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Originally Posted by haymura
let me boost your self-esteem then my friend.
steven hawking was paralyzed from ground up but what did he become? a great mutha effin scientist, philosopher, astronomer, etc!
Chris Gardner (from the movie pursuit of happyness) had nothing! no income, a child to support, no home, no food but he made one of the biggest stock broker firms in US.
Terry Fox.... need i say more...
my advice for you is to rest that injury of yours while getting treatments. you mentioned that before it could heal you started playing sports and physically demanding activities again. Not trying to lecture you or anything but it is your own fault that your back is in its worth state. take a month or two to actually rest and let it heal while you are trying to look for a job. With my experience, its not easy finding a job now so it might take awhile anyways to find one so its more of a win-win situation for you as time is on your side. Dont get discouraged just because you think everything seems hopeless. Remember, "only WE limit ourselves to what we can do" you built the wall up that prevents you from climbing to the other side but what you built, you can also destroy.
keep your head up, focus on what is in front of you and not what is behind you (no pun unintended). best of luck to you!
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The thing is, injuries (especially ones as bad as mine) can't be pushed beyond it's limits. I know that in sports, if your hurt, keep pushing though it and play, if you're tired, push through it and keep studying, etc. But if you push an injury you'll just end up making it worse and end up exactly where I am. Often when doing my rehab exercises at physio, I'm always afraid of doing TOO MUCH because the thing about my body is that I always feel like I can keep going with the exercises. It never gives me an indication when I've reached the limits. It's never until the next morning that I feel the pain.
So it's a tough situation having to balance my mind and body. I live in constant awareness and paranoia about my body. Even when drunk.
Hell even in my dreams my back is bad. I had a dream of being at a hockey rink but I don't step on the ice to play because of my bad back.
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Originally Posted by vafanculo
I'm not gonna comment on your physical injuries because I haven't been in your shoes, and I imagine from reading your post that you went through alot with your backpain. You can use determination as one of your 'skills' or 'assets' in an interview.
Job wise...
Don't sweat it. I know people who haven't worked 4 jobs their whole lives. And unless it's a trade, no one remembers anything they learn in school. School is basically a good way to show employers you are knowledgable on the subject, and had the drive to finish. The real things you will carry away with you the rest of your life will be picked up with work experience.
Land an entry level job in accounting, and start working. Before you know it, your previous 4 jobs will be irrelevant (I think so, don't think you've mentioned what they were), and you can use the current job to move on up the ladder.
Lastly, as mentioned, the job market is hard right now, took me 4 months to find a job. I got discouraged, felt like crap, but you gotta remember for every position you are applying for, 500 other people are aswell. Keep at it and don't take it personal.
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The funny thing is, my previous 4 jobs ARE irrelevant! I don't see them as anything good that I could bring forward to accounting...Maybe when I was an English teacher for international students, that's the only thing I think could look good on a resume.
Also, one of my major concerns is references. I either didn't work a job long enough to build a very lasting relationship with my employers or they got fired/quit. So do you have any advice on what to do about this part of the job hunt?
You're right about using my back pain as a strength during an interview. I was actually hoping I'd get better and use the entire story of how I never gave up and eventually recovered but looks like I won't be able to.
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Originally Posted by kknater
Don't be discouraged by something like "the economy". People are always moving in and out of jobs so theres room for you to slip in.
I would say if you arn't confident with interview skills. Practise them! Find a friend and role play. Record yourself so you can see where you can improve.
Second, improve on your resume and cover letter skills. Did you ever take co-op in SFU? Its okay if you didn't. PM me and I'll send you some resources.
Lastly, don't consider your situation a disadvantage. Its a great story you can put on your cover letter or share with your employer. "even thru great hardships, I am able to work thru them" One of the best pieces of advice I ever got from co-op office was to turn every weakness your strength.
Good Luck!
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Thanks for the tips. No I didn't do co-op in SFU which I regret. I'll for sure PM for those resources thanks!
And like I mentioned to the previous poster, I did plan on using my back problems as a strength but had hoped it would have heeled before I did.
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Originally Posted by Neoxphuse
Physiotherapy is your best bet for healing. Avoid all the massaging/chiropracter stuff. It's all temporary, and chiropracters can be worse in some circumstances.
I would recommend you change where you are doing your physio if you haven't done so and try another place. A mix of physio exercise/massage/cold and hot therapy, etc. will help. In the long run, it takes a very long time, but it's well worth it.
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Finding a good physio is hard. I've been to 3 in my life and found 2 to be reliable, despite the lack of results I do believe they are 2 of the best that you can find here in Vancouver. I was recommended to a world-renowned physiotherapist that resides in Abbotsford but I never gotten around to seeing him as I have given my faith in my current physio. Shit I hope I can still find his contact somewhere.
