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09-24-2013, 04:14 PM
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#26 | | Wanna have a threesome?
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Originally Posted by TatsuyaKataoka  But I am! Focus and discipline, which you need to attain a high level of fitness, are incredibly attractive to me, as is a passion to maintain a healthy lifestyle. It's better than girls whose favorite topics of conversation are the Canucks, partying and pop culture (these are examples but you know what I mean).
I'm not one of those people who thinks with my dick and my dick only. I grew up in an educated family and cannot stand airheads, we need to be intellectually and emotionally compatible.
If you must know, it is a short term goal of mine (3-6 months) to begin and maintain a serious fitness regimen. However, I'm not going to have the physique of a Greek god in 3-6 months. That's why the question, as Gridlock so eloquently put it, was "is the fact that I'm attracted to athletic girls a problem if I'm not that athletic myself". I'm not up to their level of fitness-yet. But I wish to be.
Do I sound like a flip-flopper? Probably. But your posts have challenged me to reassess my views and life goals, and I can't say that about a lot of things that have happened in my life recently. | My thoughts are the same as Dinosaur's.
I'm attracted to focus and discipline, too. I'm attracted to non-athletic and athletic women with focus and discipline, however, and you appear very focused on athletic women. You're flip flopping to not sound so superficial. The fact is though, the thoughts you're posting reflect superficiality. Superficiality is hardly uncommon, and it's not a terribly heinous quality. It's something to consciously consider in your dating life, though, because it must be kept in check.
To address the heart of your post, yes, you can attract an athletic woman whether you're comparably athletic or not. It's your overall personality, reflected though self-confidence and interests, that any decent woman's ultimately looking at.
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09-25-2013, 07:06 PM
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Thanks for the words of wisdom and encouragement. And Grid--sorry I got pissy at you. You didn't deserve that.
I admit I'm very self concious. I'm 22, so at my age it's a given. I see it in my interactions with the people around me. When my beliefs are challenged, I can get defensive because part of me doesn't like being wrong.
In this case, having my beliefs challenged in this thread have given me so many different things to think about, that I have to step back and reassess what I really want out of a woman. More importantly, I have to figure out what I can contribute to a relationship.
Do I want a hot body? Do I want someone who is disciplined and focused? Would I be happy with someone who just does Chief/Grind and isn't much of a gym rat? And will we click mentally and spiritually?
I'm just not sure anymore. I see so many personality flaws in myself that I was previously blind to in this thread. There are storms swirling around in my mind, and I wish I could find inner peace. Then maybe I can start building the confidence needed to make a relationship work.
Because as it stands right now, I shouldn't be asking what kind of girl I can attract. If I got what I wanted in my OP, there would be fights and a bad breakup, I'm sure of it. I'm an immature brat, is what I am.
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09-25-2013, 09:17 PM
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Jesus fuck, dude....no need to slit your wrists over this shit.
Just relax. Date a lot of different people and find out what gets you going. Don't worry what others think and just be yourself.
You're young...don't take dating so seriously at this age. Go out and experience life without having a commitment.
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09-25-2013, 10:09 PM
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#29 | | Wanna have a threesome?
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Chill out, at twenty-two you're not improperly immature.
True maturity's not expected at twenty-two years old, nor is it desirable.
You should take in your youth, and you should set goals and pursue them, but you should not unduly judge or criticize yourself, or approach life too seriously. You're still growing and developing (metaphorically and physically), and you're not the person you'll be at twenty-five or older. You're just a young guy who wants to tap a nicely toned ass, not a grown man who wants nothing but tapping a toned ass. As an intelligent young guy, you'll transition past a toned ass and onto a mental connection with time (and lowering testosterone levels).
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09-25-2013, 10:19 PM
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#30 | | Hacked RS to become a mod
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My suggestion to OP: Move out. Live on your own for a while and live life like an adult. It'll suck sometimes, but overall will make you more awesome  | |
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09-27-2013, 01:49 AM
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#31 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by TatsuyaKataoka Thanks for the words of wisdom and encouragement. And Grid--sorry I got pissy at you. You didn't deserve that.
I admit I'm very self concious. I'm 22, so at my age it's a given. I see it in my interactions with the people around me. When my beliefs are challenged, I can get defensive because part of me doesn't like being wrong.
In this case, having my beliefs challenged in this thread have given me so many different things to think about, that I have to step back and reassess what I really want out of a woman. More importantly, I have to figure out what I can contribute to a relationship.
