Parental Thread

[EvoFire]

^ Oh we use it. We say it's time to spray nose and he cries. He knows it's better afterwards but he hates it. Fuck I hate using them so I don't blame him.

[Hakkaboy]

my kid fights me just to take the infant Tylenol/advil and refused to even try the chewable advil, even though he knows he will feel better after.

I wonder what he'd.do if try to squirt up water into his nose lol

[inv4zn]

I find it helps a little bit if you get the kid to press the trigger button. They know it's going to suck, but if you give them the illusion of control, it tends to help a bit, at least with ours.

[EvoFire]

Originally Posted by Hakkaboy

my kid fights me just to take the infant Tylenol/advil and refused to even try the chewable advil, even though he knows he will feel better after.

I wonder what he'd.do if try to squirt up water into his nose lol

What flavour do you give them? There's 4 or 5 different flavours of tynenol and my older one will have nothing to do with the grape one. Straight up refuses it, he'll take any other flavour.

He doesn't have that problem with advil, thought he prefers not. Something with grape flavour it seems.

[Gumby]

I wouldn't be too concerned about how your kids talk when they're young.

My son only knew Cantonese until going to pre-school. Now he barely knows Cantonese...

Also, it took us a while to figure out what he was actually saying, but when he was small, he would say "doctor nation" when he meant "decoration" and also "honors" when he meant "orange".

[inv4zn]

Originally Posted by EvoFire

What flavour do you give them? There's 4 or 5 different flavours of tynenol and my older one will have nothing to do with the grape one. Straight up refuses it, he'll take any other flavour.

He doesn't have that problem with advil, thought he prefers not. Something with grape flavour it seems.

Should give him a drop of Buckley's. Then he'll learn to appreciate the grape

[Hakkaboy]

Originally Posted by EvoFire

What flavour do you give them? There's 4 or 5 different flavours of tynenol and my older one will have nothing to do with the grape one. Straight up refuses it, he'll take any other flavour.

He doesn't have that problem with advil, thought he prefers not. Something with grape flavour it seems.

For the infant one, it's the normal grape flavour?

For the chewable advil, it's the blue raspberry and my 6yo loves it if/when she needs to take one. She also had no problems with the grape infant ones or the slightly older age liquid ones in a cup vs syringe.

Either way, my 3yo hates them all and goes crazy every time he sees us take it out of our medicine cabinet.

[68style]

Man is this what parenting has become? Negotiating with our little shits over what flavour of medicine to take?

No wonder everyone's turning into a bunch of pussies that can't handle anything now lol

[SSM_DC5]

^ you're a suppository kinda guy huh?

[68style]

Gotta get in there somehow

[RabidRat]

Originally Posted by 320icar

So my ~3.5 just started preschool and loves it. Similar to how I was at his age, he’s always excited to go and never anxious. He’s having a blast, although within 3 days already brought a cold home that kicked my ass. So it begins…

But the vent here comes with his speech. My wife and I are very good with him, read and correct his way of talking all the time but it almost feels like he’s purposely stunting his own speech growth. For example instead of using ‘I’ hell just say ‘me’ even though we always try to correct him and make him say the correct sentence.

Or like this morning he’s playing with his toys and grabs his ‘ment chuck. I said no, and make him say ‘cement’ and ‘truck’ properly. Then when I ask what it is he firmly says ‘ment chuck. But it’s clear he’s falling behind his other preschool kids as they talk like adults and not babies.

They’ve ordered a hearing test but I doubt it since he’s had them in the past and done very well, and he can hear the quietest of things around the house it’s crazy

...and here I was getting excited that our 5mo said "muh-mah" last night, even if it was by complete accident amidst the screaming and crying of settling down to sleep.

I'm looking forward to the day he can start to say words, and on purpose .

[RabidRat]

We got a Volvo C40 for a service loaner, and we thought hey great, Volvo = safety. But the irony is the darn thing has a hump in the middle of the floor in the rear.

This means that we have to either install the infant car seat in the middle without the load leg deployed (we got a Mesa Max specifically for this feature), or we have to put the seat in the side position to be able to use it.

Anyone have thoughts on which is better? And I'm guessing if we put the car seat on the side, then at least the driver side is safer than the passenger side?

[DaJo]

Originally Posted by RabidRat

We got a Volvo C40 for a service loaner, and we thought hey great, Volvo = safety. But the irony is the darn thing has a hump in the middle of the floor in the rear.

This means that we have to either install the infant car seat in the middle without the load leg deployed (we got a Mesa Max specifically for this feature), or we have to put the seat in the side position to be able to use it.

Anyone have thoughts on which is better? And I'm guessing if we put the car seat on the side, then at least the driver side is safer than the passenger side?

