Wasted a friday night.. shouldnt've never napped earlier, insomnia is getting the best out of me now.
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Originally Posted by Alpine50
As for the big response that was left your saying don't tell the girl you love her which I totally understand but if you don't say anything won't she just eventually leave and find somebody else? That she knows that the guy likes her cuz he said so (don't mean he said I love you)
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Do you completely understand?
Let me explain, but first I'll have to get you on the same level. Read my post with an open-mind, if you disagree. Fair enough.
1. Action speak louder than words.
2. Equality does not exist in a relationship.
3. A man
picks his woman, a woman
chooses whether to stay.
If you don't say the 3 words, it creates challenge as I stated before. Which is excellent, this is what you need to keep a healthy long-term relationship. If you want short-term, tell her you love her to get into her pants, manipulate her mind. Go nuts. I'm talking long-term here though. You don't need to drop the 3 words to get her to stay with you. That's a nice guys' mentality, it'll get you no where. Why? Because, the hotter the chick the harder it is to keep your mouth shut. You'll blow your chances like the last 10 guys who asked her out before you.
This is where action speak louder than words, fact. Again, you tell me you understand. Do you really? If you don't say anything, perhaps she may leave you. Anything is possible. It would be best if she left you anyways, leaving your significant other because they won't drop the 3 words sounds completely 100% rational to me!
By the tone of your post, you seem to acknowledge that challenge is key. Good.
"Which I totally understand but if you don't say anything won't she just eventually leave and find somebody else?"
So she leaves you for someone else that will say "I love you" before you, where's the challenge? There isn't, and it'll become dull. You don't know when the last 10 guys said that to her. If you ask her about her past relationships, you may appear insecure. Plus, who cares? It's the past, why bring them up anyways. It should be about YOU and HER and the FUTURE.
Those other guys could have said "I love you" on first date, 10th date, 100th date. You don't know, but you don't want to appear like all the other chumps, you want to stand out. This is why I recommend you let her say it first. Therefore, you know where her interest level is towards you because really yours doesn't matter.
The girl chooses whether to stay in a relationship with you, all you did was ask for her number because you thought she was attractive. Until she cheats, lies, whatever then yes leave her. For whatever else reason though, it's almost always girls leaving the guy due to his mistaken actions.
This may sound like a some bullshit game I'm playing here, but trust me it's not. It sounds like bullshit games because there's instructions you've gotta follow, most can't follow them. Why do men have to follow these? Because equality in relationships is nonexist, like Dave Chapelle said "chivalry is dead and women killed it."
"Chivalry got killed by the female women in magazines giving too much advice about men to other women, and they don't know wtf they're talking about. '100 ways to please your man' by some lady, there's no 100 ways. There's just 4 ways. Suck on his dick, play with his balls, make him a sandwich and don't talk so much. Leaves us happy. Then, the magazine tricks the woman and picks on the females self-esteem, makes her think they're fatter, uglier, and they feel their clothes aren't good enough. Then the magazine has females forgetting how beautiful they actually are, then your girl forgets how beautiful she actually is. Then we all suffer. The magazines got females thinking they're giving it in too easy."
The man has to be the man in a relationship, he has to have backbone and confidence. Makes sense right? A woman marries a man expecting him to change, he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting her not to change, but she eventually does. BACKBONE, happy marriage.
But back to your post Alpine50, if you don't say it she will not necessarily leave. It creates mystery. She wants more, she wants to know where things are going.
ALL women out there consider it a favour, this shit ain't easy for us guys especially if you're good looking. If she wonders and asks then it's obvious she's interested. Leave them wanting more! Just remember, it's the little things (opening a door for her) that count too. Action speak louder than words, before a marriage is official the two exchange vows. I love you, vice versa. Tell me, why is divorce rate skyrocket up to +50%?
Just because you get the girl of your dreams, it doesn't mean you can drop everything. Challenge, confidence, self-control is what got you the girl, maintain it if you wish to keep her!
my bad if it sounds like i'm picking on you A50, just trying to express my point across. - formerly, coupez