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whitev70r · 07-03-2023, 08:02 PM

^ For infant car seats, BCAA ... I think they check it over to make sure it is safe.

https://www.bcaa.com/community/commu...seat-recycling

inv4zn · 07-04-2023, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by supafamous

Anyone know good organisations that accept donations of goods that help low income parents? We've got a few things like our infant car seat that I'd rather donate than try to sell.

Moms for moms is one organization that comes to mind.

AzNightmare · 07-10-2023, 10:09 AM

We're starting to feed solids to my 6 month old and yesterday, it was all going well until he suddenly had the whole thing in his mouth and then his face turned red and he was choking.

Luckily he was able to vomit it out , but in those few seconds, my wife and I were like uhhh shit shit shit!

We fed him some baby food that's supposed to dissolve slowly. Jeeze that was scary. Is this supposed to be a normal part of transitioning to solids?

Should we also have milk on standby so he can wash it down?

SSM_DC5 · 07-10-2023, 11:38 AM

Learn baby cpr. They have very good cough reflexes. Coughing will likely happen again.

!Aznboi128 · 07-11-2023, 09:47 AM

My friend Holly does great CPR courses locally.

https://safebeginnings.ca

inv4zn · 07-11-2023, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by AzNightmare

We're starting to feed solids to my 6 month old and yesterday, it was all going well until he suddenly had the whole thing in his mouth and then his face turned red and he was choking.

Luckily he was able to vomit it out , but in those few seconds, my wife and I were like uhhh shit shit shit!

We fed him some baby food that's supposed to dissolve slowly. Jeeze that was scary. Is this supposed to be a normal part of transitioning to solids?

Should we also have milk on standby so he can wash it down?

Happened once to us, but she got it out herself, though we gently patted her back. Just search online to see generally what shape you want to cut stuff; it should be very thin and long, nothing round/any one large dimension that it can get lodged.

FYI, not sure if you meant cow milk, but they shouldn't drink that until much older, 1 year i think.

Eff-1 · 07-11-2023, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by AzNightmare

We're starting to feed solids to my 6 month old and yesterday, it was all going well until he suddenly had the whole thing in his mouth and then his face turned red and he was choking.

Luckily he was able to vomit it out , but in those few seconds, my wife and I were like uhhh shit shit shit!

We fed him some baby food that's supposed to dissolve slowly. Jeeze that was scary. Is this supposed to be a normal part of transitioning to solids?

Should we also have milk on standby so he can wash it down?

Had kind of a similar experience when we started the transition to solid food.

It's normal for babies to gag a lot when first learning how to swallow solids. It's hard to watch! Although sounds like your experience might have been a bit extreme if his face turned red for a few seconds.

In our case, our son would gag and gag while trying to swallow (which is normal) but then he'd vomit food up from his stomach, which they said wasn't normal. So we saw a pediatrician who couldn't find anything obvious that was wrong and said to just monitor it over time and keep checking back.

So we did that for about 3 months and slowly but surely he grew out of it and now he eats like a monster truck.

But I won't lie, it was a tough 3 months watching him gag and choke every meal up. And messy. My wife was the hero helping him get through it. She did a lot of reading/research and worked hard at it until he figured it out eventually.

Babies are pretty residual. If they are coughing or choking, more often than not they'll cough it out unless you gave them something that was too large for their airway and not dissolvable.

One thing my wife said is if there's something inside the baby's mouth, never stick your fingers in and try and pull it out. More likely you'll push it down their throat into their airway. It's more dangerous to do that as opposed to letting him work through it himself. https://www.news24.com/life/wellness...oking-20221003

Mikoyan · 07-12-2023, 08:49 AM

Choking 101, don't pat people on the back when they choke. It won't help dislodge the food, the opposite in fact.

Be prepared to give Grandparents and strangers shit for 'trying to help.' by patting on the back.

The general public has no idea about First Aid.
Once, some bystander got upset I stopped them from trying to jam items into the mouth of someone having a seizure. No, they're not going to swallow their tongue.

inv4zn · 07-12-2023, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Mikoyan

Choking 101, don't pat people on the back when they choke. It won't help dislodge the food, the opposite in fact.

Be prepared to give Grandparents and strangers shit for 'trying to help.' by patting on the back.

