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02-07-2025, 06:37 AM
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#1401 | | I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
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We are at week 20 and man, after joining the bandits group, we still see people with 23 weeks and sudden turns for the worse.
I keep telling my wife... you NEVER EVER celebrate until you're at the finish line and actually crossing it. I am not a fan of these baby showers. Man, if I was early 20s / 30s, sureeeee... the fact we are 40s... everything is risky.
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02-07-2025, 09:23 AM
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#1402 | | RS has made me the bitter person i am today!
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^ Oh yeah there was a post yesterday or a day before where the couple failed on multiple attempts even with IVF, that was disheartening.
On the flip side. We have a friend who tried for many years and couldn't get pregnant. Ended up going the IVF route and had their first one. Then they recently had an accident and are expecting their second via natural.
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02-07-2025, 11:40 AM
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#1403 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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^ it's the same guy
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02-08-2025, 06:47 PM
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#1404 | | Rs has made me the man i am today!
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Originally Posted by 6793026  pass on the tips and wisdom...
i feel like i'm in AA now.
Can't get closer to you guys if I don't start off being vulnerable.
I'm mid 40s, wife is 41, took us 3 yrs, 3 IVF, broke as F and now just suddenly when we gave up, she got preggo.
Now I gotta deal with all the new reno with man cave just to find out i have ot take it all down for baby girl.. FML LOL.
I'm blessed to have grandfathered a lot of hobbies, so I guess i can re-pick them back up again in 30 yrs LOL. | One suggestion from my lesson learned as I was 43 when my daughter was born and my wife was 41 - since you're also in your mid-40s you (and your wife) won't have the energy levels you once had so use the few months you have left to try to improve your fitness and improve your diet. Learn to make meals that are easy and healthy now (in some cases even start stocking up the freezer with pre-made meals or the ingredients you need for the easy meals). Depending on Uber Eats/DD is just not sustainable and even the meal kit stuff isn't great (and it gets expensive fast).
Maybe the nuclear reactor your wife births will be an easy kid but if they are not they will be exhausting and in your mid-40s it's just really, really hard to recover and keep up. I was working heavy hours leading up to my daughter being born and didn't have a baseline that let me keep well.
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02-09-2025, 07:24 AM
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#1405 | | I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
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I'm at that stage. I've been very blessed to have high energy level and being able to prep meals, create plans and execute for the last 20 years. It's been very difficult for my wife to even plan meals or cook food beyond just for herself.
I just have to suck it up to say the least, you really can't change someone that stage in life.
Honestly, each time I complain (and many times when I discuss with my wife); we have to realize how good we have it. Do you not even realize there are single mothers and or fathers who has to still go to work? There are families with 1 income with family of 3 and still trying to make things work. STFO, just appreciate you're able to have a kid.
I keep telling myself - no one forced you to this, you want a kid, you're going to have to deal with pregnancy. Yeah.. not something you want to tell your wife face to face. LOL
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02-09-2025, 10:36 PM
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#1406 | | OMGWTFBBQ is a common word I say everyday
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Congratulations.
I've been a parent for almost 10 years with two kids. 10 years ago, there were barely any supports for new and expecting fathers. My wife and I did pre-natal classes, but that's about it. I used to take my newborns on walks all of the time. I used to have to drive around with my first-born in the car when she was an infant so that I get could her to fall asleep. Lots of WTF moments during those first couple of years and PPD from my wife too.
We got by without a lot of fancy things. My kids aren't perfect, but they're pretty good and well-adjusted, all things considered.
Everyone has advice to give, but take it all with a grain of salt, to be honest. You're going to make a lot of mistakes - be easy on yourself. Focus on your kid and get to know them so you can make the best choices for them - not based on what others have done or what your wife's friends and family are telling you to do.
Parenting is hard, but it's not that hard all things considered. You got this.
Good luck.
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02-10-2025, 08:12 AM
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#1407 | | Rs has made me the man i am today!
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Originally Posted by Tapioca Congratulations.
I've been a parent for almost 10 years with two kids. 10 years ago, there were barely any supports for new and expecting fathers. My wife and I did pre-natal classes, but that's about it. I used to take my newborns on walks all of the time. I used to have to drive around with my first-born in the car when she was an infant so that I get could her to fall asleep. Lots of WTF moments during those first couple of years and PPD from my wife too. | Suggestion: Pre-natal classes are a great way to form a dad support group and an opportunity that I regret not taking advantage of. The moms all formed a group chat (the dads were in it too) but it was basically the moms doing all the talking (and organising get togethers). Get the numbers of the dads and form your own group chat so you can support each other.
