What is romantic to guys?

[H.Specter]

Originally Posted by Jmac

Basically, doing nice things without being asked, initiating sexual encounters (I hate ALWAYS having to be the one to make things happen; makes me feel completely unwanted), making good food, going out of her way to cheer me up when I've had a rough/stressful day (and letting the small things slide on those days), waking me up to something nice (breakfast, massage, BJ, sex, or all of the above), etc.

[stewie]

i don't expect romance. its nice when she gives me surprises/gestures, but mainly i prefer to be the one who gives all the romance. just the way i am i guess...i like giving, not receiving lol

but, the closest thing to romance she can give me would just be the simple things...if im cooking, ill do the main stuff and its nice if she preps all the smaller items to be used to help speed things up. cleaning up - i wash, she dries (even with a dishwasher 2 feet from the sink...i refuse to use it. i can do a much better job in half the time). in her car she usually listens to country music, which is fine, she knows im not a huge fan of country, but i can put up with it. but when i jump in and i can hear the country music on and she says "give me your phone" and plugs it in and listens to my music...puts a smile on my face cause i know she doesn't like all the songs i listen to, but she puts up with them with a smile on her face as well.

biggest one for me is relaxing. if i tell her early in the day i feel like shit/tired all day and what not. when we see each other, she brings over some snacks, throw a blanket over us, lay on the couch, and watch a movie and do absolutely nothing.

[6793026]

^ hey stewie, i used to be like you, i am and still a giver. after a while, it does feel good to receive esp. on some normal stuff when you EXPECT a response. it's hard to explain. I guess you have found a great person / match. I have only had one gf that took my giving for granted and wouldn't give back. i'm so glad she's out of my life.

[Pegacorn]

I recently learned that some people get uncomfortable with receiving gifts. I have made things for my SO that I expected a reaction from and got barely anything. I felt like I had put in all of that hard work and effort and it wasn't appreciated. Turns out, he just isn't used to people doing that sort of thing and is uncomfortable receiving gifts. I didn't realize this was a problem for people.