Originally Posted by coupeziRL
i think we all use to be a nice guy, "once." then you realize eventually, and those who haven't realized may or may not in the future. most do, some don't.
it's not that nice guys finish last, so don't go ahead and be mean. it's that girls like men who can not be controlled. ie: the bad boy, the convict, the asshole, motorcycle rider, etc..
why? because not only can they not be controlled, they speak their mind/opinion. you know the cliche be yourself, they are themselves. however, for instance say your heart and mind is aching to tell the girl you're having dinner with that you love her. that you do not fucking say, especially on the first few dates. why? because you are no longer a challenge LIKE AT ALL 0% challenge, and she sees this and will either do two options. use you because she has you hooked and can control you (remember the bad boys can't be controlled) or run away because she's afraid of clinginess. therefore, golddigger or the one that broke your heart... pretty much. be yourself, speak your opinions. thats how a conversation gets going right? when it comes down to admitting your feelings no matter how much you want to, bite that fucking tongue. this creates self-control, you need self-control. it leaves a girl guessing, leaves her wanting more. which is the objective isn't it?
this could be an easy or hard process depending on you and the type of person that you are. but, if you want that girl to be with you in the long run the plan is set out right infront of, and the only way for her to lose interest in you is by your own actions. if you're a challenge enough to her, she won't need someone better. you're already great. it's the moment you fuck up, the relationship fucks up. so you keep calling her, texting her, not giving her her space is the consequence of your own actions. that is why she left you or is still using you.
a nice guy would mope and continue to fight for whats "right" when everything has gone wrong (because of him and his actions). thinking maybe she is "the one" while a smart guy is already off to find a new broad.
that's my opinion about the nice guy.
ps: loveydovey movies like step up, hitch, all that romance is bullshit. don't let hollywood brainwash you. Spread is pretty good movie though. learn to distinguish fake and reality, flowers and gifts don't work either, that's begging which isn't a challenge.
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