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Originally Posted by gars
Girls also want stability. They want to know that the guy is striving somewhere. I don't think many people expect a guy in their 20s to have a house (especially not in Vancouver), but if that's not a goal that you're striving towards, then I know a lot of girls get turned off of that. Of course, I don't know what the situation is like with these guys - but I know girls who really just want to settle down and pop them out. And if there is no stability, then they want someone who can provide stability.
It's hard to label women as gold diggers...
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You know it's not always the money or even the ability to provide for the woman in a financial sense (in almost all relationships these days women need to and expect to bring in nearly as much if not as much as their hubbies). Often it's that people get stagnant. They're stuck in a place in their life and a woman at 30 is frankly a lot different then a guy at 30. Her bio clock's going BING BING BING she wants to nest, she wants to settle down and she doesn't want a guy who's going to be a second child when she does. And lets face it, a lot of guys in their early 30s think they're men but they're still playing around like boys (and often heavily in denial about it).
I know from the guys side it seems like it's about one thing but ultimately it's not. And I don't think you can assume the girl has always got an alternative lined up, though you better bet she's actively looking for one once that baby clock's started chiming.
Though I note: I don't think renting is a deal breaker by any stretch. It's unreasonable to expect anyone to own property with less then two incomes in this bloody city.