if you're shy, you have to break out of your little shell. talk to fat chicks, ugly chicks, homeless people, your friends, just talk to as much people as possible. when you gain more confidence then talk to girls that are 5/10 6/10 on looks and work your way up, you don't have to a big discussion. small talk works
consider talking to people like msn i'm sure you're good with that right, you're only stating your opinion, that's how conversations get started. right? just don't talk to people and say "el oh el" it's not completely like msn, though i know people who do say "laugh out loud" when they're drunk. anyways small convos like:
"what's up"
"hey hows it going"
"what are you up to tonight"
ending it:
"have a good one"
"take it easy"
"yeah man, see ya around"
hard? no.
the more you talk to people the easier it becomes, i use to wake up in the morning and game till night. stayed at home on weekends. go to sleep and wake up the next day only to do the same thing again. i wore rock & republic ed hardy because i lacked confidence.
most vancouver kids have to much ego to admit this, me i've realized my mistake and willing to admit it, only to remind myself to never steep down that low again. through my
observation they're the ones that are close minded and judge people like no tomorrow. you don't want to be friends with uptight people anyways, don't paint all of them with the same brush though.
which is why i can put on a nice pair of jeans and a fitted dress shirt and steal there girlfriends from them.
because my conversation skills are far superior than theirs. i'll even wear sweatpants and a roots hoody, and i can still get a girls number. if you ask most girls, they laugh at the people decked out in expensive clothing. complete misconception growing up in vancouver thinking the better the clothes the better your chances, fuck that.
anyways, i decided to change my priority in life. fuck the clothes and online games, i wanted the girls. so i changed myself, got classier clothing and stood out. made conversation with everyone i could, whether it's a homeless person(some of them have interesting stories). the reason i keep stating homeless is because i don't want you to be a judgemental person. that;s a negative factor to have. jsut talk to anyone you encounter, don't judge people until you know them. they could be nicer and more fun then that little broad of yours. you don't know, because you haven;t experienced.
don't expect to change overnight though, that's not going to happen and i'll let you know that now. it'll take months maybe a couple years. but, start with small talk then you will eventually build up into interesting conversations. if you have an in depth conversation with a girl you could get her to fall for you, if you gain social skills and make a girl laugh out loud in public. then you definately have her.
anyways, as i was saying i was that nerd that gamed and stayed at home.
NO ONE IS GOING TO CHANGE YOU, YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF. IF YOU WANT TO MAKE IT BIG IN LIFE, YOU'VE GOT TO DEPEND ON YOURSELF NOT ON OTHERS. it was hard for me to make that change, probably why i have so much pride in myself now.
i still recommend you stay with this girl, let her break your heart. you'll realize not all girls are what they appear to be. the cutest humble girl on the street could be the freakest girl ever in bed or an absolute cheater.
small steps buddy boy, if you put your mind to it. it takes a lot more effort than just reading pal requires doing.
anyways, this isn't completely irrelevant to your thread. stay with your girl, but continue to change yourself then meet more girls, guys, anyone. if you stay with your girl, fine, but at least you've met more people. i'm almost sure, you'll give her her space throughout this transformation or who knows you might meet someone better. but, at the end of it all i guarantee you will definately not be afraid to lose her.
oh, and workout it makes you look better and increases testorerone. win win.