[Mr.HappySilp]

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yeah exactly. in my example above of my friend... she doesn't feel she should have to sacrifice and by sacrifice she means lose 30 min sleep, have to walk to the bus stop, get crammed like sardines on the bus. of course it's not an ideal situation but that's where the sacrifice comes in. (bby to van)

she can't even save for a vacation unless she knows it will happen within a small time frame, like "we'll go in the spring" or "winter". saying "sometime next year" is too vague for her. i try to convince her that she could put the vacation money towards her debt but that doesn't work. convincing her to save for rrsp is so far fetched. (we are nearing 30)

someone above mentioned finding someone who will be willing to compromise. i know couples who try but it doesn't work. it's a CONSTANT source of arguments. if the person was genuinely willing to compromise that's great but i think 99% of the time it will fail. from what i've observed, the way a person manages their finances is their way of life. it's very difficult to change somebody's mindset. sure everybody knows saving money is a good thing, but that's as far as it goes for a lot of people.

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when you're dating somebody, you can easily observe how they spend money. if you are both big spenders, great. if you are both savers, great. but if one is a big spender and one is a saver, think about how you will try to convince the other to compromise to meet you in the middle, or maybe even meet more on the saving side of things. think about how you would feel if you were with your gf/bf/wife/husband, broke and could not afford your way of life anymore... no cell phone, no driving, no eating out, no shopping... will you still be happy? will you be happy without buying "stuff"? think of the stress levels. the constant arguing with your SO.

if i met somebody who had credit card debt... it would be a serious turn off. i see it as being irresponsible. (assuming 99% of credit card debt is for unnecessary things)

p.s. don't settle for someone just cuz you're lonely.

I am a saver mind lol. Too cheap to even buy breakfast even when I am hungry but then if I had a gf I would be fine spending all kinds of money on her >< which is bad.