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Relationship & Gender DiscussionTHIS SPACE OPEN FOR ADVERTISEMENT. YOU SHOULD BE ADVERTISING HERE! The thin line between love and hate
Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...
ask yourself this question, if you let this chance slide, are you willing to accept the future full of WHAT IFs.
i'm not telling you to step in and try to break them up so you get a chance with her, but try and drop some hints and see how she reacts. if shes committed to her long distance relationship, then she will just stop you right there. what have you got to lose?
Sorry to break it to you but just because a girl says "you can do much better" and is flirting with you doesn't mean you have a chance. What I can tell you that you definitely do have a chance of is being that little side piece that is there to give her attention that she craves and the excitement in person. But her commitment has been made to her long-distance boyfriend that's obvious if she's been in a 6 year relationship with him without seeing him more than once.
If attention is all you're looking for too, by all means, continue. But understand that this girl is most likely just enjoying the attention you give her.
Ding ding ding. I dealt with that shit once, she always made it seem like she was on the verge of dumping her bf, when really she just wanted attention while he was away.
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Originally Posted by maksimizer
half those dudes are hotter than ,my GF.
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Originally Posted by RevYouUp
reading this thread is like waiting for goku to charge up a spirit bomb in dragon ball z
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Originally Posted by Good_KarMa
OH thank god. I thought u had sex with my wife. :cry:
She's not like most girls, I know she doing nothing for attention, and she definitely hates drama. I should have probably mentioned that this is her first and only boyfriend. Hahahahahahahahaha. We're both 20, they met when they were 13-14. She used to seem pretty committed but recently they have been fighting more and more. Its why I like her so much though, she ain't a basic bitch
she doesn't have a boyfriend of 6 years. she has a pen pal of 6 years.
just keep hanging out/texting/calling her and giving her attention. she'll realize its better to have physical contact than staring at a screen on skype while the guy jerks off for her.
She's not like most girls, I know she doing nothing for attention, and she definitely hates drama. I should have probably mentioned that this is her first and only boyfriend. Hahahahahahahahaha. We're both 20, they met when they were 13-14. She used to seem pretty committed but recently they have been fighting more and more. Its why I like her so much though, she ain't a basic bitch
That statement alone is enough for a , she's only 20, she doesn't even know herself yet. What are most girls like? There's no cookie cutter equation to how a girl is. I agree greatly with the above, the dude is only a pen pal. I say you go in balls deep, because your feelings won't change, you are looking at your relationship with her in a different way, and I know it may be hard for you to be friends with her too. So just talk to her and tell your you're into her, and you're not into just being friends with her.
I don't agree with stewie above in keep hanging out with her and blah blah, she will friendzone the fuck out of you if you don't act on what you're thinking.
in any case, generally, nowadays i don't think the relationship status of anyone even matters anymore.
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[03-07, 03:26] Yodamaster - The feeling when you quickly insert without hitting the sides
I wish I could thank you 1000x for this statement alone.
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That statement alone is enough for a , she's only 20, she doesn't even know herself yet. What are most girls like? There's no cookie cutter equation to how a girl is. I agree greatly with the above, the dude is only a pen pal. I say you go in balls deep, because your feelings won't change, you are looking at your relationship with her in a different way, and I know it may be hard for you to be friends with her too. So just talk to her and tell your you're into her, and you're not into just being friends with her.
I don't agree with stewie above in keep hanging out with her and blah blah, she will friendzone the fuck out of you if you don't act on what you're thinking.
in any case, generally, nowadays i don't think the relationship status of anyone even matters anymore.
Lets try and be abstract about this to take away ego.
For instance, you have a dream job. You apply, and you get it. But wait, here is where they tell you that you will be actually getting an internship. Furthermore, it is unpaid, but its the closest you can get to it. You actually need the money (you do not have any side jobs), but you decide that it is worth the gamble in that in the long run you will be actually landing the paid position.
You start, then they tell you that you cannot tell people you actually work there. You need to sign an NDA that enforces confidentiality in what is going on. Also, you are not actually doing the dream job (lets say, Director of Human Resources). You are actually just a doorman of the office and you only get to greet employees as they walk in.
You ask them how long this internship lasts, and they give you a vague non-answer.
You work here for about 3 months with the promise that you will actually one day get paid and get to do the actual job you were promised. They keep stringing you along with stories that are suppose to make your heart sink. Stories about how the situation is daunting and they need your emotional support for all the employees.
You work even harder, hoping that they notice your efforts. Maybe, they will finally appreciate what I have done.
Another 3 months pass by, and you get told the same thing as 3 months ago. You withhold the same hope that you will actually get paid/the position you wanted.
How many more months do you spend at this company in hopes that they fulfill their promise?
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Spoiler!
make your intent clear at the beginning. if you havn't (and it sounds like you have not), she will see you as another beta orbiter. that special distance, where, there is indeed physical distance
yes a couple of us have been through what you are going through. take our advice. it sucks. just basically stop being her emotional tissue. Lets say she does have strong feelings for that guy in NY or wherever the fuck, then you are basically just a temporary placeholder (who it sounds like you cant even pound)
stop hanging out with her on the basis of being a friend. make it clear you have a penis (metaphorically-- somewhat)
if she shuns you away after your penis flinging, then GOOD. you finally know what you can actually reach with her. you can finally walk away and pursue OTHER girls. there are a bunch around you unless you live in buttfuck middle of no where.
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[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 i find that at vietnamese place they cut ur hair like they cut grass
[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 do u go to vietnamese places for haircuts
Lets try and be abstract about this to take away ego.
For instance, you have a dream job. You apply, and you get it. But wait, here is where they tell you that you will be actually getting an internship. Furthermore, it is unpaid, but its the closest you can get to it. You actually need the money (you do not have any side jobs), but you decide that it is worth the gamble in that in the long run you will be actually landing the paid position.