I agree with you, I have the most faith in physiotherapy than anything else. Gotta rehab and strengthen that core.
My condition does require some chiropractics when it's really bad.
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my only suggestion to you is that if you start feeling a little bit better, don't DO more yet. with a lot of injuries, people think "i feel better" and start going back to their regular routine when the injury isn't exactly healed... it just doesn't hurt.
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Ya that's how I got to where I am now...
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Originally Posted by Szeto
sorry to hear what you have been through...
have you considered becoming a financial planner? you probably need to take couple courses to get your certificate but that's one of the options that you might want to look into.
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I went to BCIT and did Financial Management but went the accounting route rather than the finance route. I lack confidence in my work-related interactive skills.
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Originally Posted by !SG
also consider seeing a career councillor.
you will most likely take a bunch of questionaires, just to see where you stand and where u sit when it comes to the right job for you.
as for your back, possibly look at different doctors in the same profession, one physiotherapist might not be as affective as another.
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Ya I've already seen soooooooooooo many doctors/physicians. It's frustrating having to explain the same long ass story over and over again.
There is one more physiotherapist I was recommended to that I may try sometime in the near future but he's allllll the way in Abbotsford.
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Thanks for the PM and video dude!
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You've been down a tough road man, I've been in physio for years myself and haven't been able to work for a year as I recover from surgery after surgery. My injuries aren't to the extent of yours, but I'm usually unable to walk or stand for more than fifteen minutes so I certainly understand what your going through. Often a trip to physio is the highlight of my week, despite the pain, being in such caring hands can be a tremendous relief.
The times I feel the worst about my situation are when I worry about not being able to pull my life out of what I perceive as a downturn. Sometimes I'm afraid of how difficult it will be for me to find work again because of my limitations, especially considering how long I've been out of the workforce for. Other times I feel down, because I'm not able to go out and have fun with my friends like I used to, but you just need to pull yourself up and never let it get you down.
I always remind myself that my pain can't conquer me, that even if my body isn't what it used to be my brain is still fine. Try taking a class at school to get yourself back into thinking mode, it would look great on a resume and I'm sure you would enjoy it.
Good luck to you, don't give up and find confidence in yourself!
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Sorry to hear that you are suffering too dude. I never like to hear that. Whenever someone tells me they are injured I always yell at them to take good care of it before doing anything. I just say "do you want to end up like me?" and that usually works haha.
May I ask what part of your body you got surgery on?
When you say you can't stand/walk for more than 15min. What happens exacty? Do you just feel pain or discomfort at that very moment? Does it linger on and feel worse the next day and takes a few days for it to completely dissipate?
Sorry, I ask because for me, I usually don't feel any pain or anything until maybe an hour later where the pain would slowly start to sink in and feel worse and worse. Then the next day it'd feel like crap and take like 3 days until it's back to neutral. This makes doing my rehabbing exercises difficult as I never know what my limits are since I don't feel any pain or anything right away. It's frustrating.
Where do you go for physio? I always wonder if people go to the same one as me since this guy has like a billion patients. At any given point during the day, he has like 10-15 patients there.
Reading your post sounds a lot like me. I always have to turn down my friends when they go out to do certain things. The only things I agree to doing is eating somewhere or watching a movie or anything where we just sit. No clubs, no sports, no trips to the States, no shopping.
Whenever I need to buy something at the grocery store or something, I'm always dreading it because you never know how long you'll have to stand/walk for. Gotta spend time find the stuff you need and then pray the lineups aren't long or you're screwed.
My friend got free tix to the Canucks game from work this Wednesday and I was close to turning him down. Skytrains are no longer good for me as they are packed like hell and I most likely won't get a seat. And the walk and line up at the gate might be just long enough to make it bad on my back.
I'm planning on driving and paying whatever ridiculous parking fee there is so I can limit my walking distance.
Does anyone know where to park near Rogers Arena? I assume it's that big parking lot right outside it. Does anyone know what time the parking lot gets packed and how much it is?
These are the battles I face whenever I go out. Something as simple as going to a Canucks games requires so much thought and planning. And often, things don't go according to plan and I somehow end up hurting my back still. Blah.
Thank you all for your comments they are very helpful. I felt apprehensive about posting here on RS at first as we all know how things are here haha. But I am grateful that you were all helpful and kind about it as it is a very sensitive issue for me. I'll do my best to keep positive and become a contributing factor to society.
If anyone has anymore tips on work-related stuff please do feel free to leave them as I am sad to say, interviews, resumes/cover letters, anything related to the workforce makes me nervous and drops my confidence level way down.
So any tip at all, no matter how small or odd or SPECIFIC it is, would go a long way. Especially for interviews haha. Ok I'm done.