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As a fat man, I will always have some sort of a fried food accessible. Often in my pocket.
So just ask and you shall receive
Is that a corn dog in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?
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Sonick is a genius. I won't go into detail what's so great about his post. But it's damn good!
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Is that milk tea on your jeans or are you just happy to see me?
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Sonick is a genius. I won't go into detail what's so great about his post. But it's damn good!
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Well, the one friend who owes everyone money is a friend from grade school and we've all been friends for so long. So it feels difficult to just cut him out of our lives. He is incredibly loyal, but he's bad with money. I've learned that if you're going to lend someone money, don't expect it back from them.
I guess I feel a sense of guilt for some reason. Like, I'm living this perfect life. It's like what did I do to deserve the life I'm living? I have my own place, I have a beautiful family and a healthy relationship with my spouse, and I can go on multiple vacations a year and I religiously put money away for my retirement.
As time goes on, I have multiple friends who are going to be f*cked as they will likely still have debt, they'll have nothing saved, and when they're 70 years old, you can't live pay cheque to pay cheque because you likely can't work at the same level anymore.
Ah I'm an idiot, I just realized what your thread was really about. Sounds like you have a situation among friends where some folks are really struggling, i.e. barely surviving, while you're living a pretty high standard of living and feeling super guilty about that?
Yeah I dunno man, I think people make their own choices about what sacrifices they want to make today for tomorrow's wellbeing. Sounds like they chose (and continue to choose) poorly. That's not on you.
If this is bad enough it's actually weighing on your life, you might consider taking advantage of counseling via workplace benefits. If you love to get a deal, you owe yourself to milk that system for all it's worth !
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im with you guys, but KFC is where i go to fight a bitch.... i still rather eat this garbage than say a 200 dinner at miku and pretend i know what o-toro is.
i saved the bucket from the last MEAT (Kunty Fight'n Chicken)
Looks like you've got some panel gap gaping over there .
Sonick is a genius. I won't go into detail what's so great about his post. But it's damn good!
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There's a family that reached out out to us to hangout a few times over the last year cause our kids got along in school.
Went to their kids birthday parties and a couple playdates at their place. Chatting with them they were always pretty frank about how bad inflation is and how hard it is to keep up, which we can all relate to.
After a couple hangouts at their place, we decided to reciprocate with a playdate at our place. The mom was a bit 'off' that day, and the family abruptly left early cause she wasn't feeling well. We didn't think much of it at the time.
Now it's been a few months and we haven't heard from them at all. They also were not able to make it to any of our invites either.
We find out through mutual friends (who are much closer to them than we are) that they are actually really stressed financially, and we wonder if that has something to do with us not being to hang out lately.
While we're not rich by any means, they may have felt uncomfortable realizing we're doing a bit more 'okay' than they are. Sucks if this is true, as it may help prevent us from getting together with them more often.
It's no fun wondering if you have to cancel Disney+ and Netflix while you go to another family's house and see them have 3 Roomba's, Dyson vacuums and purifiers.
Grab Disney+ through the Shaw promo (free for two years) or Amex when they had that.
Netflix just grab the 5.99 per month that has ads. These ads aren’t even that bad.
A common distortion of trauma or anxiety is downplaying positives and too heavily attributing success to luck of the draw.
It's healthy to recognize luck has a part in success (they say the biggest narcissists are those who attribute all the positive in life purely on their own talent and intelligence), but also to have a good balance of self assurance of one's own capabilities.
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You said it yourself in the other thread about classic Chinese/Asian mentality of growing up. Not believing you are deserving of good things in life is a classic traumatic result of that upbringing. Also the fear that if you start believing your own shit smells good then you'll lose that drive or urgency to get what got you there in the first place.
I've had a hard time reconciling it myself but after much counselling and self reflection I've started to give myself compassion for things rather than beating myself up thay I don't "deserve" anything, coz ultimately I realized it's not helping me be a better person at work or personally. In fact I feel I perform even better professionally since I started believing in my own abilities and not simply because ingot lucky and am not deserving of my relative success.
I think it's good to not be boastful and to be humble, but at the same time it can get hammered so deeply into the Chinese psyche growing up that you don't allow YOURSELF to feel pride and recognition of your own achievements, and that's where it becomes self-sabotoging and success limiting.
It got to a point for me where I'd make a great presentation, or a great speech, and get a ton of positive feedback and and compliments, but I'd go home and feel like shit and beat myself up coz I didn't think I earned those compliments. That's when I realized how fucked up it was and I should sort that shit out.
I also learned and realized oftentimes people don't know they are especially strong or talented at something. It comes so naturally to them that it doesn't feel like it takes a lot of effort. Which then also contributes to the idea of not deserving success because it didn't feel like a lot of effort to achieve.
Geese man, I feel like you're looking into my soul. I resonated with literally everything you said. I think I have a lot of reflecting that needs to be done. I appreciate your feedback, It feels like my perspective has completely changed by what you said.
^ It might be that it's a challenge with the kids. The kids see something you guys have and they want it and whine about but the parents can't give it to them, it might even be something that's really reasonable but they just can't accomodate and it makes them feel terrible. Sometimes kids don't understand or the parents shield the kids from the hardships so they grow up without a care.
Was waiting for this. I never go to Richmond, but when I do, it's for LA Chicken.
Best chicken in the GVRD.
Only 2 reasons to go into Richmond: LA Chicken and BBQ Master.
Fun Fact: The couple that ran LA Chicken divorced about 4-5 years ago and the lady no longer works there. It's just the guy plus some old Chinese guy who does all the cooking now.
I always tell my kids (9 and 15) that food, lodging, stuff, eating out, etc. isn't cheap and that we're very lucky to be able to afford stuff. I've shown my credit card bill to the older one and it was an eye-opening experience for him!
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Only 2 reasons to go into Richmond: LA Chicken and BBQ Master.
Fun Fact: The couple that ran LA Chicken divorced about 4-5 years ago and the lady no longer works there. It's just the guy plus some old Chinese guy who does all the cooking now.
She wasn’t all that bad looking. Just perpetually greasy.
No wonder he looks murderous and depressed at the same time
She wasn’t all that bad looking. Just perpetually greasy.
No wonder he looks murderous and depressed at the same time
Two favourite things about Chicken Lady:
1. She'd always say our order into the mic even if she was the one who was making the food. Who are you talking to lady?
2. When my brother lost about 35lbs and stopped being a fat fuck Chicken Lady goes to him one day, "You're so handsome now". We kept telling him that he shoulda slept with her for some free chicken.
I did always get the feeling like... when I went in there it's cuz I'm hungry, but then I'd go in there and interact with her and I'd be like... damn I thought I was hungry. This lady working in a chicken shack and she hungrier than anyone else coming in here.
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Or try beating your kids a la my parents. Worked out okay…. I still have ptsd looking at a wooden spoon or a clothes hanger
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