I put my car seat behind the passenger side because it's safer getting the kid out curbside rather than in the middle of a busy street.

[Tapioca]

Been a parent for 8 years. We have never used the middle position to secure child seats as it's typically hard to get a secure fit in most vehicles due to the design of the middle seat (in some cases, LATCH anchors aren't present at all in the middle seat).

[inv4zn]

Our car doesn't even have a middle seat, they're bench seats.

All car seats are safe as long as they're installed properly and you have a good fit on the kid. I wouldn't think much past that.

[AzNightmare]

For all the people that like Ms Rachel, I recently stumbled onto this channel that's basically a Cantonese or Mandarin knock off:

https://www.youtube.com/@nihaopauletta

I've been switching it up between her and Ms. Rachel hoping my kid can absorb both languages.

[xxxrsxxx]

Originally Posted by AzNightmare

For all the people that like Ms Rachel, I recently stumbled onto this channel that's basically a Cantonese or Mandarin knock off:

https://www.youtube.com/@nihaopauletta

I've been switching it up between her and Ms. Rachel hoping my kid can absorb both languages.

yes I've also been searching for cantonese ms rachel and there really isn't much out there. Unfortunately this one only has 5 videos, hopefully she makes more.

[supafamous]

For folks who want their kids to learn Cantonese what are you doing around that? We send our 4.5 year old to WOLO (WOLO SCHOOL OF ARTS & CHILD CARE LEARNING CENTRE | 1346 KINGSWAY | ADMIN@WONDEROFLEARNING.CA - Child Care & School of Arts) once a week for an hour on Saturday - she's definitely learning (she understands but doesn't speak it). Short of the grandparents moving in I'm not sure she'll get enough exposure to speak it regularly.

[Traum]

Not that our kid has any problems understanding or speaking Canto at this point, but we have normally try to get him to watch at least some cartoons in Canto. When he was younger, I used to watch Cantonese dubbed Doraemon with him on YouTube. Lately, he has been watching some cartoons on D+ in Cantonese, and others in English -- I don't even know what criteria he uses to decide whether he wants the show in Canto or English lol~

Reading and writing is a lot more difficult because IMO, there really has to be a need to use the reading & writing skills. But when I see him read, he seems to just flip through all the pages after looking at the pictures / cartoons, and I am pretty darn sure there is no way he was actually reading the words -- regardless of whether the book is in English or Chinese.

[EvoFire]

Originally Posted by AzNightmare

For all the people that like Ms Rachel, I recently stumbled onto this channel that's basically a Cantonese or Mandarin knock off:

https://www.youtube.com/@nihaopauletta

I've been switching it up between her and Ms. Rachel hoping my kid can absorb both languages.

I turned that on my my younger one. It's cringe as fuck listening to it in canto.... but I'll bear with it

[RabidRat]

We're gonna sleep train the kid starting this weekend.

He's 6 months old and the pediatrician gave the green light, it's time .

Tips? Advice?

[Jonydakiller]

me and the wife are mandarin speaking but our nanny only speaks canto to him hoping that he would be able to pick up canto as he grows.
Then it comes the grandparents who only speak native Taiwanese to him hoping he would pick up that as well. I hope the kid isn't just confused AF right now. he is 5mth old

[inv4zn]

Originally Posted by RabidRat

We're gonna sleep train the kid starting this weekend.

He's 6 months old and the pediatrician gave the green light, it's time .

Tips? Advice?

Set up a routine, stick to it.

He's gonna cry, spread out the intervals you go in.
ie. let him cry for 5 minutes, then go in briefly. Let him cry for 10 minutes, then go in briefly. Let him cry for 20 minutes, etc.

When you do go in, don't hold him, don't make eye contact, don't soothe him. Tell him nicely but firmly it's time to sleep, lay him down, and walk out. If diaper is soiled, then obviously change him but again, don't do anything else. If he wakes up in the middle of the night, then same thing. Give him 5 minutes, then go in. Then wait 10, etc.

Get a sound machine. Have him associate it with sleep. Same idea as the routine.

Also both you and your wife have to stick it out. If one feels bad and goes in to hold him or whatever, it's all ruined.

Good luck, but it's worth it lol

[RabidRat]

We ran into a pickle last night as we started this: what happens if they wake up again before a night feed, and they keep crying all the way til the feed time?

Do you delay the feed then? Or do you go ahead and feed them, even if that might cause them to associate their crying with you eventually showing up?

[EvoFire]

^I believe you are not supposed to feed when crying and you wait until they've settle down before you go in to feed them. It doesn't mean they have to be asleep, just not crying.