's kids who were going to SFU/UBC for some garbage degree. In the end, I think I'm the only one that ended up with a detached property and a six figure salary. |
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But on a side note, no wonder he's feeling the pressure and is unable to stand up to the in-laws. The house isn't even his. I'm not excusing it, but now I can understand why the MIL looks at him as a failure for being "unable" to provide for her daughter (to the MIL's expectations). But where's the wife in this? She should be supporting her husband in this to an extent. |
If there’s some marital issues he could be the one that’s been paying for the house the whole time but the only one that doesn’t get to own it, which is not ideal. When family disrespects the other side of a marriage, it’s pretty ripe for those marital issues to arise as well. |
Wife sides with her mom. He's in such a terrible situation I do feel bad for him but at the time he felt it was a great financial move for him but at the same time he's in so much debt right now. However hes not in that bad of a situation overall cause he still has his mom's Richmond home but she's still around and kicking but his journey to SFH ownership is so bumpy to say the least assuming he hasn't slit his wrists by then. |
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Her aunt starts dictating to me what I should be doing, I should be in the back yard with all the kids doing something another. I lost my shit in front of her whole family, I told her it's my house I pay the bills and I'll do whatever I want, you don't like it there's the fucking door. The last time she ever tried me, my wifes cousins and her brother came up to me after and were like that was great. Lol |
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Personally would have never agreed to that without my name being on title |
Wow wow wow guys..., If they are married, but the house is "under her name", then he is entitled to half of it right :fuckyea: That guy won the male lotto. Love is half blind because when you divorce you can take half if you want to :fullofwin::okay: |
Anyone here involved with the 2528E Broadway Gardina Villa fiasco? Cheapest properties in Vancouver right now for 300k a pop, with a 250k special levy.. fine place to live in the heart of Vancouver for 550! |
^ yah, I saw those. What is the deal there .. leaky condo? Has it been fixed. And with the soon to be Broadway subway line ... you'd think that's a great investments. Older building with spacious units too. |
Those units / buildings have been for sale, for years. I dont understand why anyone would want to buy there, history shows 13 units sold in the last 60 days 300-500$/sqft :fuckthatshit: Additionally, if im not mistaken, theres no financing. Cash or cash. If i had 300-600k cash, the last place i would be buying, is that building. |
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^ I believe there's no insurance available for that property as well. |
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Did Mr.Happyslip get himself a house? |
Hard work has its limits... The old Asian mentality was useful when we lived in a society where Asian immigrants had few choices, took lousy jobs, and aspired to have white collared kids. Now everyone has some sort of post secondary education and white collar work is no guarantor of success. I mean doctors and lawyers don't make enough money these days on their own to buy that coveted detached house in Vancouver. These days, hard work is not enough: you have to have some luck, good genes (so you can attract a successful partner), and be willing to take calculated risks to make it. |
interestingly the guarantor of success now is blue collar work. Get a trade, any trade, spend 5 years training under someone who knows their shit making 60-120 a year. Spend the rest of your life with a license to print money with your only limitations being how hard you are willing to work. Want to make 200, 300 or more a year. No problem. Willing to work even harder the possibility to start your own business and make millions also still exists in plenty out there. Not enough people value Blue collar work, it's sad. We got enough university grads lining up to become shitty teachers, mediocre engineers, or crappy doctors. More kids need to be taught if your a bad student and school isn't for you just get your ass to work, and learn along the way, it's perfectly fine. |
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