Do I want a hot body? Do I want someone who is disciplined and focused? Would I be happy with someone who just does Chief/Grind and isn't much of a gym rat? And will we click mentally and spiritually?
I'm just not sure anymore. I see so many personality flaws in myself that I was previously blind to in this thread. There are storms swirling around in my mind, and I wish I could find inner peace. Then maybe I can start building the confidence needed to make a relationship work.
Because as it stands right now, I shouldn't be asking what kind of girl I can attract. If I got what I wanted in my OP, there would be fights and a bad breakup, I'm sure of it. I'm an immature brat, is what I am. |
You are wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too serious about this bro.
Believe it or not, but you're actually over thinking this.
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09-27-2013, 02:49 AM
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#32 | | DOES HE LOOK LIKE A BITCH?
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It's doable. They generally don't go for non-athletic guys, but as long as you're not out of shape (note: this isn't the same as not being in shape), there could still be other things going for you.
Point in case, my ex is a professional swimmer. She spends probably 30+ hours being active a week. Me? I'm a lanky guy who hasn't seen the insides of a gym for a year. Mind you, I am not out of shape, I smoke, I party, and I drink too much, sure. But I also have pretty high metabolism and stay pretty active (not through sports, but through work, hobbies, etc.).
She can run laps around me in a fucking marathon, but it doesn't mean she wasn't attracted to me.
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09-27-2013, 02:30 PM
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#33 | | Wanna have a threesome?
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TatsuyaKataoka, you're BurnOutBinLaden with a new account, aren't you?
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09-27-2013, 11:30 PM
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Originally Posted by MindBomber TatsuyaKataoka, you're BurnOutBinLaden with a new account, aren't you? | Thank you! I've been trying to figure out whats up with this guy. I love it when new members talk like they've known you for years.
Oh....and this: 
Now, is this 'just' a troll, or a mod's play account?
We just totally Justice Leagued that shit.
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09-27-2013, 11:59 PM
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Originally Posted by MindBomber TatsuyaKataoka, you're BurnOutBinLaden with a new account, aren't you? | Aw man, I fucking knew it! I couldn't put my finger on it either...you is good  | |
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09-28-2013, 11:06 AM
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#36 | | Need to Seek Professional Help
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Make a billion monopoly dollars and they will be all over you. Bitches love monopoly money.
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09-28-2013, 04:03 PM
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#37 | | Wanna have a threesome?
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So, Bin Laden.
Why'd you create another account on RevScene?
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09-28-2013, 04:41 PM
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#38 | | manage the cap you say????
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09-28-2013, 05:06 PM
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#39 | | I STILL don't get it
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This thread just got better.
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09-28-2013, 08:36 PM
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We'll never see him again, and on the main page, at the very bottom, no one will notice when user "MitsubishiNintendo" gets created.
We'll all get faster and faster at finding them, as now we know the MO and the cycle will continue.
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09-29-2013, 04:43 PM
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#41 | | Wanna have a threesome?
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Most likely.
But maybe, Bin Laden will man up and post.
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10-08-2013, 12:36 PM
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#42 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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Your not going to get any "hot" girl with no confidence or self esteem. No girl wants a whiny fat emo kid. Start being more active, get your testosterone up, walk and talk with some confidence. Soon enough those women will take notice. If they dont who gives a shit, theres plenty of hot lonely women trying to look for a good dude in this city. Just be confident, if your unsure about going up to a girl, do it. Worst case scenario, youll never see her again.
This is coming from a fat guy who has had a pretty damn good streak of getting some good looking women.
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10-08-2013, 07:22 PM
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#43 | | I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
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just go out and do stuff like hiking or walks/jogs... as long as they know you are trying, Im sure they dont mind..
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10-18-2013, 08:04 AM
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#44 | | I Will not Admit my Addiction to RS
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I love girls with piercings, neon hair and junk, but I dont think I'll ever fit in their social circles.
At least there will always be one night stands.
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10-18-2013, 10:32 AM
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Originally Posted by meowjinboo I love girls with piercings, neon hair and junk, but I dont think I'll ever fit in their social circles.
At least there will always be one night stands. | You love girls with junk?
Do you like to be surprise by "her" junk or you do go in knowing its already there?
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10-20-2013, 07:07 PM
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#46 | | My homepage has been set to RS
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If you date and end up marrying for looks, the marriage won't last. Personality stays forever, looks don't. Not to say being attracted to someone is bad, but don't base everything on that. If these girls only want an athletic guy, and can't look past that it's not the type of girl I would want for a wife.
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