[miss_crayon]

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The question I have is kind of like the insecurity question that _Hotsauce_ posted a while ago. But it's a bit different and was wondering if you guys could help me figure some stuff out, it'd be really awesome if you could.

Here goes:

I've been with my girlfriend for a good 2 years and a bit now. Everything is really great, we rarely fight(the whole yelling thing resulting in no talking for a few days (i don't even think we have before)) but we do have our disagreements/arguments from time to time. We're both in University and this has been our first serious relationship outside of high school. I got to UBC and she goes to SFU, we're kind of miles apart but we make do. We see each other maybe 2-3times a week which isn't really the problem. Even though we see each other a lot (for me thats a lot considering we're both doing a full course load), nothings wrong with our relationship, we're truly in love, why do I feel like I might lose her?

It's just been a thought in my head, she's kind of active at some clubs up there and they have events and such. Why do I feel like she's eventually going to meet someone better than me and then just leave me for him? I've brought this up with her before(we're really open) but the answer she gives me is kind of iffy. She tells me "what ever happens happens, if someone comes, then w.e". I feel like when she tells me this, if someone she thinks is "better" for her than me, she'll just leave me without even considering our relationship. Doesn't she ultimately have the choice? Like if someone was hitting on her or something trying to get with her, couldn't she just say she wasn't interested, no matter how much better she thinks she will be or something with him. I don't really know if I'm thinking straight though. Same thing goes with the whole "cheating" thing. I know for sure, if I was in the situation, I wouldn't even hint to a girl that I was remotely interested in her seeing as I already have a gf, I don't care if you think you're "better" than her, she's my gf and nothing will get in the way of us. Again, I'm not really sure if this even makes sense :S.

I'm also kind of skeptic of the fact that she goes to so many parties now compared to before. We weren't really the type to go party it up, we would go to parties but we wouldn't be all crazy. Now she's like that, she'll just drink and drink and then go crazy. I mean I trust her to make the right decisions, it's just I don't trust Mr. Smirnoff or any of his pals, same with the guys at the parties. We're both virgins btw. She said if something we're to happen if she was intoxicated, it'd be just that, it wouldn't mean anything. It seems like if she has sex (which i doubt she would, but there is still a high chance if she's wasted), she'll just shrug it off and be like "i didn't know what i was doing, i don't even remember". Which is total BS to me, she even went as far as saying that if I were to do that drunk, she'd be ok with it. Again i think it's total BS. We haven't been in the situation so we both don't really know.

Maybe I'm thinking like this cause I'm too clingy? Back in highschool when we were just starting to see each other it was just us 2 all the time. If we'd go out, we'd be with each other no matter what. Maybe cause I think our relationship is one of those I'm a 5 she's an 11 kind of thing. I'm honestly just average and if you ever see me walking with my girl you'd probably be like "woah how'd he end up with her?". I do my best to keep her happy all the time and we always have a good time with each other, and our "spark" is still there. But again, why do I feel like there's still a good chance that someone will win her over and she'll just dump me? I honestly think she's the one as well (plays video games, amazing good looks, interested in my hobbies, smart, funny, the whole package!), but as long as she's going to these parties/clubbing and all that stuff, I still feel it .

Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated.