If anything escalates, I would say make a report with the Police. As much as that may seem "much" it wouldn't hurt. Take what he said as a threat.
As with above, it seems as the gf may not be telling you something, to spare feeling and the relationship, which is normal. But not getting involved, sort of have to when you can't go about not thinking if this ex will go hulk on your car.
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