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02-15-2025, 09:17 AM
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#1408 | | RS has made me the bitter person i am today!
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So we booked a trip to Japan in April via Zipair. The total came to under $3k for just flights (not including luggage yet)
After we booked we came to the realization that Zipair is going to be FULL of under 6 kids because of their U6 fair being ~1/4 to 1/3 of an adult fair. If you are two adults flying and need luggage there's no reason to fly Zipair.
Zipair is the JAL budget subsidiary.
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02-16-2025, 11:54 PM
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#1409 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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Have fun! Japan is great for kids. The washroom at the airport was arguably cleaner than my own bathroom...
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02-19-2025, 11:11 AM
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#1410 | | RS.net, helping ugly ppl have sex since 2001
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Originally Posted by EvoFire So we booked a trip to Japan in April via Zipair. The total came to under $3k for just flights (not including luggage yet)
After we booked we came to the realization that Zipair is going to be FULL of under 6 kids because of their U6 fair being ~1/4 to 1/3 of an adult fair. If you are two adults flying and need luggage there's no reason to fly Zipair.
Zipair is the JAL budget subsidiary. | You never know until you know. I went to Japan via Zip, 2 adults 2 kids and needed luggage. After all the upgrades it was still cheaper than the next cheapest option by quite a bit. The plane was in my estimation 75% adults and 25% kids. It was a solid experience and wasn't any better or worse than any other flying experience I've had.
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02-19-2025, 11:28 AM
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#1411 | | RS has made me the bitter person i am today!
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Originally Posted by winson604 You never know until you know. I went to Japan via Zip, 2 adults 2 kids and needed luggage. After all the upgrades it was still cheaper than the next cheapest option by quite a bit. The plane was in my estimation 75% adults and 25% kids. It was a solid experience and wasn't any better or worse than any other flying experience I've had. | That sounds about right. Most parents are 2 adult + 1 kid nowadays. Plus the straddlers who went for the cheap fare and will only bring a backpack, so for those it's still cheaper than flying a full fare with JAL/ANA.
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02-19-2025, 11:54 AM
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#1412 | | I *heart* Revscene.net very Muchie
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I haven't flown Zipair yet, but will be shortly and one thing everyone with kids should understand is that there is 0 inflight entertainment, so make sure to bring your own.
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02-19-2025, 03:36 PM
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#1413 | | RS has made me the bitter person i am today!
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They are supposed to have wifi to serve in flight entertainment, but so far it seems a bit hit or miss.
I really only want wifi for whatsapp.
Winson how was the wifi?
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#1414 | | RabidMod
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What method did you guys use for potty training, and roughly when were they ready?
Our daycare says they'll follow our lead and didn't have any particular preference.
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#1415 | | Rs has made me the man i am today!
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Originally Posted by RabidRat What method did you guys use for potty training, and roughly when were they ready?
Our daycare says they'll follow our lead and didn't have any particular preference. | We did the 3 day cold turkey method: https://www.todaysparent.com/toddler...t-was-intense/
Our daycare "required" that she be potty trained by the time she was 3-ish so we used a long weekend to do it and spent the entire time basically inside the house. It worked pretty well - had the odd accident after but that's pretty normal.
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#1416 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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Originally Posted by RabidRat What method did you guys use for potty training, and roughly when were they ready?
Our daycare says they'll follow our lead and didn't have any particular preference. | Similar to the 3rd day boot camp, but still did diaper when sleeping. Also started it on a long weekend, let the kid run around the house with bare legs and a t shirt with a squatty potty nearby. I forgot how much time has passed, perhaps 6 months? There are still some voiding accidents at daycare, but at home, it's pretty much stopped. Bowel movements, seem to still be in the underwear or diaper unless we're dealing with constipation. Reminders or telling us when she needs to pee or poo still happen. In the morning, diaper is usually dry and putting on the toilet first thing in the morning when waking usually results in a pee.
Be ready with lots of clothes, doing lots of laundry, and have an extractor if you have cloth furniture.
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