The general public has no idea about First Aid.
Once, some bystander got upset I stopped them from trying to jam items into the mouth of someone having a seizure. No, they're not going to swallow their tongue.

Really?

I did a quick google and the websites of various health authorities saying to give sharp blows to the back outweighs the ones that say to not.

One thing is they keep changing what's acceptable and not; like CPR for the longest time included mouth-to-mouth, until suddenly it wasn't.

AzNightmare · 07-13-2023, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by inv4zn

Happened once to us, but she got it out herself, though we gently patted her back. Just search online to see generally what shape you want to cut stuff; it should be very thin and long, nothing round/any one large dimension that it can get lodged.

FYI, not sure if you meant cow milk, but they shouldn't drink that until much older, 1 year i think.

breast milk, lol. Only thing he likes right now.

I forgot what was being fed at the time, (my wife would know since she's the one that bought it and was feeding him) but it was some specific 6 month baby food. My son was nibbling away while my wife was holding the other end of the food and then eventually when there wasn't anything left to hold, the remaining bit went into his mouth. That's when he started gagging and choking.

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Originally Posted by inv4zn

Really?

I did a quick google and the websites of various health authorities saying to give sharp blows to the back outweighs the ones that say to not.

One thing is they keep changing what's acceptable and not; like CPR for the longest time included mouth-to-mouth, until suddenly it wasn't.

I started googling and watching youtube videos too. I think the difference is that you need to have the baby face down and tilt slightly forward, and give firm downward strokes. It makes sense, if you're trying to knock the food out with the aid of gravity.

I think the misconception is most people just try to pat the back while the baby is sitting up... It'll only keep the food further lodged in.

The other thing is these are firm strokes, not baby taps cause you're too scared to hurt the baby. What scares me is if the strokes don't work, then you're supposed to do chest compressions with 2 fingers. And in those demos, they're pushing pretty hard on that baby doll. I'm thinking if that's a real baby, their ribs could break.

They don't really say how hard you're supposed to push, but I heard during chest compression on adults, rib breakage is not uncommon...

Eff-1 · 07-13-2023, 10:01 AM

Oh sorry thought of something else. There's an app called Solid Starts. It's awesome. You can look up pretty much any type of solid food and it gives you instructions on whether it's save to feed a baby and if so, how to serve it. Really good app. Highly recommended.

Mikoyan · 07-13-2023, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by inv4zn

Really?

I did a quick google and the websites of various health authorities saying to give sharp blows to the back outweighs the ones that say to not.

One thing is they keep changing what's acceptable and not; like CPR for the longest time included mouth-to-mouth, until suddenly it wasn't.

For small kids/infants the kid should be face down for the back blows. I wasn't clear that I meant the usual choking thing when you're upright and someone hits your back. In that case the blow could dislodge the item and then gravity could let it drop further down

The CPR thing found that the general public don't want to lock lips with strangers generally, it was easier to remember/perform compression only CPR, and that in most cases, advanced medical help was close enough that cycling the remaining oxygenated blood was enough till they showed up.

CPR with ventilation is still used, but not at the basic CPR level.

That said, I've had the 15:2 compression: ventilation ratio drilled into me for so long the cadence is stuck in my head.

xxxrsxxx · 07-24-2023, 03:00 PM

Anyone driving 7-8 seater minivans/SUVs or have recommendations? Have 2 kids (under 3) which means 2 car seats, need something bigger so I can also drive the grandparents around at the same time. Not much choice nowadays, was looking at the sienna but it has a long wait list.

EvoFire · 07-25-2023, 10:15 AM

Kia Carnival? It's still not cheap but it's the no nonsense minivan on the market. I believe the lower trims can be had under 50k.

You only have 4 choices for minivans, and the Sienna is nigh unobtainium.

If you want 7 real seats, a van is the only option unless you go for the monsters that are X7/Suburbans. Things like the Highlander or CX90 are really jump seats for short trips to dinner. The Grand Highlander is coming out but I don't think you'll be able to get one anytime soon.

inv4zn · 07-26-2023, 09:38 AM

We have a Palisade, and the 3rd row is in between the full size 3rd row of a minivan and the ridiculous afterthought 3rd rows found in some smaller SUVs.

Palisade/Telluride twins are probably easier to come across than Sienna's right now.

Mikoyan · 07-26-2023, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by xxxrsxxx

Anyone driving 7-8 seater minivans/SUVs or have recommendations? Have 2 kids (under 3) which means 2 car seats, need something bigger so I can also drive the grandparents around at the same time. Not much choice nowadays, was looking at the sienna but it has a long wait list.

My '23 Odyssey has been good so far. Got for the same reasons, but my kids are under 10.

winson604 · 07-30-2023, 12:36 AM

Upgraded to a Highlander last summer from a Mazda 6, 2 kids as well.

Honestly, if anticipate actually using the car to drive other famil members in addition to your spouse and 2 kids go Van. Yea I have a 3rd row and un a linch it works but it's tight and all if nit almost all 3 row SUVs will be similar. Vans will almost always have a better 3rd row imo.

Also to consider is if you have 2 car seats in the middle and depending on the csr seat you may be using the seat belt to secure the seats I.e. Britax click tight seats meaning the seat belt would obstruct you trying to slide the seat forward to crawl into the back and unless you have captains chairs in the middle this is a huge pain.

JqC · 07-31-2023, 01:51 PM

We had a 2015 Sienna for over 5 years. Perfect for the kids but we got rid of it because it wasn't quite the same after getting t-boned.
Whatever minivan you decide on, get the sliding doors. That's the one feature we appreciated the most. Don't have to worry about them opening doors into other parked cars. You can open with the remote and let them run into the van themselves. Little things like that made life easier.

Grandparents were always fine sitting in any row in the minivan.
I'd never ask them to sit in the 3rd row of our SUV. They're too hard to climb into, and there isn't nearly as much space.
If I'm picking them up too, I have to move 2 of the car seats from the middle row to the back row, so grandparents can sit in the middle.

supafamous · 08-01-2023, 08:53 AM

How have your kids taken to swimming? We've been sending our 4 year old to swim lessons at Bonsor for a while now but she's just not taking to it. She's in the entry level preschool class (Octopus) and needs to be willing to put her face into the water and be comfortable floating in the forward position (facedown) but it's just not happening (3 rounds of classes now).

I'm considering hiring a private instructor for her - the current classes have 3 kids, are a half hour long and taught by teenagers - to help her get over the hump but I wonder if I just gotta go with the flow here.

Neither my wife nor I swim nor do we like being in the water so us taking her out to the pool or swim park isn't a real option (she also doesn't really like splash parks either).

EvoFire · 08-01-2023, 09:34 AM

We've been thinking of sending our almost 4 yr old because he wants to swim, but I've gone with him once by myself and he's never mentioned it again. I don't think he's really that into it and it'll just end up being a struggle and fight to get him to class.

I have heard from multiple parents to just go private for classes. When I say private I mean going with a private group like Pedalheads. Their class size is smaller and instructors do a better job than the public classes. Yes it's pricy but they find they need 1/3 less the class for them to pick up something so it ends up roughly a wash.

Traum · 08-01-2023, 09:57 AM

My kid was in a very similar phase when we first started getting him into swimming at 5 -- he loved to play with and in the water, but absolutely refused to put his head into it. At the time, he went to CG Brown for public swimming lessons. There were 3 - 4 kids in total in his classes.

According to the older teenager instructor -- my guess is, he is in the 18 - 19 yrs old range -- they just need to get comfortable with the water. In my kid's case, he eventually aged out of the "afraid of putting his face into the water" phase -- although I'm sure seeing how other kids in his class are doing it gave him enough courage to give it a try. A pair of well-fitted swimming googles is also a must.

It should also be noted that we were only able to booked 3 or 4 rounds of public lessons, and the head-into-water breakthrough did not come until we took him to private lessons -- we went to Marina's Swim School:

https://marinaswimschool.com/

Marina was absolutely not cheap, and it felt pretty obvious to me that their staff were very much on the ball with reminding / encouraging you to keep registering for lessons with them. But it is also true that their instructional staff were very, very good. My kid swimming skills went up dramatically after 3 - 4 lessons with Marina, and continued to develop afterwards.

