BIC_BAWS Adventure Thread

[Gerbs]

Originally Posted by Badhobz

Hey ! I’ve been chunky all my life and my life is great

They tell me you're a 6'4 god you get a pass

[Mikoyan]

Originally Posted by JDMDreams

^^ he gets Ferrari girls hitting on him too

Don't forget the interest from hajib wearing Rav4 girls.

[JDMDreams]

^ what's the story on that? I've always wonder what they were hiding, hajib on the streets and freak in the sheets

[bcrdukes]

Originally Posted by Mikoyan

Don't forget the interest from hajib wearing Rav4 girls.

"Baller!"

[BIC_BAWS]

Originally Posted by double0seven

Was recommended to read this thread but it’s too much reading. Not impressed. Someone please summarize bic baws dire situation LOL

Random 3:45am thought..

I wonder if 655 and the pressure of being the best there kinda fucked me up. The feeling of never being good enough, needing to be the best of the best, needing absolute perfection, and if you're not the best then you're shit and a waste of life. I wonder if all that as a HS kid, caused more issues than I actually know.. ..

I mean I wasn't complaining back then, but there's a chance it explains the extremely high desire to be perfect and the self worth issues as a result of it.

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[sonick]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

Random 3:45am thought..

I wonder if 655 and the pressure of being the best there kinda fucked me up. The feeling of never being good enough, needing to be the best of the best, needing absolute perfection, and if you're not the best then you're shit and a waste of life. I wonder if all that as a HS kid, caused more issues than I actually know.. ..

I mean I wasn't complaining back then, but there's a chance it explains the extremely high desire to be perfect and the self worth issues as a result of it.

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That feeling is not unique to you, I think that's pretty much the feelings most kids of first gen immigrants feel. It won't be helpful if you try to externalize the reason for the position you are in now.

[underscore]

Those developmental highschool years are hard enough on people to begin with. Adding all that on top is going to have a big impact during that time and it's going to be lasting.

[Traum]

I had a similar mindset back in HS, and I was doing quite well academically back then too, so it reinforced the the concept and the belief that I was among the smartest. Fast forward to university, and I was served a very big slice of humble pie in the big pond. Every subject was tough. Everyone around me seemed like they were so smart, so aware of what they want, so driven, and that just blew me away. And then when the first midterm came, I failed it miserably -- it was a mid 40's score out of 100, although to be fair, the median mark was right aroudn there too LOL~

I've wisened up a bit since then. But later on when I transferred to Ontario for school, it was another mind-blowing moment as most people around me seemed to be at least 2x as smart, and work 3x as hard as what I was used to see at SFU. That was really humbling.

Ironically, having heavily immersed myself in autox was yet another humbling and massive learning experience. It made me realize no matter how good I was, mistakes will always be made, and perfection is nearly impossible to achieve even though it always seems to be within reach. And then when you screw up -- there is no turning back, and all you can do is to keep looking forward, and make the best out of the rest of the journey. To me at least, that last point was a really valuable life lesson.

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

I wonder if 655 and the pressure of being the best there kinda fucked me up. The feeling of never being good enough, needing to be the best of the best, needing absolute perfection, and if you're not the best then you're shit and a waste of life. I wonder if all that as a HS kid, caused more issues than I actually know.. ..

I mean I wasn't complaining back then, but there's a chance it explains the extremely high desire to be perfect and the self worth issues as a result of it.

[JDMDreams]

If Donald Trump can be president x2, you're also a special snowflake

[badgerx3]

Unsure if this has already been said by another poster but I am offering my 2c.

Perfectionism and Imposter Syndrome correlate, and it seems you are experiencing it.

https://www.bil.ac.uk/about-us/news/...ster-syndrome/

Speaking from personal experience, I've gone through it and I believe everyone does, to a certain extent.

Another recommendation I would have is to seek a mentor. Doesn't matter if this person is someone you aspire to be or just someone who can be a sounding board for you. I found it helpful in my 20s to have someone like this as I believe it helped me become more introspective and self-aware. Feel free to DM me if you wanna chat.

[SkinnyPupp]

Originally Posted by sonick

That feeling is not unique to you, I think that's pretty much the feelings most kids of first gen immigrants feel. It won't be helpful if you try to externalize the reason for the position you are in now.

Yup. Trust me; having parents who gave zero shits about your education is no better at setting you up for an anxiety free young adulthood.

We get fucked either way, just from different angles

[BIC_BAWS]

I think dark0821 is tryna sell me into an underwater loan


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[Badhobz]

Yah you see! That’s the mark of a great salesman. Now he just needs a BUS ad instead of those bitch ass realtors, and he would be golden. I honestly don’t know why only realtors take out billboards and bus ads. None of them make me wanna buy a house. But if you put up darks face next to a Hyundai N, at least I’ll be like huh… that’s interesting.

[JDMDreams]

I heard salesmen at Hyundai be balling, buying rolexes and looking at rwd beetles. Maybe you should look into that.

[teggy604]

most sales people that work at a dealership always have expensive cars. I remember back in the day when I worked at a dealership. The new fancy cars all belong to sales dept. The old beaters always belong to techs. ahaha.

[underscore]

Originally Posted by Badhobz

Yah you see! That’s the mark of a great salesman. Now he just needs a BUS ad instead of those bitch ass realtors, and he would be golden. I honestly don’t know why only realtors take out billboards and bus ads. None of them make me wanna buy a house. But if you put up darks face next to a Hyundai N, at least I’ll be like huh… that’s interesting.

