Romantic?

A nice home cooked meal.

I'm old.

Agreed.

Not just to impress... once in a while, BUT...

Over the long-term, if she does things that she does not enjoy, over the long-term, with you, as in... daily... even though she does not enjoy it...

Now, that is fantastic.

For example, I love EDM, and I play it 95% of the time in the car when she is sitting on the passenger side.

She does not hate EDM, but she clearly does not like it.

To her, it's just a lot of bass, but to me, I can hear every nuance and little melodic difference in the different tracks.

Keep in mind I play it 95% of the time... and the other 5% is her music.

Of course, I do turn the bass to the lowest setting so that does help.
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Or, if there are tasks, over the long-term (I have to stress this) that I absolutely abhor doing... and she does those tasks, to create a synergy that is lasting.

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i find it romantic when she surprises me & we are just doing/having a great time together without of the world knowing or caring

& for lol i also find it romantic when she watches porn with me together (which at this point has not happened nor will it ever)

Its not weird, it takes a bit of effort to hand write notes to your bf/gf.

My ex used to do that too and I thought it was really sweet of her.

If she did things she did not enjoy with you daily, you better believe she'd only build resentment in the long run. From time to time, yeah, doing things she clearly abhors is quite romantic and would put a smile on any guy's face.

There is a certain threshold, and if your SO were to keep doing things for your sake that she clearly doesn't enjoy, that threshold will break and she will explode. That part, not so romantic.

Going back more on topic, it's romantic to me when the girl cooks. It's a simple gesture, but one that takes a lot of effort. Baking, especially, takes the cake ;)

Especially if the girl bakes with just an apron on.

And then her hot friends come through the door with the same outfit..

And then they, like, start putting chocolate icing on each other and..lick...and..stuff..

home-cooked dinner with wine and desserts. Short trips to unknown areas and just enjoying each other's company amidst a beautiful backdrop, sharing stories and enjoying the cool ocean breeze.

i recently read this article and i loved it. You know what's romantic to a guy:

WHEN A GIRL KNOWS HER PLACE in the relationship.

I know about all the general BS about equality shit, but put that aside. We men know we will take care of the girl, be the driver in the car, help you kill the spider when needed, generally be the handy man around the house.

As a girlfriend, you know you'll be doing certain things, say IF I cooked, then you clean, if you did the laundry, I'll mow the lawn etc.

this is how our relationship was defined when we met, when we started to date, when we started to live together. THAT's romantic, knowing your place (bf and gf) in the relationship.

what makes it NOT romantic, is when you start holding out on sex on us because you THINK the card is in your hand. When you control us by saying "i don't feel like it" consistently etc. At the end, being the guy, we will put up with it, but you know what, once you cross the threshold, we peace out on you and that's it to the relationship cause tha'ts not what we negotiated on when we dated. so in the end, the one who's making new terms is usually the loser at the end.

nothing is more romantic to a man, than physical love, from someone he loves.

I don't think guys look for "romance"...

The suggestions that have come up so far may be pleasurable, sexy, enjoyable, etc. but not romantic!

The definition of romantic is: conducive to or characterized by the expression of love

So anything that someone sees as an expression of love I suppose would be romantic. I think a lot of the posted suggestions would fall into that category. I'm honestly impressed there wasn't more trolling in this thread, I think there have been some pretty awesome responses so far and I feel enlightened.

wtf is this! 1 sentance?!


who are you and what have you done with Ulic :suspicious:

when he's right he's right

Romantic? Fixing our cars! Then a good rip around the block.. mhm.

I am pretty sure everyone here was serious.

Basically, doing nice things without being asked, initiating sexual encounters (I hate ALWAYS having to be the one to make things happen; makes me feel completely unwanted), making good food, going out of her way to cheer me up when I've had a rough/stressful day (and letting the small things slide on those days), waking me up to something nice (breakfast, massage, BJ, sex, or all of the above), etc.

Unadulterated lust, sinful, slavering, sit on my face, race to hell lust.

Good point.

But, it's reciprocal, no doubt about that.

I have to do some stuff to balance what she does for me... a symbiotic relationship (for the lack of a better word).

And, when she really can't take it (the music), she just switches the music to her own liking.

nothing more romantic than waking up to a bj

I hate to be a Ron Swanson but I'm not into romance.

As long as it's fun being with you or I'm happy being with you, things will pretty much just work itself out. I don't need a lot of maintenance, if any at all.

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I think its more common for dudes to be a "Ron Swanson". Grid really isn't a romantic....its cool with me.

When she puts in the little bit of effort to look nice, i dont mean loading up on makeup (Unattractive) but more along the line of the hygiene.

She cooks or bakes for me and im sold lol. I will clean the house/do laundry even hand wash her delicate laundry but rarely do i feel like cooking anymore. Working as a cook ruined that.

Coming home to a washed car or my tools organized into their drawers

I've been accused of being a Ron Swanson. Right down to the one liners. And I don't even know who Ron Swanson is.

Romance is a term that's bandied about too much. Romantic, to me, is stuff that's useful, thoughtful, or something you know the other person will appreciate. Not something that's required, rather something that is above and beyond normal, every day expectations.

It goes both ways. Guys, it helps to clean the bathroom once in a while. Chicks dig it.

It's nice to hear that guys do appreciate effort. In my experience, effort by a woman can often go unappreciated, or under-appreciated by guys. I asked a guy friend once what I could do in a relationship to not be taken for granted so much and he told me "have a penis".

Oh dude.....you speak the truth!!

Up to this day I still don't know what romance means or feels like. I've always imagined it to be a made up word in the female dictionary. But if I were to put my best guess in I would say Chris Rock said it best with "feed me, fuck me, and shut the fuck up."