You start, then they tell you that you cannot tell people you actually work there. You need to sign an NDA that enforces confidentiality in what is going on. Also, you are not actually doing the dream job (lets say, Director of Human Resources). You are actually just a doorman of the office and you only get to greet employees as they walk in.
You ask them how long this internship lasts, and they give you a vague non-answer.
You work here for about 3 months with the promise that you will actually one day get paid and get to do the actual job you were promised. They keep stringing you along with stories that are suppose to make your heart sink. Stories about how the situation is daunting and they need your emotional support for all the employees.
You work even harder, hoping that they notice your efforts. Maybe, they will finally appreciate what I have done.
Another 3 months pass by, and you get told the same thing as 3 months ago. You withhold the same hope that you will actually get paid/the position you wanted.
How many more months do you spend at this company in hopes that they fulfill their promise?
the direct:
Spoiler!
make your intent clear at the beginning. if you havn't (and it sounds like you have not), she will see you as another beta orbiter. that special distance, where, there is indeed physical distance
yes a couple of us have been through what you are going through. take our advice. it sucks. just basically stop being her emotional tissue. Lets say she does have strong feelings for that guy in NY or wherever the fuck, then you are basically just a temporary placeholder (who it sounds like you cant even pound)
stop hanging out with her on the basis of being a friend. make it clear you have a penis (metaphorically-- somewhat)
if she shuns you away after your penis flinging, then GOOD. you finally know what you can actually reach with her. you can finally walk away and pursue OTHER girls. there are a bunch around you unless you live in buttfuck middle of no where.
I was thinking of doing this but I always just figured that they'd just break up, then when I realized they probably won't for a while I gave up. As much as I want to say something, she's also a really fucking good friend of mine, I don't want to fuck that up either though. I think I might just wait for the perfect time and just tell her
Just another FYI. that perfect time will never come. If you value your friendship over your potential relationship, this thread wouldn't have been created.
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[03-07, 03:26] Yodamaster - The feeling when you quickly insert without hitting the sides
I was thinking of doing this but I always just figured that they'd just break up, then when I realized they probably won't for a while I gave up. As much as I want to say something, she's also a really fucking good friend of mine, I don't want to fuck that up either though. I think I might just wait for the perfect time and just tell her
im sorry dude, but shes not really your friend at this point. there is an uneven/unbalance in the relationship
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[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 i find that at vietnamese place they cut ur hair like they cut grass
[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 do u go to vietnamese places for haircuts
I was thinking of doing this but I always just figured that they'd just break up, then when I realized they probably won't for a while I gave up. As much as I want to say something, she's also a really fucking good friend of mine, I don't want to fuck that up either though. I think I might just wait for the perfect time and just tell her
who cares if shes a friend. unless shes one of your best friends, friends will come and go. might as well take advantage of what you have while you have it. I broke out of the friend zone with one girl i really liked, did the deed, then shit got awkward and we said fuck it and went our ways. did i care? meh...had fun while it lasted. do i miss her now...not a chance. out with the old, in with the new.
I was thinking of doing this but I always just figured that they'd just break up, then when I realized they probably won't for a while I gave up. As much as I want to say something, she's also a really fucking good friend of mine, I don't want to fuck that up either though. I think I might just wait for the perfect time and just tell her
1. You flirt with her, she flirts back.
2. She's giving you signs to hit her up.
3. She's chill as fuck
4. It's a benefit if you could fuck her
5. In reality, she's single
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6. But you want to be friends.
I'm gonna go back to my first advice, if you're not gonna make your move now, leave her the fuck alone, as in stop hanging around with her with the little intent of wanting to be with her, but "ooooh, I don't wanna mess up our friendship because she's a really really good friend".
I don't see why you are so scared... if you like her, go for it. Be direct with your intentions - only "friendzoned" people I know (including myself back in my single days) were in there because they beat around the bush.
If it doesn't work, find a new friend. All this BS about "losing your friend'... which would you rather lose, a potential girlfriend or even life partner or a friend? Seems pretty obvious to me. It all comes down to what you value more. Personally I value a female who can be BOTH my best friend and my gf, which seems to me is what you have here.
Hate to say it, but 6 years of never seeing your "S.O" doesn't make it a relationship. I am not so sure that it's "homewrecking" when there was never a home to begin with.
Too bad it isn't about flipping cars to lose money, I'm really good at that.
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This wouldn't happen if you didn't drive a peasant car like an Audi...
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[14-05, 14:59] FastAnna You tiny bra wearing, gigantic son of a bitch
[15-05, 10:35] FastAnna Yeah I was dreaming of those big titties in that tiny bra
Originally posted by 97ITR He would step out of his freshly downtown autospa detailed 996 C4s, check out his own reflection in the driverside window out of habit, take off his brand new limited edition D&G aviator sunglasses so the mf can see the fury in his eyes, sashay over to the other guy and then threaten to insert his black leather Savatore Ferragamo loafers into the guys rear-end.
I trust everything revscene says, this is the one time I'm a little iffy
You're a classic case of askhole.
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[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 i find that at vietnamese place they cut ur hair like they cut grass
[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 do u go to vietnamese places for haircuts
LOOOOL this thread is still alive. BrownBearz u puss, is she going on vacation to go see her BOYFRIEND? lol Go download Tinder or something to get yourself over this one.
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, she's only 20, she doesn't even know herself yet. What are most girls like? There's no cookie cutter equation to how a girl is. I agree greatly with the above, the dude is only a pen pal. I say you go in balls deep, because your feelings won't change, you are looking at your relationship with her in a different way, and I know it may be hard for you to be friends with her too. So just talk to her and tell your you're into her, and you're not into just being friends with her.