It's purely ego. A buddy of mine asked a bunch of realtors once if they actually get any clients from those billboards and they said no, they just like seeing their face up there lol.

[Badhobz]

Most of them looks stupid to me. Some of these guys / girls don’t have a face for billboards / buses. Didn’t anyone tell them that ? Especially on the bus where they occasionally have a wire / cable sticking out of their portrait.

[68style]

Originally Posted by underscore

It's purely ego. A buddy of mine asked a bunch of realtors once if they actually get any clients from those billboards and they said no, they just like seeing their face up there lol.

If you guys are ever in Calgary and go to the airport to leave, driving in this fuckin guy here Justin Havre he looks like a giant mini-me and he has like 10 billboards just on your way to the terminal including the entire side of a parkade like probably 100 feet high. It's insane.

I asked my realtor who the fuck is this clown and he said he doesn't even actually sell houses he just runs a pyramid scheme of realtors where he takes % from everything all the ones underneath him sell.

Yah this is your last view as you leave Calgary lol:

[JDMDreams]

They never look like their pictures or the pics were taken like 20 years ago after seeing them in person

[underscore]

I'm pretty sure I've seen that face walking through the airport, I figured anyone with that many ads has to be dodgy lol.

In Kelowna they're mostly billboards on the westside before you cross the bridge. Most are horror shows of too much makeup or wack plastic surgery.

[Gerbs]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

Random 3:45am thought..
if you're not the best then you're shit and a waste of life. I wonder if all that as a HS kid, caused more issues than I actually know.. ..

I mean I wasn't complaining back then, but there's a chance it explains the extremely high desire to be perfect and the self worth issues as a result of it.

That's how my mind operates for most things I do. If you're not the best then you're a POS and you're wasting life. I get really disappointed if I am not above average at things.

How I cope with that is I'll only put 110% effort and set goals that fall into the top 1-10% for things that I know I have a good chance to achieve. Only these things I'll prioritize and cause me to minor stress. It's nice to have goals to build onto everyday in a mundane day to day.

After finishing CPA / Buying own place by / Buying dream car by 24, I entered a period of no goals and no stress but after 6-12 months my mind didn't feel good not having anything to work towards so these goals make me feel more at ease than cause stress these days.

- Making money, try to get into top 1% 25-29 after tax $105K (https://www12.statcan.gc.ca/census-r.../index-en.html)
- Try to make it to 5.0+ Pickleball / 3.5+ Tennis
- Break 90 in Golf 2025
- Continue to grind Poker and make $50,000 over 1,000 hours (Already logged over 8,000 study/playtime over a decade)
- Hit FIRE by 40 while maximizing travel, hobbies, and entertainment via churning (Need to join US game)

Everything else I do like Vball, running, video games, I treat it like leisure activity like an arcade. I don't bash myself if I don't have the highest vertical, fastest pace, or challenger in league anymore.

[Gerbs]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

. The feeling of never being good enough, needing to be the best of the best, needing absolute perfection, and if you're not the best then you're shit and a waste of life.

https://youtube.com/shorts/ONoEZe8BL...EoNf0T4pk7MeAM

I saw this last night before bed and it really resonates with the conversations that I had where friends feel like they need to be similar to those around them (top 1-10%) and had crazy expectations and standards. Everybody wants what feels good, to be carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, be popular and well-respected and a total baller. But their actions never reflect the journey they must take to seek the reward. The video above suggests that you should seek to adjust your expectations and dreams to your current situation, potential outlook and what you're actually doing.

So for example, if you're making $60K, you can't look back in life and be emo that you're not making $150K+ like your peers. Nor should you set a goal of making $150K and finding a career you enjoy, in 3-5 years to match your friends. You should seek to become average first before you seek for perfection.

That means figure out how to hit $80K to be above average, given your education, experience, network, etc. and not stressing that you're not making $150K+ like all your peers. You might find out that the guys making $150K+ had to sacrifice through lots of hard work and delayed gratification that you don't want to do. I WANT MY GT4 and I WANT IT NOWWWWWWWW

Spoiler!

"You must teach yourself to want what you can get" is a lesson in the art of contentment and realistic ambition. In life, we often find ourselves longing for things that are beyond our reach—whether it’s a certain lifestyle, career achievement, or personal goal. This constant yearning can lead to frustration and dissatisfaction. Instead, the phrase suggests we should train ourselves to desire what is already attainable. It’s not about lowering standards or giving up on dreams, but about adjusting our expectations to match reality. By doing so, we can find joy and fulfillment in the things we are capable of achieving, rather than constantly striving for something out of reach. This mindset not only reduces stress but also opens our eyes to the value in what we already have, fostering a deeper sense of gratitude and peace

[JDMDreams]

I think you have to lay out your goals. Like ok great you own a house now. But what's next. When will you sell? So let's say it goes from $1.5 - $2m what's your cut? Is that enough for your next step? What are you gonna do with the cash? Buy a beetle? Move to Calgary? Would that get you out of your rut? Less taxes, cheaper gas?

[Gerbs]

Sell house and buy the 911!

[Traum]

I just had a look through Porsche Vancouver and Porsche Langley's CPO selection for 911, and it is wild that the cheapest 911 coupe they have available are asking for $187k and $194k, respectively.