For his age group at the time, class size was also 3 - 4 kids (at Marina), but the Marina instructors were spending a lot more individual time with each kid, and I'm sure that made a difference too. I'm sure duration of the lessons also made a difference since public classes were only 1/2 hour, while the Marina classes were 1 hour each. With public lessons, by the time the kids got accustomed to the water again, it was probably almost time to leave again. With the hour long lessons, they have more time to build on the comfort level they've acquired.

winson604 · 08-04-2023, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Traum

My kid was in a very similar phase when we first started getting him into swimming at 5 -- he loved to play with and in the water, but absolutely refused to put his head into it. At the time, he went to CG Brown for public swimming lessons. There were 3 - 4 kids in total in his classes.

According to the older teenager instructor -- my guess is, he is in the 18 - 19 yrs old range -- they just need to get comfortable with the water. In my kid's case, he eventually aged out of the "afraid of putting his face into the water" phase -- although I'm sure seeing how other kids in his class are doing it gave him enough courage to give it a try. A pair of well-fitted swimming googles is also a must.

It should also be noted that we were only able to booked 3 or 4 rounds of public lessons, and the head-into-water breakthrough did not come until we took him to private lessons -- we went to Marina's Swim School:

https://marinaswimschool.com/

Marina was absolutely not cheap, and it felt pretty obvious to me that their staff were very much on the ball with reminding / encouraging you to keep registering for lessons with them. But it is also true that their instructional staff were very, very good. My kid swimming skills went up dramatically after 3 - 4 lessons with Marina, and continued to develop afterwards.

For his age group at the time, class size was also 3 - 4 kids (at Marina), but the Marina instructors were spending a lot more individual time with each kid, and I'm sure that made a difference too. I'm sure duration of the lessons also made a difference since public classes were only 1/2 hour, while the Marina classes were 1 hour each. With public lessons, by the time the kids got accustomed to the water again, it was probably almost time to leave again. With the hour long lessons, they have more time to build on the comfort level they've acquired.

Lol the best kept secret is Marina, while it's getting popular it's still no where as known as Peddle Heads and Aquaventures. My eldest has been going for a year now and my youngest who just turned 4 is in her 3rd semester and has already made it to the big pool. On the first day of classes the instructor was shocked because she was clearly at least a couple years younger than the next youngest student. They were pretty uncomfortable with her being in the big pool herself so the supervisor had instructed the teacher to be in the pool instead (most instructors don't go into the pool once they reach the big pool). It's pricier than a Community Centre but I feel it isn't that bad, you pay for what you get. It works out to be about $56 per 1 hr class + tax or roughly $1/minute. Registration is a breeze, you can sign up for the next semester anytime vs everyone fighting on registration date. Whenever my kids start a new semester I sign up for the next one right away. Parking is plenty as well. They did just open a new location in Coquitlam I think for those who can't do Richmond. The place isn't perfect I think my biggest gripe with them is the inconsistency with progress reporting. Some teachers are good about giving updates all the time, some will give you a report card at the end but some will do neither lol.

Tapioca · 08-21-2023, 02:31 PM

A random thought/observation...

How many of you are becoming first time parents in your 40s these days?

I thought I was "old" when I became a father at 33, but over the past couple of years, I feel like I'm seeing a wave of people in their 40s having babies (many for the first time).

I'm glad to be enjoying my 40s with kids who are now in the school system. I'm seeing some friends who are having newborns in their 40s and they're having a pretty hard time. Having children is a very humbling experience and I can imagine that having them in your 40s is probably more so considering life expectations, financial commitments, professional commitments/aspirations, etc.

Liquid_o2 · 08-21-2023, 03:50 PM

My co-workers had his first at 49. He said there a lot of older dads at daycare.

Glad I had mine in my 30's as I don't think I would have the energy in my 40's to deal with the sleepless nights and the the energy they have.

supafamous · 08-21-2023, 05:20 PM

I became a dad at 43 (4 years ago) and it's definitely physically tough to be a new dad in your 40s - I just don't have the energy that a 20 or 30 something would have. Starting so late also meant that my kid is going to be an only child (my wife is now 45 and IVF is not an option and her eggs are largely too old now). The lack of sleep really sucks when you're in your 40s. I didn't want to start a family this late but health issues, a miscarriage and a lack of work-life balance led to it.

It also sucks for the grandparents (in their 70's) as they have even less energy to play with the grandkids - none of them can really handle more than a couple hours with my kid and a lot of it is fairly sedentary type of activities.

OTOH, I have the both the wisdom and money that I didn't have when I was younger - I can often spend my way out of things and I'm much more emotionally stable than I was in my younger days.